Moon Parenting By Dr Swati Lodha Moon Parenting

Moon Parenting By: Dr. Swati Lodha

Moon Parenting • MOON means Patience Discipline and Balance. MOON PARENTS mean Patient Parents Disciplined Parents and Balanced Parents.

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Joyful Copycat Phase (0 -4 years) Blotting Paper Phase (4 -8 years) Know your children… See saw Phase (8 -12 years) Tug Of War Phase (12 -16 years) Snake and Ladder Phase (16 years and up)

The World of Children Temperament Parents I N T NATURE R N A L Psyche Child E X T E R N URTURE A L Peers, Technology, Lifestyle

Temperament of children Temperament is formed by the characteristic traits that a child is born with. ait r e. T c it n a e r st i y. T s t r ait i r e r P la l. T u a g w Re ra ait d r T ith y t W si n te In Effort control Temperament Ad a At Ac M ten tiv oo ity Tr d. T ra ait pta tio bil it n. T ity rai t Tra it

What do children teach us? f he T w po o er W O N To love, to feel secure To fo r ge t an dt of or g Children teach us… To b to b e nat e tr ural ans a par nd ent Curiosity and spontaneous application of learning for m ias ing s thu eryth n E ev ive

Know your parenting style Are you a SUPER parent ? Mantra – Achievement matters Failure is unacceptable. Disciplined, persistent children. Insensitive, conceited children.

Know your parenting style Are you a DESIGNER parent? Mantra – We buy all that is best –Expensive and Exclusive – for our kids. Experienced children, exclusive credentials Shallow children, superficial perfection

Know your parenting style Are you a BULLETPROOF parent? Mantra – We will protect and support the child all the way, come what may. Secure children, deeply attached to parents. Risk averse and indecisive children

Know your parenting style Are you a YES parent? Mantra – I want to be a nice parent, not nasty. Happy and loving children Impulsive Children, Unrealistic expectations.

Know your parenting style Are you a POLORISED parent? Mantra – Mother and father, the twain shall never meet. Adaptable children Insecure, Emotionally alienated children.

Know your parenting style Are you an ISLAND parent? Mantra – Sorry, children are not on our agenda. • None • Children raise themselves up.

Ten principles of Parent. Ability 1. Ask yourself: Why do/did I want children? 2. Prepare yourself to have a crescendo presence in the lives of your children. 3. Develop your ability to disambiguate your childhood memories. 4. Improve the ability to strike a balance. e ba Em c lan ot Im l a or M io n al Im lan Parents Fin an c ial Im ba ce ba lan a ce n la ce Family Imbalance Life s b m I e tyl

Parent. Ability Continued… 5. Improve your ability to admit your mistakes and to take yourself lightly. 6. Develop a liking for consistent learning and consistent up gradation. 7. Show. Exemplify. 8. Master the ability to have a clear, crisp and concrete communication with your child. 9. Love yourself the way you are. 10. Develop the attitude to show Gratitude.

How to be a MOON PARENT…. Five Disciplines nd om ou e. F mi tm en ts Fiv e. C s Fiv on ati The POWER Of Fiv e. T rut hs Five ts h Rig

What is Parenting? Parenting is: • Loving children without any condition. • Observing children without any prejudice. • Encouraging children without any comparison. • Empathizing with children without any suggestion. • Guiding children without any expectation.

Parenting is perennial • Parenting has a beginning but has no end. • A parent has to be a pillar of patience, encouragement and discipline for the first two decades. • A parent has to be a reservoir of love and care forever.

Moon Parenting is crescendo presence • Moon Parents follow the phases of Moon. • Their presence in the beginning years of their child’s life resembles the full moon phase • As the child grows up, his freedom rises while the presence of parents reduces, just the way the Moon enters its waning gibbous phase. • By the advent of teenage , the child becomes more decisive and parents start to guide subtly, resembling a half moon. • During college days, the child becomes more self reliant and parents become shock absorbers in this waning crescent phase. • Presence of parents reach a new moon phase when the child settles down professionally.

Moon Parenting is crescendo presence Parents enter the life of their child again when he needs them or become a parent himself, just the way the Moon enters its waxing crescent phase. Their presence should increase further as grand parents, enriching the lives of their grandchildren. They become a wonderful bridge between their children and grandchildren during the waxing gibbous phase. With the right set of values , children let their parents reach the full moon phase in their twilight years. Home

Parenting is a responsibility, a gift • For Moon Parents, Parenting is a big responsibility but a bigger gift. • They are responsible for fulfilling their needs but not all their desires. • They are responsible for making them self confident and self reliant but not to make them invincible and entitled. • BEING A PARENT is a gift of nature to the parents. BECOMING A PARENT is a gift they give to themselves and their children.

Parenting is an emotion • An emotion is an energy which makes the mind work. • Moon Parents possess this emotion which gives them the strength to consistently love, encourage, observe, empathize with and guide the children , irrespective of the children’s response. • Emotion of a moon parent towards his child is never similar to the emotion of a child towards his moon parent.

Joyful Copycat Phase Children copy what they see. Children see what we make them see.

Blotting paper Phase Children absorb whatever comes their way- Approval, Appreciation or Criticism- from parents, teachers, friends or anyone and perceive themselves accordingly.

See saw Phase Input Output Encouragement and Discipline Confidence and Zeal Expectation and Judgment Anxiety and Obstinacy Criticism and Punishment Aggression Excessive love and Protection Overconfidence and Arrogance

Tug Of War Phase

Snake and Ladder Phase Money Happiness This is the final but the most slippery phase out of childhood.

Disciplines • Moral Discipline • Health Discipline • Psychological Discipline • Time Discipline • Learning Discipline

Five Foundations • Value Life • Know Yourself • Accept and Assert, positively • Self Regulate Yourself • Have Humor

Five Rights • Right to Dream • Right to Think and Try • Right to Fail and Try again • Right to Express • Right to be a Child first, a performer later

Five Truths • Your success and happiness are as personal as your toothbrush is. • Nobody can hurt or insult you without your consent. • Use technology but do not get used by it. • Value money but value relationships even more. • Less is More! (not for grades)

Five Commitments • Commitment towards the World. • Commitment towards the Country. • Commitment towards the Society. • Commitment towards the Parents. • Commitment towards the Self.