PARENTING IN THE DIGITAL AGE THE BAD THE

PARENTING IN THE DIGITAL AGE THE BAD, THE UGLY & THE GOOD TED DORU POPE LOGOS BIBLE CHURCH, SEATTLE

• BOOKS AND RESOURCES • TONY REINKE – 12 WAYS YOUR PHONE IS CHANGING YOU • BROOKE STRICKLAND – HOOKED ON GAMES • RODNEY D. CAMBRIDGE – HOW NOT TO USE YOUR SMARTPHONE DIGITAL AGE RESOURC ES • NICHOLAS CARR – WHAT THE INTERNET IS DOING TO YOUR BRAIN • LARRY ROSEN – THE DISTRACTED MIND • US NATIONAL LIBRARY OF MEDICINE • NATIONAL INSTITUTE OF HEALTH • PERSONAL OBSERVATION AND THOUGHTS

• BEST FRIENDS AND WORST ENEMIES AT THE SAME TIME • LIKE HAVING A BEAR, OR A LION, OR A PYTHON AS A HOUSE PET. BEST FRIENDS AND WORST ENEMIES • WE’RE EATING, SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY. • WE CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT IT. • WE CHECK OUR PHONE EVERY 3 MINUTES • IT’S THE FIRST THING WE DO WHEN WE WAKE UP • IT’S THE LAST THING WE DO BEFORE WE GO TO BED • IT GOES WITH US EVERYWHERE!

AUG 2017 DAN BRANDON KILLED BY HIS PYTHON

2009 KELLY ANN WALTZ KILLED BY HER BEAR

2004, AL ABELL KILLED BY HIS PET SIMBA

BETHANY LYNN STEPHENS EATEN BY HER PIT BULLS 2017

• TELEVISION AND CONSEQUENCES • VIOLENCE A. THE BAD AND THE UGLY: THE SCREEN & GAMING • OBESITY • SEXUALITY • ALCOHOL AND SMOKING • ADVERTISING • MUSIC • VIDEO GAMES AND GAMING

• 1. ESCAPE FROM REALITY • 2. SATISFYING CURIOSITY • 3. PROVIDING A SENSE OF PURPOSE IN LIFE • 4. HEIGHTENING A SENSE OF INVINCIBILITY • 5. FEEDING THE EGO • 6. OFFERING COMPANIONSHIP WHAT DO VIDEO GAMES DO TO US? • 7. SATISFYING THE NEED FOR CHALLENGES • 8. GRATIFYING THE DESIRE TO BE A LEADER • 9. FULFILLING SEXUAL FANTASIES • 10. MEETING THE NEED FOR LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

A. THE GOOD: OLGANON. OR G (ON-LINE GAMERS ANONYMOUS) TELLS (SOME) OF THE SIGNS OF ADDICTION • 1. UNABLE TO ESTIMATE TIME SPENT GAMING • 2. UNABLE TO CONTROL GAMING FOR AN EXTENDED PERIOD OF TIME • 3. SENSE OF EUPHORIA WHILE PLAYING • 4. NEGLECTING FAMILY AND FRIENDS • 5. RESTLESS, IRRITABLE OR DISCONTENT WHEN NOT GAMING • 6. EXPERIENCE PROBLEMS WITH SCHOOL OR JOB PERFORMANCE • 7. CHANGE IN SLEEP PATTERNS • 8. HEALTH ISSUE: CARPAL TUNNEL SYNDROME, EYESTRAIN, WEIGHT CHANGE, BACKACE, ETC • 9. OBSESSION ABOUT ACTING OUT SEXUAL FANTASIES THROUGH THE INTERNET

• 1. PERSON LIVES IN YOUR HOUSE, YOU ESTABLISH THE RULES • 2. CANCEL INTERNET. MANY GAMES ARE FREE BECAUSE THEY GENERATE INCOME FROM ADVERTISEMENT • 3. REMOVE COMPUTER FROM PERSON’S ROOM. PLACE THE COMPUTER IN PUBLIC AREA. LOCK DOWN COMPUTER WITH PASSWORD A. BREAKING THE HABIT • 4. GIVE THE PERSON A HIGHER PURPOSE. SUGGEST/HELP WITH HOBBIES, INTEREST, CHURCH ACTIVITIES, ETC • 5. CONNECT THEM WITH GOD, SMALL GROUPS, OTHER PERSONS OF THE SAME AGE TO OFFER SUPPORT

• 6. IF YOU SUSPECT MENTAL ILLNESS OR DEPRESSION SEEK MEDICAL HELP A. BREAKING THE HABIT CONTINUED • 7. THE BEST WAY TO FIGHT VIDEO GAME ADDICTION IS PREVENTION. WE MUST BE EDUCATED ABOUT THE DANGERS OF EXCESSIVE VIDEO GAME PLAY. ALLOWING CHILDREN TO PLAY AT YOUNG AGES AND FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME REINFORCES ADDICTIVE BEHAVIORS. AS A SOCIETY, WE MUST STOP USING VIDEO GAMES AND THE INTERNET AS DIGITAL PACIFIERS; WE NEED TO EDUCATE CHILDREN AND ADULTS ABOUT THE DANGERS OF VIDEO GAME ADDICTION AND PROMOTE RESPONSIBLE USE.

• MODIFIES CREATION B. THE BAD & THE UGLY: TECHNOLOGY SMARTPHONE, FB, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, ETC • PUSHES BACK THE RESULTS OF THE FALL • ESTABLISHES HUMAN POWER • HELPS EDIFY THE SOUL • HELPS HUMAN BODY • PROMOTES HUMAN AUTONOMY • STILL, GOD GOVERNS HUMAN TECHNOLOGY

• ADDICTED TO DISTRACTIONS • CRAVING FOR IMMEDIATE APPROVAL WHY AND WHAT IT DOES TO US: TECHNOLOGY FB, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, ETC • THE COMFORT OF ONLINE FRIENDS • WE LOSE OUR LITERACY, DEBATING SKILLS, CRITICAL THINKING • WE GET COMFORTABLE IN SECRET SINS

B. THE GOOD: BREAKING THESE HABITS • 1. KEEP A SCHEDULE OF HOW OFTEN YOU CHECK YOUR PHONE (START WITH ONCE EVERY 15 MINS) • 2. TELL YOUR CONNECTION THAT YOU’LL RESPOND ONLY ONCE IN A WHILE, SO THEY DON’T PUSH YOU • 3. TURN OFF AS MANY NOTIFICATIONS AS POSSIBLE. FB, INSTAGRAM, WEATHER, ETC • DON’T LOOK AT THE PHONE IF YOU’RE HAVING A MEAL, ARE PRAYING, READING, IN CHURCH • 4. REMOVE FROM “HOME” SCREEN FB, EMAIL, WEATHER, INSTAGRAM. • TURN THE SCREEN TO GRAYSCALE. THE PHONE IS LESS DESIRABLE TO LOOK AT • 5. WHEN GOING TO SLEEP, PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY FROM YOUR BED • 6. STAY ACCOUNTABLE. APPS THAT TRACK YOUR SMARTPHONE HABITS. QUALITY TIME, MOMENT, FLIPD, • 7. ESTABLISH “NO PHONE” ZONES • 8. ASK GOD’S HELP