MANAGING CONFLICT Managing Conflict Finding common ground Providing

MANAGING CONFLICT

Managing Conflict • Finding common ground • Providing tools to settle disputes • Stepping in to make unilateral decisions (on rare occasions)

Opening Exercise

Be Aware of Yourself • Why is the issue important? • Does it really matter?

Be Aware of Others • • Trust Experience Understand Care

Set the Scene for Cooperative Resolutions • Listen • Pay Attention • “Involvement, Involvement!”

The Most Important Question “What do you want? ”

Questions for Conflict Resolution 1. 2. 3. 4. What do you want? What are you doing to get it? Is it working? Consider alternate approach?

Effective Communication in Conflict Situations 1. 2. 3. 4. Spoken Words Tone of Voice Body Language Emotions

Negotiating Limits and Rules

Negotiating Limits and Rules • Be clear about boundaries • Stick to them • Involve the group in determining those limits

Cooperative Approach • Ideal Approach • Engages Everyone • Find Own Solution

Proscriptive Approach • What I want. • What I understand you are doing. • Why that isn’t working for me. • What I need you to do.

Leader Group Contract My Job Is Your Job Is • Ensure your safety • Tell me when you don’t feel safe • Help me ensure your safety • Be honest with me • Treat me with respect • Help you • Be honest with you • Treat you with respect

Conclusion Ultimate goals of conflict resolution: – to build on common ground – to listen – to find solutions