Parent Version STOP BULLYING NOW Scott Foli Principal

Parent Version STOP BULLYING NOW! Scott Foli, Principal Lupin Hill Elementary School ● The attached information was derived from the findings of Helen Phillips Anti-Bullying Team and materials from the STOP BULLYING NOW website. ● Slides have been amended to meet the needs of Lupin Hill students.

BULLYING IS: Mean Acts That Happen: ● Several ● Times ● On ● Purpose STOP!

BULLYING VS. UGLY There’s a difference between a bully and someone who says or does something ugly. BULLYING: Mean Acts That Happen: Several Times On Purpose: STOP! UGLY: One Time-unkind words and/or actions BOTH ARE NOT OK!

STOP BULLYING NOW! BE STRONG AND STICK TOGETHER! Join the NO BULLYING CLUB!

BULLYING IS: ● Intentional: It’s on purpose, hurtful behavior. ● Repeated: The behavior happens more than once. ● Harmful: It hurts your body and/or your feelings It Happens: Several Times On Purpose- STOP!

BEAT BULLYING Don’t let it happen to you! Don’t watch it happen to others!

IS THIS BULLYING? ● Katie and Ellie are best friends. Ellie was absent from school for 3 days with a tummy ache. When she came back, Katie was playing with Lynn. Katie said she and Lynn are best friends now. Ellie’s feeling are hurt.

Because….

NOT BULLYING ● This was can be unkind sometimes but not bullying! ●Katie and Lynn were not thinking about how Ellie feels.

IS IT BULLYING? ● Adam brought a brand new ball to school. James kicked to score a goal and the ball went on the roof. Adam was very angry and said James could not play with him that day.

Because….

NOT BULLYING ●It only happened once! OR ● If there is unkind actions on both sides *This was unkind but not bullying

IS IT BULLYING? ● Mariah wears glasses. Some girls in her class call her “google eyes” and “gold -fish”. The girls run away from Mariah EVERYDAY at line up time. They laugh and call Mariah mean names. The other children are beginning to call her names too. Mariah doesn’t know what to do!

Because

THIS IS BULLYING! ● It happened on purpose ● It happened EVERY DAY ● Other children joined in ● It hurt Mariah’s feelings ● She needed help to stop it This happened to Mariah… SEVERAL TIMES ON PURPOSE –STOP!

How would you feel?

Who is involved in bullying? ● Bully/Bullies ● Victim/Victims ● Bystander/Bystanders

The BYSTANDER- is a person who watches or knows about the bullying and doesn’t do anything to stop it! DON’T BE A BYSTANDER! STOP BULLYING NOW!!

WHO CAN STOP THIS BULLYING? THE BYSTANDERS!

THE BULLY ● THE BULLY IS REALLY A COWARD! ● THEY PICK ON PEOPLE THEY THINK THEY CAN HURT. ● They are not happy with themselves STICK TOGETHER! DON’T LET THE BULLY WIN!

Can you recognize which role each person is playing in the bullying?

WHY DO CHILDREN BECOME BYSTANDERS? ● They are afraid to speak up ● They think it will happen to them ● They may think it’s just a bit of fun and it’s not serious ● They think ignoring will make it stop ● They sometimes think the victim deserves it

WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT? ● Tell an adult ● Ask a friend to come with you to tell ● Don’t show fear to the bully ● Tell the bully to stop (only if it’s safe) ● Don’t stay and fight. It’s ok to get away. ● Make sure to tell your parents!

DON’T LET IT HAPPEN! Doing nothing sends a message to the bully that what they are doing is OK.

NO BULLYING ALLOWED CONSEQUENCES: ● The Bully will call their parents and tell them what he/she is doing. ● The bully and his/her parents will meet with the principal and teacher ● The bully will apologize to the victim ● The bully will lose school privileges ● The bully may be suspended or expelled from school

WHAT IS BULLYING? Mean Acts That Happen: ● Several ● Times ● On ● Purpose STOP!

STOP BULLYING NOW! BE COOL ~ NOT CRUEL! Let’s STICK TOGETHER & TAKE A VOW TO JOIN THE… NO BULLYING CLUB! “I will be a cool kid and not bully anyone. I will tell someone if I am being bullied. I will tell someone if I see someone being bullied. ” I know I’m a Lupin Hill Tiger because I’m Cool~Not Cruel!

How do you Know? Kids won't always speak up when they're being bullied at school, so parents need to look for warning signs. This video teaches parents what to look for so that they can step in, talk to teachers, and teach their child how to respond to bullies. The video is most appropriate for parents of children in third grade, fourth grade, and fifth grade. https: //youtu. be/kq. UGRndc. UU

What Can Parents Do http: //centerforparentingeducation. org/library-of-articles/handling-bullyingissues/playground-politics/ Why Children Tease Your Reaction Matters Some children tease because they enjoy watching their target become upset when his/her buttons are pushed Your initial response may determine if your child will continue to come to you when he is upset. Also, the teaser may enjoy the reaction of observers who often laugh at the expense of the targeted child. ● Offer support and understanding to let him/her know that you believe in them and are “on their side. ” ● Listen, while gathering information on what happened ● Discuss the facts on why kids tease

How Can You help What Can Children Do? Additional Responses Diffuse the Teasing ● Remaining silent and trying to ignore the insult can lead to pent up anger. This resentment can build until children explode in either tears or rage. ● trying to “out-tease” the teaser usually just intensifies the fight. Teach/learn coping skills, such as employing humor. For example, “You act like a baby, ” children can respond with: “So I’ve noticed. ” “So what? ” “Tell me when you get to the funny part. ” “I heard that one before. ” ● STOP! Or tell an adult. ● I-messages: “I don’t like it when you roll your eyes when I speak. ” ● Assertive responses: Look the tormentor straight in the eye and answer in a firm voice, “I will not move to another table. ” ● Self-talk: To help them stay calm and not react emotionally, they can say to themselves, “I can handle this. ”

Final Note for Parents can encourage their children to: ● form strong friendships with people who will stand by them. ● learn self-defense (which not only teaches children how to defend themselves, but also increases their confidence so that they don’t feel they have to fight). ● participate in activities that make them feel good about themselves, in which they can excel, and where they can meet children beyond their traditional circles. a. Sports, Clubs, Volunteer

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