Human Services 11 Chapter 3 Human Services 12

Human Services 11 Chapter 3 (Human Services 12 Lesson 1. 3)

Note: This chapter contains so much information that is part of the Human Services 12 curriculum, that instead of covering it in sections as originally designed, we will cover this material in one day.

Effective Parenting Skills Chapter 3 Section 1 Textbook Pages: 59 - 66

Working With Young Children Improving your ability to work with children… § Ask advice from family and friends § Read about parenting (it’s always changing) § Observe how parents you admire parent § Attend parenting classes § Spend time with children (get some experience)

Parenting Supports in Our Community § Family Education & Support Centre § Maple Ridge / Pitt Meadows Community Services § Westcoast Family Centres § Cythera Transition House Society § BC Council for Families § Parents Matter § Ridge Meadows Early Childhood Development Committee

Nurturing Children Whether you are a parent or a caregiver, the needs of a child do not change. Two things that anyone working with or raising children need to do: § Provide encouragement § Provide enriching experiences

Nurturing affects Development § The lack of a nurturing environment causes deprivation. Deprivation is: § the damaging lack of material benefits considered to be basic necessities in a society § the lack or denial of something considered to be a necessity. Children need nurturing, love and affection.

Helicopter Parenting § A helicopter parent is a parent who pays extremely close attention to their child's experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. § When parents over parent their children, the children don’t learn coping skills, they lack opportunities to practice decision making and ultimately, they can suffer from lower self-esteem.

Communicating with Young Children § Use simple (age appropriate) language § Speak in a respectful tone § Approach them on their level (kneel, sit together) § Give praise as appropriate § Be positive and polite Remember that children are people too.

Discipline vs. Punishment § Punishment typically occurs after a behavior that is considered negative. § It is the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense. § Discipline typically occurs before a negative behavior and then a similar approach follows the behavior. § It is the practice of teaching children to follow rules, guidelines, or a code of behavior.

Caught in the Act (of being good) § Comment on what you see: “You made your bed this morning. ” § Don’t couple praise with corrections, this can be confusing to a child § Focus on those things a child is in control of § Ask the child what he/she is proud of, and reinforce what they identify (add to it if appropriate).

How to Choose Limits § Be understanding of the children’s wants, needs, desires § Set the limited and explain them (but avoid lectures for younger children) § Acknowledge the children’s feelings § Give alternatives when possible

Responding to Misbehavior § Does the child understand that the behavior was inappropriate? § Was the behavior intentional or was it beyond the child’s control?

Daycare, Preschool, Nanny, or Stay Home Reasons for substitute care: § Single parent with full time job § Two-parent home and both parents work § Parents want their children to have social opportunities.