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Self Deceptions • • • “It doesn’t affect me, I can handle it. ” “If you don’t like what I’m wearing don’t look. ” “It’s not my fault that other people have dirty minds. ” “At least I don’t…” “At least I’m better than…” “It’s harmless / I’m not hurting anybody. ” “It’s none of your business. ” “I have to wear this if I’m going to be on the team/get the scholarship/make so & so happy. ” “I’ve got to be comfortable. I can’t swim, while wearing that. ” “I just don’t think it’s wrong. ”

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“Listen guys, I know this is an uncomfortable conversation. But it’s time we man up and get real about pornography. First things first: if you’re married and you look at porn, you are cheating. Period. . . Christ laid it out very clearly: if you lust after another woman, you have committed adultery. . .

We are lessening ourselves, betraying our wives and participating in the violent exploitation of women (and girls). [Our] minds and our bodies belong to the Lord and to our wives; pornography, therefore, intrudes on their domain. If we look at porn, we are adulterers. We are adulterers in all the worst ways. . .

If you wouldn’t want your wife being a porn provider, you ought to understand why she wouldn’t want you to be a porn consumer. If you wouldn’t want her to invite. . . other men to violate her in their minds, you ought to understand why she wouldn’t want you to accept the invitation to violate other women in yours.

I don’t mean to concentrate only on married men. Porn is poison for everyone, married or not. . . It’s not innocent. It’s not fun. Pornography is evil, empty, deadening, dirty — this is something we all know. ”

Who is looking at porn? Region 1 women 67 % 33 %

Matthew 5: 28 Galatians 5: 19 whosoever looketh on a woman to Now the works of the flesh are lust after hath committed manifest, which are these; Adultery, adultery with her already in his heart fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness 1 John 2: 16 1 Corinthians 6: 9 all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers… Philippians 4: 8 whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

1 2 How to avoid getting caught in the trap of pornography. How to escape from pornography’s grasp.

Avoiding the trap 1. Instill Biblical Morals This will do a lot to prevent the problem before it starts. 2. Specifically Warn Them The wise man spent a large portion of the book of Proverbs giving repeated warnings to be careful not to fall into the trap of sexual sin, we would be wise to do the same thing. 3. Make It Difficult to Access Both for accountability and to reduce temptation.

Escaping the trap 1. Show The Cost To them and to others, that it will ultimately cost them their soul. There has to be a desire to change. 2. Make It Difficult To Access The easier it is to keep the change going the more likely it will happen. 3. Have Accountability To keep the change going, having some sort of accountability is key to having that change stick.

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Matthew 18: 6 -7 Ephesians 4: 22 But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; 1 Timothy 2: 9 Titus 2: 12 …women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Romans 13: 13 -14 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

3 Modesty Principles

Society Does our sinful society even recognize it as sexy or enticing? Romans 12: 2 be not fashioned according to this world…

Bare Midriffs, Low-Cut Blouses, Dresses Mini-Skirts, Sleeveless Shirts or Dresses, etc. Slits longer than 3 inches in skirts/dresses. Spandex-type pants when worn as outer garments: i. e. , stirrups, stretch, tight fitting pants. Bare Midriffs, Strapless, Halter, Sheer, or Transparent Clothing Skirts, Dresses, or Shorts more than 2 inches above the knee No clothing that exposes the breast, genitalia, or buttocks area No very tight, form-fitting attire Bare Midriffs, Tank/Halter/Tube Tops, Muscle shirts, Sleeveless Shirts Sheer, excessively revealing or transparent clothing Dresses, skirts and slits 2" above the knee when sitting Shorts, Bathing suits Baggy or tight clothing

Halter tops or tops with spaghetti straps Shorts or any short outfit Pants that do not cover the knees Skirts or dresses that have slits above the knees See-through clothing Swimsuits

FINA

Lust Does what we wear make it easy for others to lust? Matthew 18: 6 -7 whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin. . .

Don’t think about this.

whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. ESV Matthew 18: 6 -7 v

v What Makes Women Stumble? “I know that many girls struggle with physical lust just as much (just differently) than guys. ” – Mikayla S. Girls can TOTALLY lust after boys, I myself struggle with that. One thing that REALLY bothers me is when guys wear those "muscle shirts”… – Erin G. I have to agree with Erin. Some girls are visual, too. It's not just a guy problem. I have the same problem when a guy walks around shirtless… – Giann Hip bones is a big one for me! Keep them covered, guys! – Evy J.

v What Makes Men Stumble? Most young men, when asked said: “Anything shorter than slightly above the knee was immodest. ”

v What. Makes. Women Men Stumble? "Sometimes, when I see a girl provocatively dressed, I'll say to myself, ‘She probably doesn't know that a hundred and one guys are going to devour her in their minds today…” – Kevin

v What. Makes. Women Men Stumble? "The one place where I might think I wouldn't have to face as much temptation is at church, but this is not always the case. When ladies whom I'm friends with dress immodestly, it definitely has a negative effect on our friendship. When a woman dresses immodestly it makes it difficult to see her as a sister in Christ. There is a constant battle going on as I'm talking with her. Communication becomes more difficult as I'm trying to listen to her, because I'm trying to fight temptation. "– Jack

Am I Consistent? Do our standards change depending on the situation? 1 Peter 2: 1 -2 laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy…

Test Can the preacher preach in it?

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3 Modesty Principles Society Lust Consistency

How To Help 1. Realize your impact on others • God created us to be attractive to one another. • We can incite others to sin, and we will be held responsible for making others stumble. • Don’t encourage immodest dress, (ie: “liking” pictures on social media that you have no business seeing, much less publicly approving of immodesty).

How To Help 2. Make it more difficult to do. • Remove yourself from immodest situations. • Get rid of ill fitting clothing – you can’t be tempted to wear it if you don’t have it. • Go shopping with sound Christians who won’t be afraid to give honest feedback.

How To Help 3. Have accountability. • Let brethren know that you want their honest feedback on what you’re wearing. • Check yourself before you leave the house in the morning, have someone else check you as well. • Don’t let yourself off the hook with excuses.

Self Deceptions • • “It doesn’t affect me, I can handle it. ” “If you don’t like what I’m wearing don’t look. ” “It’s not my fault that other people have dirty minds. ” “At least I don’t… / At least I’m better than…” “I’m not hurting anybody/It’s none of your business. ” “I have to wear this if I’m going to be on the team/get the scholarship/make so & so happy. ” “I’ve got to be comfortable. I can’t swim, while wearing that. ” “I just don’t think it’s wrong. ”

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