I Need your Help Party Poopers Need Not

I Need (your) Help…. Party Poopers Need Not Apply Presented by Megg Thompson M. Ed. ECMPWTPCF Certified Behavior Consultant/Family Coach in Association with The Fitzgerald Institute of Lifelong Learning teach 1478@gmail. com 603 -706 -3288

By Dr. Haim Ginott I’ve come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element in the classroom. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. As a teacher, I possess a tremendous power to make a child’s life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or de-humanized. Choose…joy, inspiration, humor, healing, de-escalation and humanization. Choose it today…. choose it everyday!!!!!

I need (your) help: • Behavior norms, excesses and deficits • Humor • Ignoring behavior • Sticker charts • Putting out fires • Win/win relationships • Adjustment • Self-sacrificing

Behavior: Norms: anything that supports or falls within the laws of society. Excesses: It is a behavior we do too frequently, too long a period of time, or with too much force, strength or intensity. (talking, moving, fidgeting, laughing, poop!) Deficits: It is a behavior we don’t do enough to reap the benefits, long enough or with enough force, strength or intensity. (focus, impulse control, self-regulation, humor)

Humor: Life is too short to be serious all the time…. if you can’t laugh at your self… call me (603 -706 -3288)…. . I’ll laugh at you!

Poop is funny!

Ignoring Behavior: • Please stop!

Even the most senseless behavior makes sense to the person doing it. What are the common messages our behavior communicates? • I want to be noticed. • I want an emotional response from you. • I do not want to talk to you. • I want social interaction. • I do not want you near me. • I need to know specifically what is expected of me right now. • I feel mad. • I cannot manage all these demands. • This is too difficult. • I feel unsafe. • I need a break.

Sticker Charts • Blind obedience • 5 years old and older: We should expect 90% compliance • Behavior is a symptom of a problem…. . is the problem ever a sticker? • Real life experience: Sticker charts do not translate into real life! • Oops! I forgot the teaching piece!

Putting out Fires!

Relationships should be…. . • I win, you lose • You win, I lose • We both win

How are we alike or different? Your Profile Student’s Profile • How do I teach? • Needs • Love Languages • Multiple Intelligences • Temperament • How do they learn? • Needs • Love Languages • Multiple Intelligences • Temperament

How are we alike or different? Your Profile Student’s Profile • Communication Style • What am I good at? • Motivated By • Ideal Environment • Communication Style • What are they good at or interested in? • Motivated By • Ideal Environment

Self Sacrificing • You need to take care of and nurture yourself first and others second! • It is not selfish to take care of yourself! It is wise!