Maximum Sex 1 Thessalonians 4 Last Week 1

Maximum Sex 1 Thessalonians 4

Last Week 1 Thess. 3: 12 -13 And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows… Me My ‘Tribe’ Tribal Love Sphere • Love for one another Diffuse Love Sphere • …and for all people Mature Love ‘Them’

Last Week 1 Thess. 3: 12 -13 Fragile And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows… Fears Tribal Prison • “Love for one another. ” Rules • Can’t love beyond a narrow & controlled world Me Stuck My ‘Tribe’ Weak ‘Them’ Cold

Last Week 1 Thess. 3: 12 -13 Float And may the Lord make your love for one another and for all people grow and overflow, just as our love for you overflows… Unloved • Can’t build stable love relationships Needy. My ‘Tribe’ Diffuse Prison Not • “…and for all secure people” Me Weak ‘Them’ Victim

Last Week 1 Thess. 3: 12 -13 Tribal Diffuse • Love for one another • …and for all people Me My ‘Tribe’ ‘Them’ Strength Courage

The ‘Strong Heart’ 3: 12 -13 May he as a result make your hearts: A Big Heart of Heart Gold: of Strong, A “love bank”. Working as-designed Holds & exchanges love feelings. Like God’s heart Emotional strength to handle it. Standing before God as His son The emotional security of identity. Change over a lifetime Confidence in the future (real hope). With the ‘community of the saints’ Where many others come inside. Glass

The ‘Strong Heart’ 3: 12 -13 It Should Be: It Can Be: A “love bank”. A BLACK HOLE Holds & exchanges love feelings. SHALLOW & EASILY-EMPTIED The emotional strength to deal with life. RISK-AVERSIVE The emotional security of identity. INSECURE (no identity) Confidence in the future (real hope). DESPAIRING (no future) Where many others come inside. CLOSED SHUT

Building the Love Bank (4: 1 -2) 1 Finally then, brethren, we request and exhort you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you excel still more. 2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. (NASB)

Building the Love Bank (4: 1 -2) #2 #1 then, brethren, we request and exhort Instructions Interaction you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received we left you with God 1 Finally from us instruction as to how you ought to walk and please God (just as you actually do walk), that you excel still more. How’s He will Maturity We need is taught convict it 2 For you know what knowledge commandments we gave (learned) & lead going? you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. (NASB) 2 For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. (4: 2)

Building the Love Bank (4: 3 -5) will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 4 Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor— 5 not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways. (NLT) Become like God FEELINGS VALUE S 3 God’s › Mature & strong love Stay Away from Pornea › “Dirty Love” is “Dirty” › Foundational (1 Co. 6) Sexual expertise: › › Is MAXIMUM SEX Rising above animals Living in dignity & honor Unlike ignorant ‘pagans’

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