MIKE MAZZALONGO 12 8 Steps to Intimacy INTIMACY

MIKE MAZZALONGO 12 8 Steps to Intimacy

INTIMACY It isn’t a house or children or money that keeps a marriage going, it’s intimacy.

Total Intimacy Requires Development in 3 Areas: 1. Intellectual / Emotional Intimacy – Effective Communication

Total Intimacy Requires Development in 3 Areas: 1. Intellectual / Emotional Intimacy 2. Physical Intimacy – Wholesome Sexuality

Total Intimacy Requires Development in 3 Areas: 1. Intellectual / Emotional Intimacy 2. Physical Intimacy 3. Spiritual Intimacy – Worship / Prayer / Study

Song of Solomon • Relationship between God and His people in the Old Testament • Relationship between Christ and His church in the New Testament • Simple intimate relationship between a man and a women

Song of Solomon • A Young Bride – The “Shulammite” • The King – Solomon • A Chorus – Palace ladies called the daughter of Jerusalem

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. Strong Physical Attraction The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s. 2 “May he kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine. 1 - Song of Solomon 1: 1 -2

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. Strong Physical Attraction 2. A Purified Character “Your oils have a pleasing fragrance, Your name is like purified oil; - Song of Solomon 1: 3 a

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character 3. The Respect of Others Therefore the maidens love you. - Song of Solomon 1: 3 b

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. 3. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character The Respect of Others 4. Biblical Balance “Draw me after you and let us run together! The king has brought me into his chambers. ” - Song of Solomon 1: 4 a

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. 3. 4. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character The Respect of Others Biblical Balance 5. Security in the Relationship

“I am black but lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, Like the tents of Kedar, 6 Like the curtains of Solomon. “Do not stare at me because I am swarthy, For the sun has burned me. My mother’s sons were angry with me; They made me caretaker of the vineyards, But I have not taken care of my own vineyard. 5 - Song of Solomon 1: 5 -6

“I am the rose of Sharon, The lily of the valleys. ” - Song of Solomon 2: 1

“My beloved is mine, and I am his; He pastures his flock among the lilies. - Song of Solomon 2: 16

“I am my beloved’s, And his desire is for me. - Song of Solomon 7: 10

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character The Respect of Others Biblical Balance Security in the Relationship 6. Give Praise

8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character The Respect of Others Biblical Balance Security in the Relationship Give Praise 7. Continual Focus “My beloved is to me a pouch of myrrh Which lies all night between my breasts. - Song of Solomon 1: 13

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8 Steps to Intimacy 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Strong Physical Attraction A Purified Character The Respect of Others Biblical Balance Security in the Relationship Give Praise Continual Focus 8. Spiritual Oneness “The beams of our houses are cedars, Our rafters, cypresses. - Song of Solomon 1: 17

Marriage without faith = Good / Possible Marriage with 1 faithful = Better / Probable Marriage with both faithful = Best / Complete

INTIMACY Spiritual → Emotional → Physical

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