LOVE vs Infatuation The Giving Tree By Shel

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LOVE vs. Infatuation

LOVE vs. Infatuation

The Giving Tree By: Shel Silverstein

The Giving Tree By: Shel Silverstein

n How would you describe the kind of love the tree had? n How

n How would you describe the kind of love the tree had? n How would you describe the kind of love the boy had? n How did you describe love?

Love is a feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling

Love is a feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling you’ve never felt before.

LOVE n n n according to Webster’s Dictionary Strong affection for another arising out

LOVE n n n according to Webster’s Dictionary Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. Attraction based on sexual desire, affection, and tenderness felt. Connection based on admiration, benevolence, unselfish loyalty, concern for the good of another, or common interests Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion, to hold dear. A score of zero, holding one’s opponent scoreless in tennis.

We know for sure that…. n Love is vital to the well-being of a

We know for sure that…. n Love is vital to the well-being of a person – Elderly in rest homes or without spouse n Love is based on and best expressed through trust, honesty, and respect. n There are many types of love that we receive daily. n Before you can love anyone else, you must first love yourself = Self Love

Unconditional love n Showing love towards someone regardless of his or her actions or

Unconditional love n Showing love towards someone regardless of his or her actions or beliefs

SELF-LOVE n Respect and concern for self n An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love.

SELF-LOVE n Respect and concern for self n An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love.

COMPANIONSHIP LOVE. Typically found in good friendships

COMPANIONSHIP LOVE. Typically found in good friendships

PLATONIC LOVE n Spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman. n

PLATONIC LOVE n Spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman. n Non sexual, no physical attraction

MANIC LOVE n. A crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love.

MANIC LOVE n. A crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love.

PRAGMATIC LOVE A rational reasoning kind of love. Arranged marriage

PRAGMATIC LOVE A rational reasoning kind of love. Arranged marriage

ROMANTIC LOVE Also known as “puppy love”, is an exaggerated form of love.

ROMANTIC LOVE Also known as “puppy love”, is an exaggerated form of love.

ALTRUISTIC LOVE Selfless love, or concern for the spouse.

ALTRUISTIC LOVE Selfless love, or concern for the spouse.

SEXUAL LOVE The intimate expression of love. This type of love is best saved

SEXUAL LOVE The intimate expression of love. This type of love is best saved for a committed couple

Love vs. Infatuation n n Happens quickly Short-lived Physical thrills Jealousy Rush to marry

Love vs. Infatuation n n Happens quickly Short-lived Physical thrills Jealousy Rush to marry n n n Grows slowly Long lasting Trust More realistic More thoughtful

Each group will divide the statements about love into two piles. Infatuation and Love

Each group will divide the statements about love into two piles. Infatuation and Love

Love is ……. . n n n n * Grows slowly, beginning with friendship

Love is ……. . n n n n * Grows slowly, beginning with friendship * Lasts over a long period of time * Involves the entire character and personality of the partner * The relationship grows and matures as time passes * Little jealousy—accepting of one another's feelings * Work harder at assigned tasks * Less emotional and moody—more happy and kind * Opinions of other people are not as important * Fun times and friendship are more important than a physical relationship * Share common interests * Enjoy being together without need of expensive entertainment * Trust and have confidence in self and in the relationship * Trust the partner * There is no rush to make decisions—the future is planned with confidence * More vital, more energy * See life realistically

Infatuation is ………. n n n n n Is common during teen years *

Infatuation is ………. n n n n n Is common during teen years * Grows rapidly—love at first sight * Does not last long * Occurs shortly after breaking up with someone—known as “on the rebound” * Is centered on a few admired traits in the other person * Is often based on physical traits or feelings * Does not see or acknowledge the other person's weaknesses * The relationship stays the same for a long time—does not go anywhere * Selfish and possessive of the other person—jealous * Disagreements are common -- fighting * Daydream—cannot concentrate on necessary tasks * May lose your appetite * Is easily influenced by the person they are infatuated with * Creates a selfish relationship—"How can he/she help me get what I want? " * Other people's opinions matter too much * May be based on physical enjoyment–a couple who finds themselves bored without physical stimulation * Feelings of insecurity * Lack of trust in partner * Feels a real need to marry * Causes lack of ambition and to disregard problems

WEB Money and status Sex Physical looks INFATUATION LOVE

WEB Money and status Sex Physical looks INFATUATION LOVE

A Love Attitude Scale

A Love Attitude Scale

Ladder of Love Mature love for others Love for children Love for the opposite

Ladder of Love Mature love for others Love for children Love for the opposite sex Love for same sex friend First love outside the family Love of other relatives Love for secondary caregiver Love for primary caregiver Self-love

Love Is…… Write down 10 things that you think love is…

Love Is…… Write down 10 things that you think love is…