Our New Topic Being assertive Our Big Learning
Our New Topic: Being assertive
Our Big Learning Objective: • To learn the difference between being assertive and aggressive to improve our communication skills.
What does being assertive mean?
Being assertive means …………. . • You clearly explain what you need or want from someone. Without being pushy or trying to frighten them.
Sometimes it can be hard to say how you really feel, especially if it means disagreeing with someone else. But everyone has the right to say how they feel and ask for what they need.
Being assertive should not be confused with being aggressive. You can stand up for your self in the right way.
Neither is it good to be passive. • A passive person is someone who does not try to change things. • They allow things to happen to them.
You are going to read some scenarios and decide whether the person is being passive, aggressive or assertive.
• Scenario: • Amy is very cross with Raj because he has forgotten her birthday. She shouts at him in front of their friends. • Is Amy being passive? Aggressive? Assertive?
• Scenario: • Grace is worried. She has been asked to do a job at work which she doesn’t understand. She decides not to say anything and hope for the best. • Is Grace being passive? Aggressive? Assertive?
• Scenario: • Dave is feeling upset. His friend Sue has made fun of him in front of some other people. Dave decides to tell Sue that he is hurt by what she said. • Is Dave being passive? Aggressive? Assertive?
How to be assertive: • 5 ways to be assertive: • practise what you want to say first, or try writing it down to prepare yourself • act calm and confident by standing up straight and not fidgeting • make eye contact • say what you want, clearly and politely • don’t apologise when asking for something you need.
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