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Managing the Rollercoaster Ride of Your Student’s First Year Dr. Christina Spearman Assistant Dean of Students and Director of Student Life
Do you like rollercoasters? �Changes in the first semester of college can feel like an emotional rollercoaster ride for students and parents/guardians. �This session will explore developmental changes first year college students experience, particularly with today’s cultural influences, and discuss ways parents/guardians and University administrators can partner to help students manage the ride.
Question: �How many parents/guardians are sending their first child to college? �Of those who have sent other children, how many of you noticed changes in their first year?
Who are they? �Are college students children or adults? �Do they consider themselves children or adults? �New term-Emerging Adulthood (Arnett, 2000) ◦ 18 -25 ◦ Become more independent and explore various life possibilities ◦ Can last until 30
Factors that can Have an Impact on Emerging Adulthood �“World’s Longest Umbilical Cord” –Dr. Richard Mullendore
Factors that can Have an Impact on Emerging Adulthood �Helicopter versus Snow Plow �Learned Helplessness �Lack of Self Efficacy �Cluttered Nest versus Empty Nest
Developing Competence �Intellectual/Academic ◦ Reading a syllabus ◦ Establishing a relationship with faculty ◦ Study habits and time management �Academic Resources ◦ Tutoring at the Study in Jenkins Hall (shift from being the tutor) ◦ Workshops on time management, note taking, and course management ◦ Writing Center in Maryland Hall to help with critical writing skills
Interpersonal/Social Competence �Question-How many of your students had their own rooms at home? �Difference between siblings and roommates �Adjustment to communal living away from home �Successful communal living requires Civility, Communication, and Compromise �Cleanliness is also important
Interpersonal/Social Competence �Need to establish a new friend group and support network �Many are leaving long-term friendships behind �“Get in where you fit in” �Need to balance free time and get involved in productive ways �Identity development and “sense of belonging”
Managing Emotions �One of the primary factors that leads to the conduct process �Still growing into emotional maturity �May look “grown up” but looks can be deceiving �Reminder of emerging adulthood �Venting versus asking for help
Managing Emotions �Brain is still developing well into 20 s �Need to understand, accept, and express emotions �Difficulty of face-to-face communication and impact of technology ◦ Stream of consciousness for the whole Internet �Dealing with anxiety, depression, and/or other mental health concerns
Moving Through Autonomy Toward Interdependence �They are now in charge of their schedule full time �For many of you, this used to be your job
Moving Through Autonomy Toward Interdependence �They have to begin navigating their own challenges with your support and guidance �Total independence is not the goal-Interdependence is key �What do you do when they call you with a problem?
How to Support Your Student �Help them brainstorm resources �Parents/guardians are powerful referral agents �Help them practice conversations �Resist the urge to immediately step in �Remind them of the resources in the Loyola community
Shared Goals �We want to partner with you �We often want the same things �We may have different methods �What is most beneficial for emerging adults? �Who is the best person to help this emerging adult? �Students have to begin to take ownership for their Loyola experience and learn to problem solve
Trust the Process!
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