Ingrid Poulson Steadfast Training LIFES TOUGH SOFTEN UP

Ingrid Poulson Steadfast Training “LIFE’S TOUGH, SOFTEN UP” – Using resilience to rise again

Life’s Tough Soften Up

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Resilience is an “ordinary magic” Masten

I show I care for myself by Eating 3 pieces of fruit a day Eating 5 vegetables a day Exercising- walk Drinking 2 litres of water Having at least 2 wine free nights a week • Keeping a high standard of personal grooming • Setting goals • Recognising my wins • • •

Dr Randy Pausch“I cannot control the cards I’m dealt, only how I play the hand”

Resolve I S E

The single most important decision any of us will make. . . is whether or not to believe that the Universe is friendly -Albert Einstein

Leunig

When we change the way we look at things. . . . the things we look at change

Life is not about how fast you run or how high you climb, but how well you bounce -unknown

R Identity S E

• Self esteem • Self confidence • Self efficacy

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change -Darwin

Sensory Cortex High Road Sensory Thalamus Amygdala Low Road Emotional Stiumulus Le doux (1996) Emotional Responses

• Rumination and co-rumination

This is how it is Not how it was Might have been Should have been Not how I want it to be Hoped it would be Planned it would be I accept this is how it is Now I get on with my life In a positive way -unknown

R I Support E

• Social

Five tips for a healthier social network • Choose your friends carefully • Choose which of your existing friends you spend the most time with • Join a club whose members you want to emulate (eg cooking, running) and socialise with them • If you are with people whose emotional state or behaviours you could do without, try to avoid the natural inclination to mimic their facial expressions and postures • Be aware at all times of your susceptibility to social influence- and remember that being a social animal is mostly a good thing • New. Scientist 3 January 2009

I’ve learned that people will forget what you’ve said, people will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel Maya Angelou

R I S Everyday

We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same - Carlos Casteneda

RISE