NAMASKAR Positive attitude for excellence Kedar Rayamajhi 2017

NAMASKAR Positive attitude for excellence Kedar Rayamajhi, 2017

A few requests: 1. Please make your mobile phone off or on silent mode 2. Take breaks only at the end of the session 1. Engage yourself in active dialogue and listening

PAIN & PROBLEMS Usual grumblings: �No one appreciates me; �My boss does not understand me; �I’m frustrated due to low paid salary; �My neighbor is having more luxury goods; �Sick of back-stabbing politics; �My family is not understanding or cooperating and children are not listening me; �My performance hinders due to negative work culture in the organization which I can’t change and so on…

One survey in USA showed: � 63% of employees don’t have clear understanding of organization’s goal and vision; � 50% not satisfied with what they accomplished; almost 90% felt their organization is not making their employees accountable for results; � 87% feel that there is lack of trust, cooperation and coordination between different departments

�Sociologists use word “reference anxiety” which indicates the extent of how most people judge their possessions in comparison with others. For instance, widening gap in income distribution increases reference anxiety of lower income group. �Paradox is that big economic leap of developed world have become hindrance or impediment to happiness to majority middleclass population of rich countries.

Research showed homeless people in Calcutta are happier than those in California; happiness level of middle class in UK, South Korea and Japan did not at all increase between 1960/70 s to 1990 s.

Good news is that a research team in the noted University of Illinois concluded that “human beings, no matter where they live, and almost without regard to how they live, are preset to be happy. ” Another professor of “happiness studies” at Erasmus University in Rotterdam concluded that happiness is how much you like the life you are living; and even people (millionaires and billionaires) living in paradise may be unhappy “because they screw up everything in their lives. ”

If ATTITUDE is such an important word, why do SO ? FEW people understand it?

Quotations �Your attitude is an expression of your values, beliefs and expectations. Our attitudes control our lives. Attitudes are a secret power working twenty-four hours a day, for good or bad. It is of paramount importance that we know how to harness and control this great force. -Tom Blandi

Pause and Ponder This is attitude… Your attitude is your window to the world better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world. — George Bernard Shaw

Pause and Ponder The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible. Unknown “Ninety percent of the input in your minds today is negative. ” Ziglar

Pause and Ponder “Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain— And most fools do. ” —DALE CARNEGIE “The only disability in life is a bad attitude. ” —SCOTT HAMILTON

Concept of attitude: “Attitudes are likes and dislikes – favorable or unfavorable evaluations of and reactions to objects, people, situations, or any other aspects of the world including abstract ideas and social policies”. An attitude is a person’s point of view towards something.

The Power of a Positive Attitude • High confidence. • Planning ahead. • Encouraging others. • Showing appreciation. • Thoroughness. • Conscientiousness • Alertness.

Learning to appreciate �Artists do not look at a landscape and ask what is wrong with the picture, their focus is to look for what is valuable. Strength matters

Have we ever thought? �Large proportion of potentials is unused at individual and organizations level. �What would happen if we can see and unleash some of these potentials?

A new way of thinking and doing is the most…. “No problem can be solved from the same level of thinking that created it. We must learn to see the world anew. ” -Albert Einstein

How can we develop a new level of thinking?

Learning is the key…

�“The illiterate of the 21 st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn. ” �~ Alvin Toffler

Unlearning is also equally important

Attitude learning to change • I am too old to learn. • Learning is restricted to schools & colleges only. Because we get degree/diploma certificate. • Nobody is a potential source of learning for me. • If I learn, I will be over burdened with work.

Negative attitude �Criticizing organisation in public places • Always find faults in the organisation • Taking job casually • Hiding capacity to perform • Setting low targets • Preference for comforts and pomp & show • Never serious about performance

Kind of “Glasses of listening and learning” that people generally carry

FACTORS THAT DETERMINE OUR ATTITUDE 1. ENVIRONMENT 2. EXPERIENCE 3. EDUCATION In a positive environment, a marginal performer’s output goes up. And in a negative environment, a good performer’s output goes down.

