Mate Selection Theories How do people choose their
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Mate Selection Theories How do people choose their partners?
Mate Selection Theories Social Homogamy Ideal Mate Theory Developmental Perspective Evolutionary Psychology Social Exchange Theory Filter Theory
Social Homogamy People are attracted to those from similar backgrounds. Areas of similarity: Age, race, ethnic background, socioeconomic status, political views, religion, similar appearance status, proximity (live nearby). Similarities ensure that couples will manage their shared resources more efficiently and with less conflict. Best explains arranged marriages � Parents seek out a partner who is similar to their son/daughter
Ideal Mate Theory Attraction is based on an individual’s unconscious image of the ideal partner. This is based on their perceptions of the meaning of certain physical characteristics and social status. People assess their resources (attractiveness, wealth, personality, and social status) and look for a mate who will be attracted to these resources and/or traits.
…Ideal Mate (continued) Most will find a mate in society because individuals are attracted to different people. We don’t all find the same things attractive. Supports the idea of “love at first sight, ” since everyone has an unconscious ideal with which they compare a person to find him/her attractive. This helps them make the immediate comparison or judgement of a person as loveable or unloveable.
Developmental Perspective Individuals are unable to relate to someone else without first understanding who they are and what their roles in life are. They must understand what they have to offer another person and what they want or need in return. If they don’t have a sense of who they are (their identity) prior to forming romantic relationships, the relationship defines their identity.
Evolutionary Psychology In prehistoric times, mate selection was based on reproduction and the ability to procreate future generations. Women preferred men who would be good fathers and providers for their children. � Sought out men who were healthy, intelligent, welleducated, hard-working, and ambitious. Men preferred women who could bear healthy babies, feed their kids, and were intelligent and well-tempered to raise them. � Sought out women who were attractive, young, healthy, had wider hips than their waist (a sign of fertility).
Social Exchange Theory Individuals will analyze their assets and deficits (flaws). They will look for a partner who balances their assets and deficits. They will seek to get ahead or to move up through successful mate selection. Best explains marriages of older, wealthier men/women with young, attractive men/women.
Murstein’s Filter Theory Explained the relationship among dating, social homogamy, and social exchange as a multi-step process. He uses the analogy of ‘sifting’ to suggest that individuals pass their dates through a series of ‘filters’ to screen out unacceptable marriage partners.
Field of Eligibles Who is available? Propinquity Who is realistically attainable? Who do I know? Attraction Looks at appearance and personality preferences. Homogamy Look for similarities in values, age, race, religion, etc. Compatibility Do their attitudes, values, needs, temperament, roles, and habits mesh well with mine? Trial Cohabiting? Engagement? Decision Have I made a good choice? Marriage
Sternberg’s Love Triangle Intimacy Passion Commitment
Intimacy Emotional side of a relationship Closeness Sharing Support Communication Intimacy Increases steadily throughout a relationship – eventually levels out
Passion Passion Motivational part of a relationship Leads to physiological arousal An intense desire Develops quickly
Commitment Cognitive side of a relationship Short-term decision to love Long-term decision to maintain that love Commitment Grows and develops Non-existent when a relationship fizzles out
Sternberg’s Love Triangle � The AREA and SHAPE of the triangle indicates the amount and form of love Intimacy Passion Commitment
Friendship I Romantic Companionate Consummate P C Empty Fatuous Infatuated Non-Love
Non-Love • • Absence of all three components Describes the majority of our personal relationships
Friendship • I Refers to the feelings experienced in true friendships
Infatuated Love • • P The “love at first sight” feeling High degree of physiological arousal
Empty Love • • C When a relationship has become dull Typical of arranged marriages – at the start
Romantic Love • I P • Physical attraction paired with an intimate relationship Typical of affairs since there’s no commitment
Fatuous Love • • • P C Hollywood Love Relationship progresses quickly Very little long-term success
Companionate Love • I • C Describes a long-term friendship/ union that lacks any physical attraction Seen in lengthy marriages
Consummate Love • I • • P C The goal of many couples Difficult, but not impossible, to attain Challenging to maintain it
Lee’s Styles of Loving Another perspective on Love
Styles of Loving Companionate Romantic Altruistic Egotistic Manic Pragmatic
Companionate Rooted in long-term friendship and loyalty Evolves gradually towards love Stable, non-demanding, committed, and trusting Opposite of manic love
Romantic An intense desire to care for their partner Strong, physical connection Desire to be inseparable
Egotistic Self-serving love More interested in the “game” of love May engage in several relationships simultaneously Goal is to get partner hooked without investing your own emotions into the relationship
Altruistic Places partner’s needs above their own May pass up better relationships rather than abandon a bad one Opposite of egotistic love
Manic An irrational, crazy passion Possessive and clingy Intense to the point of being all consuming
Pragmatic A rational, practical, logical choice in partner Lacks emotional intensity Involves a careful evaluation of their qualities with your own
Do’s and Don’ts of the Assignment Do not title your assignment, “Want Ad Assignment. ” Be creative with a catchy title or question to peak the interest of your readers. There should be more than one paragraph for each of your advertisement and your analysis. One huge paragraph is difficult to read. Consider what you are including in each paragraph. Do not list your qualities with commas. Elaborate on each of your qualities with an example or a “for instance. ” Be creative with your font. Times new roman isn’t very interesting. You may use more than one theory, but be specific in your analysis with how each theory applies. Also, you must discuss two theories if two are evident in your advertisement. Do NOT put your name or any identifying information on the front of your ad. Do NOT use your real cell number or email address. Put your name on the back only.
Analysis Layout Introduction – include theory of mate selection, form of love, and style of loving Theory of Mate Selection – include a brief description of theory (in your own words), and several quotations from your advertisement to support your theory Form of Love (Sternberg) – brief description of the form (in your own words), and support from your advertisement Style of Loving (Lee) – brief description of the style of love (in your own words), and support from your advertisement
Supporting Your Analysis Example: In my relationship advertisement, I indicate that, “I am honest to the point where sometimes I come across blunt and rude. This trait needs to be appreciated by someone who won’t be overly sensitive and who might retort with similar bluntness. ” This specifically relates to Social Homogamy, a theory of mate selection, in which people look for others who display similar personality traits. Furthermore, I go on to say that…
SUCCESS CRITERIA PLEASE ATTACH THIS ASSIGNMENT SHEET TO YOUR FINISHED PRODUCT WHEN SUBMITTING FOR MARKING /1 /5 /5 /5 /1 /20 /5 Your gender and gender you are seeking Qualities/personality traits you possess Qualities you seek in a partner Creativity and presentation Type of relationship you seek Analysis – Theory of Mate Selection Spelling/grammar conventions /10 Analysis – Form of Love (Sternberg) /10 Analysis – Style of Loving (Lee)
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