On Course Strategies for Creating Success in College

On Course Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life Chapter 5 EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|1

EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE • Struggling students have a hard time building mutually supportive relationships. What are three mistakes that struggling students often make in their relationships? ØThey remain dependent, codependent or independent in relation to others. ØThey listen poorly, demonstrating little desire to understand another person’s perspective. ØThey judge others who are different as inappropriate, wrong or bad. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|2

EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE • Identify the following as Dependent, Codependent, Independent or Interdependent statements. Ø I can’t do this by myself. Dependent Ø I have to help others before I can help myself. Codependent Ø I can do this all by myself, I don’t need anyone's help. Independent Ø I can do some of this alone, but I will accomplish more with the help of others. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Interdependent 5|3

CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTION CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM How could you make accomplishing your success a little easier and a lot more fun? STILLFX Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|4

THE PUZZLE • Get into groups of 7 -8 and I will give each group a puzzle. • Your task is to assemble the puzzle. Please begin. • Think about the role you played while working on the puzzle and answer the following questions. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Stratocaster 5|5

THE PUZZLE • • • Who took the leadership role? Who was the puzzle facing? Who followed directives from others? Who stated “Get all the corner/edge pieces”? Who stated “We don’t have all the pieces”? Who worked on an area of the puzzle by themselves? • Who thought this was a competition? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|6

THE PUZZLE Think about how you answered the questions on the previous slide. ØThose who took the leadership role, do you believe you are a “born leader”? ØThose who followed directives, do you believe you are a good team player? ØThose who wanted the “edges” put together first, do you like things to be well-organized and get upset when others are unorganized? (continued on next slide) Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|7

THE PUZZLE ØThose whose thought pieces were missing, do you tend to be suspicious of others? ØThose who worked on a specific part of the puzzle, do you prefer to work alone? ØThose who thought it was a competition, do you see yourself as very competitive with others? • What did you learn or relearn about the choices you make in a group project? • What life experiences have influenced you to think or act this way? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|8

CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM • Strong individualistic cultures have an “I/me” orientation, and independence is highly regarded. • Strong collectivistic cultures have a “we/us” orientation and interdependence is highly regarded. Ø If “ 1” is strong individualistic culture and “ 10” is a strong collectivistic culture, where do you see yourself on this continuum? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5|9

CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM Identify the following statements as representing either an Individualistic or a Collectivistic culture. Ø My household consists of my spouse Individualistic and our children. Ø Getting along with others is extremely important to me. Ø I will be a veterinarian because I have always loved animals. Ø My religious beliefs are very different from the rest of my family. Ø I give my paycheck to my mother to help support the household. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Collectivistic Individualistic Collectivistic 5 | 10

QUOTATION REFLECTION • “For every one of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn’t always necessarily have to be in your family, for me it was teachers and school. ” ~Oprah Winfrey Ø How could your instructors help you to be more successful? Ø How could your school help you to be more successful? Szasz-Fabian llka Erika Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 11

GET HELP FROM COLLEGE RESOURCES • Name a resource at your college that could help you with the following obstacles. Specifically how could this service help? ØConfused about future courses to take Advising ØAcademic problems Tutoring Lab Financial Aid office ØMoney problems ØPersonal problems Counseling office ØHealth problems Health service ØProblems deciding on a career Career office ØProblems getting involved socially at your college Student Activities Office Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 12

STARTING A STUDY GROUP • Imagine that you plan to start a study group for a challenging course? ØWhat criteria will you have for choosing group members? ØWhat goals will you want the group to have? ØWhat rules will you want the group to have? • Why is it important to. . . ØChoose only Creators? ØChoose group goals? ØChoose group rules? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 13

CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONS STRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS WITH ACTIVE LISTENING • Do you know how to strengthen a relationship with active listening? • What are the essential skills of being a good listener? Robert J. Beyers II Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 14

LISTENING ACTIVELY • Which of the following listening skills do you think is the most important? Why? ØListen to understand. ØClear your mind and remain silent. ØAsk the person to expand or clarify. ØReflect the other person's thoughts and feelings. • Which listening skill do you think will be the most challenging for you? Why? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 15

HOW TO LISTEN ACTIVELY Match each terms with their correct description. Clear your mind & remain silent Ø Don’t assume you understand. In your own words, restate what you heard, both the ideas and the emotions. Listen to understand Ø Don’t make assumptions or fill in the blanks with your own experiences. Invite the speaker to share additional information and feelings. Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings Ø Don’t be distracted by your own inner chatter. Stay focused and stay quiet. Ask the person to expand or clarify Ø Focus on the speaker, activate empathy and listen with the intention of fully understanding what the other person thinks and feels. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 16

CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTION RESPECTING CULTURAL DIFFERENCES What are some keys to achieving success in a world of increasing diversity? Dawn Hudson Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 17

SHOWING RESPECT • How could you make a conscious effort to show respect to someone in a culture different from your own? ØLearn to pronounce names correctly. ØUse preferred term for a person’s cultural group. ØLearn non-verbal behaviors of the other culture. ØAvoid ethnocentrism (thinking my way is “right”). ØAvoid microaggressions. ØAdvocate for respect. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 18

UNDERSTANDING OTHERS • Make a list of some of your culture’s invisible beliefs, attitudes, or traditions (deep culture). These are aspects of your culture that are not apparent to those outside of your culture. You’ll be sharing your list with others. • Form pairs and share your two lists. • Introduce your partner to the class, explaining the cultural elements he or she shared with you. Adnresr Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 19

