Parenting Adult Children Encouragement Inc July 2018 Parenting

Parenting Adult Children Encouragement Inc. July 2018

Parenting Adult Children Table Talk Describe each of your children in one word…. Why that word? What other word did you think of?

Parenting Adult Children?

‘The Mindset List for the Class of 2015’ -Beloit (WI) College 1. There has always been an Internet ramp onto the information highway. 2. States and Velcro parents have always been requiring that they wear their bike helmets. 3. There have nearly always been at least two women on the Supreme Court, and women have always commanded U. S. Navy ships. 4. “Don’t touch that dial!”…. what dial? 5. American tax forms have always been available in Spanish.

‘The Mindset List for the Class of 2015’ -Beloit (WI) College 6. Amazon has never been just a river in South America. 7. Refer to LBJ, and they might assume you're talking about Le. Bron James. 8. Jimmy Carter has always been a smiling elderly man who shows up on TV to promote fair elections and disaster relief. 9. Arnold Palmer has always been a drink. 10. Music has always been available via free downloads.

‘The Mindset List for the Class of 2015’ -Beloit (WI) College 11. Electric cars have always been humming in relative silence on the road. 12. They’ve always wanted to be like Shaq or Kobe: Michael Who? 13. They won’t go near a retailer that lacks a website. 14. Andy Warhol is a museum in Pittsburgh. 15. Mc. Donalds coffee has always been just a little too hot to handle.

Parenting Adult Children • Overview and understanding our children • Parenting cross culturally – Juri and Karen Ammari – July 8 th • View from the front lines – Scott Belon – July 15 th • When it hits home – Keith and Carrie Bergen – July 22 nd • Love American Style (Our children and their relationships) – Don and Alex Fleky – July 28 th

Parenting Adult? Children Moving from the parents home Leaving school for the final time Getting a full time job Reaching economic self sufficiency Loss of virginity Getting married Having children Establishing an independent household --- Ben Sasse

Parenting? Adult Children Psalm 139 (ESV) Search Me, O God, and Know My Heart 139 O LORD, you have searched me and known me! 2 You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. 3 You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. 4 Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O LORD, you know it altogether….

Parenting? Adult Children Psalm 139 (ESV) 139 … 13 For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. 14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.

Parenting? Adult Children Control Influence

Firmness Parenting? Adult Children Firmness Warmth

IV Authoritarian Firmness Parenting? Adult Children I Kind Warmth III Absent Indulgent II

In the Australian outback, cattle are kept on a ranch by either building a fence around the perimeter, or by building a well in the center. The first approach operates on exclusion, are the cattle in or are they out? The second works on attraction. Are cattle heading toward the well or away? The first is bounded, the second centered. -Barry Corey

IV Exploiting Authority God’s model for Parenting Adult Children I Flourishing Vulnerability III Withdrawing Suffering II

Questions for reflection 1. 2. 3. 4. Are you trusting in God to work in your child's life? Do you recognize the masterpiece that they are? How can you build more wells and fewer fences? Remember that we are also God’s ADULT children – What is He doing in you?