Integral Love Relationship 1 Evolution of Consciousness 2

Integral Love Relationship 1

Evolution of Consciousness 2

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Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 4

1. Infrared Archaic - dead or alive Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Basic survival instincts. Oneness with nature. No conscious awareness of interior, past or future. 5

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 6

2. Magenta Magic/Superstitious safe or unsafe Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Deep bonding with family, group or tribe. No individuality. False beliefs in the magic. 7

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 8

3. Red Egocentric - good or bad (for me) Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Power, independence, creativity, spontaneity, uninhibited, carefree, alive, authentic, refreshingly open, setting of narrow boundaries. It’s all about me and now. 9

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 10

4. Amber Mythic/Conformist right or wrong Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Stability, order, purpose, rules, loyalty, hope, recognition, morals, honors past and considers future. Mythic beliefs. Only one right way. Marginalizes non-conformists. Inflexible, rigid, patriarchal. 11

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 12

5. Orange Rational/Modern win or lose Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Objectivity, good life for all, liberty, happiness, democracy. Rational, calculating, cold and driven by status and success. Little consideration for environment and losers. Kepler, Copernicus, Newton, Galileo, Columbus

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 14

6. Green Pluralistic/Postmodern sensitive or indifferent Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Equality, sensitivity, compassion, non-judgmental, holistic, caring, environmentally conscious, celebrates the feminine, animal rights, sexual liberation, authentic polyamory. Endless processing and inability to reach decisions, pre/trans fallacy, confuses natural with dominator hierarchies, performative contradictions, marginalizes men and the masculine, elevates the feminine/Goddess image. New-age narcissism. 15

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier - Being-Based/Evolutionary First Tier - Need-Based 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 16

7. Teal Integral integrated or fragmented Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Recognizes the importance of all preceding levels, including the process of development itself. Does not force own values onto others. Knowledge and competency supersede rank, power, gender, or status. Flexibility, spontaneity, and functionality become the highest priority. Frustrated, especially with Green, can be cynical, cold, calculating, distant, opportunistic, manipulative, overly analytical and arrogant. Can feel quickly discouraged and bored as it can think it has seen and had it all. Often feels isolated and alone. 17

Consciousness Development 8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial Second Tier First Tier 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive 18

8. Turquoise Postintegral embodied or conceptual Basic Qualities and Capacities Limited Views Embodiment, full embrace, interweaving, tantric, non-dual, deep ecology. Radical when it comes to ego-transcendence. Feelings of spiritual superiority Evolutionary desire to co-create and pro-create to serve universal goals with and evolutionary elitism. Gurus/teachers negligent about blind-spots and partner and others. Wisdom. uneven development. Inability to create sustainable organizational structures. 19

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Compatibility Matrix 21

Communication at the same level of consciousness, considering male/female differences Turquise – Co-Creative Teal - Validity Claims (Truth, Truthfulness and Rightness) Green – Non Violent Comm. Orange – Rational Win-Win Amber – Mythic Roles/Rules Red – Arguing and Fighting Magenta – Dominator and Vicitim 22

Four views or perspectives on self/being (1) Body, including hormones, brainwaves, behavior, impulse-response, truth. Objektivity 23

Four views or perspectives on self/being (2) Social status and enviornment. Interobjektivity 24

Four views or perspectives on self/being (3) Mind, soul, worldview, values, believes, dreams, goals, intentions, beauty. Subjektivity 25

Four views or perspectives on self/being (4) Lanuage, culture. Intersubjektivity 26

Every human possesses these four dimensions 27

Every human possesses these four dimensions 28

on ssi al Int im ac Pa Int ern al rn te Ex y Metaphorical Triangle of Love Commitment/Dependence 29

States of Falling In Love • State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. 30

Level of Passion External Attraction Ext ern She to him rn Inte rn Exte Int ern He to her 31

Primary Male Sexual Fantasy How does she look? Primary attraction to body. Men want sex objects. A man wants the one thing from every woman. 32

You. Tube „Tit for Tat“ 33

Primary Female Sexual Fantasy How does he look and ? ? ? ? Womens desires/needs/wants depend on level of their consciousness. A woman wants everything from one man. 34

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Primary Fantasy Dynamic Height 30 k per inch 45 k N u m b e r Ms. 100% Mr. 80% $0 k Male attractiveness $150 k+ Female attractiveness 36