INTERDEPENDENCE AT WORK Imagine that you have just completed your degree and are ready to start your new career. You have looked in the newspapers and online for potential job opportunities. However, you have not been able to find a suitable job. By employing interdependence, what other choices could you make to find employment in your field? ØConduct information gathering interviews. ØAsk people you know for referrals. ØCall the Public Information Office of prospective employers. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 20

CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTION BE ASSERTIVE How can you communicate in a style that strengthens relationships, creates better results, and builds strong self-esteem? Michael D Brown Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 21

INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION STYLES According to psychologist Virginia Satir, what are the two most common patterns of ineffective communication? Placating Blaming Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 22

INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Placating Ø Its okay if you don’t help with our project in sociology. I’ll just do the work myself. Ø Please don’t be upset with me. I'll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later. Ø I'm sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from our party last night. I’ll do it right now. Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 23

INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Blaming Ø You never do anything to help our study team. You’re just lazy! Ø This room is a mess! When do you plan to start doing your share of work around here? Ø My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework. Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 24

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE • What is the communication style of Creators? Ø Leveling. • What are the 3 strategies that promote leveling? Ø Communicate purposefully. Ø Communicate honestly. Ø Communicate responsibly. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 25

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION Leveling Ø I know you've got a lot of work to do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together? Ø Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight, and I'll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon? Copyright © Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 26

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE Decide which communication style is being used in the following statements. Ø Oh, don’t worry that you didn’t study with me. I know you have a lot on your mind. I probably Placating would have failed the test anyway. Ø You’re the lousiest friend I’ve ever had! After making me fail that test, you have some nerve Blaming even talking to me now! Ø I'm angry that you didn’t call. I realize that I could have called you, but I thought I could Leveling count on you to keep your word. If we’re going to be friends, I need to know if you're going to keep your promises to me in the future. Will you? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 27

MAKING REQUESTS Change the following Victim request into a Creator request. VICTIM REQUEST ØI’m going to be absent next Friday. It sure would be nice if someone would let me know if I miss anything. CREATOR REQUEST ØJohn, I'm going to be absent next Friday. Would you be willing to call me Friday night and tell me what I missed? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 28

MAKING REQUESTS Change the following Victim request into a Creator request. VICTIM REQUEST ØI don’t suppose you’d consider giving me a few more days to complete this research paper. CREATOR REQUEST ØI’d like to request an extension on my research paper. I promise to hand it in by noon on Thursday. Would that be acceptable? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 29

QUICK REVIEW Identify each strategy used when actively listening. Ø I am intentionally listening to understand what Sally is thinking and feeling. Listen to understand Ø My mind is clear, I am focused, and I am Clear your mind remaining quiet while Sally is talking. and remain silent Ø I need to request more information from Sally to ensure I am understanding her. Ask the person to expand or clarify Ø I don’t want to make assumptions, so I will restate what I believe Sally said. Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 30

QUICK REVIEW What are 3 styles of communication? Placating Blaming Leveling Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 | 31

QUICK REVIEW Identify each statement as Individualistic or Collectivistic. Family unity, honor and respect are vital parts of COLLECTIVISTIC this culture. Personal success is highly regarded and each INDIVIDUALISTIC person is seen as unique. Several generations may live near or with each other. COLLECTIVISTIC Adults are expected to strike out on their own and INDIVIDUALISTIC compete for success. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Feeling good about oneself is related to one’s COLLECTIVISTIC contribution to others. 5 | 32

On Course Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life Chapter 5 Wise Choices in College REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 33

REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS: THE BIG PICTURE • Which of the following rehearsal categories are you more familiar with: Elaborative Rehearsal ØStrategies to learn and remember complex ideas. Rote Rehearsal ØStrategies to memorize facts and details. • While studying, how would you decide which approach to use? Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 34

CHALLENGES WITH REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • Form groups of 4 and list challenges you have encountered while rehearsing and memorizing study materials. Ø Are there particular challenges that most of the group members have experienced? Ø Circle the challenge you struggle with most and look for a strategy in On Course to help you. Ø Report to the group your challenge and the strategy you found to help you. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 35

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNING BEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • Form 3 groups. • In your group, come up with a detailed plan for the following strategies: ØGroup 1: Forming a study group ØGroup 2: Creating a distributed study schedule ØGroup 3: Assembling all of your study material • Note: be sure to include information that will answer such questions as “who? , ” “what? , ” “when? , ” “where? ” and “why? ” in your detailed plan. • Share your group’s plan with the rest of the class. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 36

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNING BEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • Reviewing means reading over your study material silently and with great concentration on the meaning. How can you avoid mindless reviewing? ØReview a brief section of your study materials. ØLook away and ask yourself “What are the key concepts, main ideas, and supporting details of what I just read? ” Think through complete answers to those questions. ØLook back at your study materials to confirm the accuracy of your thinking. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 37

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNING BEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • Identify the following strategies that you could use while rehearsing and memorizing study materials: ØSimilar to reviewing but is done aloud. ØCreating a mental picture of your notes that you can see when you close your eyes. ØRecording on paper all that you remember after reviewing or rehearsing your study materials. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Reciting Visualizing Rewriting 5 SS | 38

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNING BEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • On a sheet of paper, list specific ways you could utilize the following: Ø Cornell study sheet Ø Self-test Ø Study team quiz Ø Three-column math charts Ø Flash cards Ø Self-made audio recordings Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 39

ACADEMIC SKILLS PLAN FOR REHEARSING AND MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS • Look over the strategies for Rehearsing and Memorizing Study Materials. • Choose three that you will implement immediately. • Explain to a partner the three that you have chosen and why. Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 5 SS | 40

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