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OVERCOMING RESISTANCE Yes, you can.

OVERCOMING RESISTANCE Yes, you can. Overcoming Resistance & Self-sabotage Now this little baby is here with you on the journey when it comes to building your business. Not always at the forefront of your mind and keeping you still, but something that creep back in when you least expect and when you thought you had finally said goodbye for good! Steven Pressfield sums up resistance beautifully in his book Do The Work. His list includes: • Fear • Self-sabotage • Self-doubt • Procrastination • Addiction • Distraction • Timidity • Self-loathing • Ego & narcissism • Perfectionism Now this list could go on for a long time as you have probably guessed but it’s a damn good start! +++

OVERCOMING RESISTANCE Yes, you can. Let’s look at some examples of this to help you translate this into you own every day – in life or in your business. Fear – what the hell am I doing? Who do I think I am? This is never going to work? There are so many people out there doing this why would anyone choose me? What if I don’t make any money, and we cant pay the mortgage, and we end up having to sell the house, and my husband leaves me and my kids hate me all because I thought I could start a business? Self-sabotage – So, you had a sore tooth. But you “didn’t have time” to go to the dentist, and you ended up with a tooth so badly infected that your whole face swelled up, you could see any clients, you went through two course of anti-biotic before the dentist could go near you and two weeks later you have barely been able to work. Unconscious self-sabotage? Could you have prevented this? Seriously what were you thinking? ! Self-doubt – this is right up there with comparison. I understand that many things can drive this and I don’t want to belittle the struggle all of us can have with self-doubt, self-confidence, self-love. Procrastination – so this goes something along the lines of building a set of shelves from Ikea for the last two hours before sitting down at 10 pm tonight to write this part of your workbook. Or even going to Ikea today at all. Honestly Kate, what were you thinking? ! I don’t need to say much more on this, I’m pretty sure you get it. The choice is yours here. I could go through all of these but I won’t. I simply want you to open your mind to the possibility things could be better just because of you. +++

OVERCOMING RESISTANCE Yes, you can. Sabotage by others We don’t often talk about this, and I think it is really important to get this one out in the open. Not everyone is in your corner. Not everyone wants you to succeed. Some people will, consciously or unconsciously, sabotage your success in business and in life. This is a fact, and one that it is really important we acknowledge. Think about this in the context of someone who is trying to give up smoking. This person knows that when you have a coffee, or a wine, or go outside at work for a chat, you will find it almost impossible (almost!) to say no to having a cigarette. So, if that person is the one actively encouraging you to do any of these things, when you are trying to resist smoking again, they are sabotaging your attempts at success. Now I’m not saying this person is evil, or you should ditch them as a friend, but like it or not they are sabotaging your success. The reasons why we do not know, although we might be able to make some good guesses. In your business there are those that will support you and totally have your back. There are those that will say they support you and for whatever reason they will unconsciously sabotage your attempts. And there are those that will just blatantly not support you and consciously, openly try to sabotage your business. Not always, but sometimes. We need to have the strength to also recognize and acknowledge these people in our lives. They might be our closest friends and allies, however, if they are not supporting us the way we need to be supported, then we need to provide distance and space in between them and our business. We don't need to cut them out of our lives (unless its extraordinary circumstances!) but we need to make our business and them totally separate compartments in our lives. +++

OVERCOMING RESISTANCE Yes, you can. So how do we get past this? The first step to this is actually acknowledgement. Acknowledgement that you are actually playing the biggest a role here. That it is not external, uncontrollable factors that are stopping the momentum in your business. There are so many options for you to move on from this point. For some, this simple act of acceptance and recognition is enough to start the forward motion again. If, as is the case for many of us including me, you need more help than this to move past blocks, resistance and sabotage (self or other), there are so many options available to you if you are willing to open yourself up to accepting help. Help from others. Help from Psychologists, Life Coach’s, well meaning friends, mentors, kinesiologists, healing practitioners – the list goes on. Find what works for you. Whilst I can’t provide all the answers here right now what I can do is lovingly encourage you to take any steps you need to to move forward from this place of doubt. Whatever it takes for you to feel stronger and more certain about you and all that you are worth. To believe that you are worth it. This is where new lives are built. Right here, in this space. Please, please value yourself enough to make the effort to move away from issues of self (that’s what all of this is) that will stop you from achieving wonderful things in your life and your business. Because you are worth it. I believe in you. +++