“The foundation of success regardless of your chosen field, is ATTITUDE” -Shiv Khera In his book YOU CAN WIN

THE ICEBERG KNOWN TO OTHERS BEHAVIOR SEA LEVEL UNKNOWN TO OTHERS VALUES – STANDARDS – JUDGMENTS ATTITUDE MOTIVES – ETHICS - BELIEFS

INTENTIONS/ATTITUDES BEHAVIOR/SKILLS CULTURE/VALUES SYSTEMS/STRUCTURE

INTENTIONS/ATTITUDES Attitude, ways of thinking ·Commitment, motivation ·Enthusiasm, inspiration · Feelings, emotions · Self-expression (arts, etc) ·Behavior, actions ·Goals and results · Work plans ·Movements CULTURE/VALUES (inter objectivity) · Structures · Process, procedures · Policies, laws · Coordinated actions · Resources, money · Technology · Logical frameworks The model of Ken Wilber � DIAGRAM BEHAVIOR/SKILLS (intersubjectivity) · Shared values/principles ·Shared assumptions ·Morals, ethics · Language, conversations ·Religion, spirituality SYSTEMS/STRUCTURE

Putting on the Armor ge n a ! Ch s g in h T 3

Researcher/scientist Dr. D. Lykken: “It’s clear that we can change our happiness levels widely- up or down”. You can raise your level of happiness by working on 3 components: 1. Getting more pleasure out of life (savoring sensory experiences) 2. Becoming more engaged in what you do 3. Finding ways of making your life feel more meaningful To work on later two components, two factors are important: pro-activity & principle-centered living. Research Professor J. Wheeler of USA found that people- who tried out their new skills with many different people in workplace, family friends, neighbors- will improve their life most dramatically

Try to practice by taking consideration two or three roles in your life (organization, family, community) and try to answer following four questions for each role: 1. What need do I sense? (in my family, in my community, in the organization I work for) 2. Do I posses a true talent that, if disciplined and applied, can meet the need? 3. Does the opportunity to meet the need tap into my passion? 4. Does my conscience inspire me to take action and become involved?

“If you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem. ” “Many people have ideas on how others should change; few people have ideas on how they should change. ”

Seven major positive emotions: �faith, desire, love, sex, enthusiasm, romance & hope. �Seven major negative emotions (to be avoided): �jealousy, fear, hatred, revenge, greed, superstition & anger.

Steps to develop positive attitude 1. Look at the bright side of life. Focus at positive. 2. Find reasons to smile more often. 3. Associate yourself with happy and positive people. 4. Read inspiring stories. Read inspiring quotes. 5. Develop an attitude of gratitude 6. Start or learn to like things that need to be done.

Positive attitude can be developed by following means: • Positive mindset can be developed by self awareness and reflection • Active listening • Feeling of respect to the service seeker • Feeling responsible • Quick responsiveness • Showing empathy • Read more new books and generate new ideas • Look at the positive side of the life

“If you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem. ” “Many people have ideas on how others should change; few people have ideas on how they should change. ”

You are the designer of your destiny. You are the author. You write the story. The pen is in your hand the outcome is in your hand. Lisa Nichols

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. WAYNE DYER Coauthor of How to Get What You Really, Really Want

How to make a difference? �We do not experience the world as it is – we experience a model of the world. The map is not the territory. �Must to have respect for other people's model of the world. �I control my mind and thus my results. �There is no failure, only feedback. �If you want to make a difference, you have to make a new beginning, new contribution to your family/ organization/ society/ the nation.

Continued �IF AN EGG IS BROKEN BY AN OUTSIDE FORCE. . A LIFE ENDS. IF AN EGG BREAKS FROM WITHIN. . . LIFE BEGINS. GREAT THINGS ALWAYS BEGIN FROM WITHIN.

Try to make everyday not only a good day but a great day, and it is never too late to try!!

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