Personal Effectiveness Skills Induction Unit 2 2 2

Personal Effectiveness Skills Induction Unit 2 - 2. 2 a

Today’s Session v We will look at the way we think about everyday events. v We will look at the impact of self-talk. v We will look at optimism v pessimism and changing your mind set.

You feel the way you think! Rational Thoughts Jake tells himself that he could have done better, but did not do enough revision. Activating Event Jake gets a low mark in his mock exam. Beliefs (about A) Irrational Thoughts Jake tells himself that he should have done well, but this failure means he will now fail all his final exams. Desirable Emotions Jake feels let down with his efforts. Desirable Behaviour Jake decides to put more effort into his revision. Consequences (of B) Undesirable Behaviour Jake decides to leave college. Undesirable Emotions Jake feels that he must be awful at his subjects.

The ABC model v In small groups you are going to be given a scenario card. v Your task is to consider the irrational and rational thoughts and behaviours that an individual might experience in that situation.

Self-talk (What you say to yourself) Stimulates Reinforces Real Performance (How you behave naturally) Self-image (How you ‘know’ you are) Controls

Unhelpful self-talk v Dramatise – blow things out of proportion v Generalise – assume it’s always the case v Personalise – blame yourself all the time v Criticise – give yourself (or others) a hard time

Ways to improve your self-talk v If you make mistakes say ‘That’s not like v v me. The next time I will …’ Instead of saying ‘I can’t’ say ‘I’m learning to …’ Accept compliments with ‘Thanks’. Internally dwell on your successes rather than your failures. See ourselves as others see us.

Envelope task v Split into groups of 4/5. v Write your name on an envelope. v Each of you in the group needs to write a positive characteristic for each member of the group on a separate card. v Place the characteristic in the appropriate envelope.

Envelope task v How easy was it to find your envelope? v Do you agree with what people have written about you? v Does this match the way you see yourself? v How can you use this to increase your positive self-talk?

Optimism v Pessimism A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. –Winston Churchill Between the optimist and the pessimist, the difference is droll, the optimist sees the doughnut and the pessimist sees the hole. -Oscar Wilde, Playwright, author Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Gaining the right Mind-set v Another way of considering optimism & pessimism is to consider two different types of mind-set. v The view you adopt for yourself can really affect the way you lead your life. You have the power to determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value.

Which mind-set are you? v Answer these questions about intelligence. Read each statement and decide whether you mostly agree with it or disagree with it. v Your intelligence is something very basic about you that you can't change very much. v You can learn new things, but you can't really change how intelligent you are. v No matter how much intelligence you have, you can always change it quite a bit. v You can always substantially change how intelligent you are.

Which mind-set are you? v Look at these statements about personality v v and character and decide whether you mostly agreed on mostly disagree with each one. You are a certain kind of person, and there is not much that can be done to really change that. No matter what kind of person you are, you can always change substantially. You can do things differently, but the important parts of who you are can't really be changed. You can always change basic things about the kind of person you are.

Mind-sets v In a fixed mind-set, people believe their basic qualities, like their intelligence or talent, are simply fixed traits. They also believe that talent alone creates success —without effort. v In a growth mind set, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point.

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