Fear-Shame Dynamic 37

I need to feel safe, met and cared for: I feel threatened/scared; I feel abandoned/disconnected. He does not love me/care for me. F R A E 38

I need to have sex and be supported/appreciated I am not good enough to make her feel safe and happy. I am not appreciated as protector/provider. She does not look up to me. e m a h S 39

Fear/Shame Downward Spiral Stops romancing Complaining Fixing Nagging Withdrawing into his cave Shaming Angry Emasculating Sexually unfaithful Emotionally unfaithful Relationship Crash Love/Stosny: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It 40

States of Falling In Love • State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. • State 2: Attraction/Romance –love-struck phase, driven by dopamine (in cocaine, nicotine, meth), norepinephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin that all make us “temporarily insane”. Conflict, healing, growth, awakening. 41

Level of Intimacy (Interior) Interne Anziehung Ext ern She to him rn Inte rn Exte Int ern He to her 42

Spiritual STATE-STAGES 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Gross/Waking (Observe body/objects) Subtle/Dreaming (Observe thoughts) Causal/Deep Sleep (Observe experience) Pure Witness (No subject/object split) Non-Dual (Integration of the above) 43

Sexual STATE-STAGES 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Repressed Sexuality Fucking Having Sex Lovemaking Transcendent Sex 44

Personality Types Five Love Languages 1. Words of affirmation (NLP auditory) 2. Quality Time 3. Receiving Gifts (NLP visual) 4. Acts of Service 5. Physical Touch (NLP kinesthetic) 45

Personality Types Enneagram 46

Personality Types Enneagram Self Preservation Instinct Preoccupied with the safety, comfort, health, energy, and well-being of the physical body. Sexual (aka "Attraction") Instinct Intense drive for stimulation and a constant awareness of the "chemistry" between themselves and others. Social (aka "Adaptive") Instinct Serve the needs of the social situation they find themselves in. 47

States of Falling In Love • State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. • State 2: Attraction/Romance –love-struck phase, driven by dopamine (in cocaine, nicotine, meth), norepinephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin that all make us “temporarily insane”. Conflict, healing, growth, awakening. • State 3: Attachment–driven by oxytocin (produced during child birth, nursing and orgasm) and vasopressin. 48

Commitment/Dependence Interne Anziehung Ext ern rn Inte ? rn ? Sie zu ihm Exte Int ern Er zu ihr 49

n ac tim In sio s Pa y Metaphorical Triangle of Love Co-Dependence – Independence – Inter-Being – 50 Inter-Becomming

Animus Complex In Females: ØStage 1: Male as alien outsider She fears, hates and is strangely attracted to him. ØStage 2: Male as Father, God or King She wants his approval. ØStage 3: Male as Hero She wants to look up to him (marry up to him). ØStage 4: Male as Independent Being She wants to find out who she is outside male relationship. ØStage 5: Male as partner She sees him as an equal and opposite partner. 51

Anima Complex In Males: Ø Stage 1: Female as Mother He needs a mommy to take care of him. Ø Stage 2: Female as sex objects He wants her to admire him, be sexually submissive. Ø Stage 3: Female as a supportive partner He wants her to be his caring, loving wife who he provides for. Ø Stage 4: Female as creative/spiritual guides She challenges him to find meaning/love from a source other than woman. Ø Stage 5: Female as equal partner He sees her as an equal and opposite partner. 52

Metaphorical Triangles of Love 53

Integral 54

Feminine/Masculine Polarities: 55

1. Healthy ascending: To improve, to go beyond, to grow, to create (relationships/larger structures), and to think big. Unhealthy ascending: To ignore, repress, control, and dominate the lower, instead of embracing and caring for it. 2. Healthy descending: To be connected with and sensitive to the richness and fullness of the world, body, feelings, emotions, and sexuality. Unhealthy descending: To be overwhelmed, fused with, and run by details, feelings, earthly desires, and needs. 3. Healthy agency: Autonomous functioning of the individual, taking action through one’s own will, self-actualizing. Unhealthy agency: Alienation and dissociation from others. 4. Healthy communion: Peaceful, responsible, considerate, and caring connection with others. Unhealthy communion: Fusion, dependency, neediness, and clinging. 56

Masculine Feminine 57

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Purpose What is of ultimate concern to you? What do you feel most passionate about? What is your purpose? Do Good - Find Truth - Create Beauty 61

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