Human Behavior Communication Conflict How you deal with

Human Behavior Communication/ Conflict

How you deal with conflict comes from your unique personality and what you learned growing up. How is your style like your guardians?

May respond to conflict by avoidance Remove yourself from the situation Leaving Shutting up Concealing Postponing a confrontation until a better time

Behavior description Emotionally dishonest, indirect and self- denying Listen and respond very little Do not express honest feelings Demonstrate a lack of respect for your own needs and rights

Belief System “I should never make anyone uncomfortable or displeased except myself. I’ll put up with just about anything from you; mu needs and my feelings don’t matter, you can take advantage of me”

Advantage You usually do not experience direct rejection or get blamed for anything Others think of you as nice, selfless, easy to get along with Approval is important to you

Disadvantage Take advantage of Store up anger Do not get your needs met

Respond to conflict by fight Move against another with the intent to hurt Domination

Behavior Literally or verbally attach another person Fighting, blaming, accusing, threatening, stepping on people without regard for the feelings, needs, or ideas Load, rude, sarcastic Intimidate others to overpower them

Belief System “ I have to put others down in order to protect myself; I must exert my power and control over others. This is what I want; what you want is of lesser importance or of no importance at all”

Advantage Others do no push you around Protect themselves Appear to be in control of their lives

Disadvantage Other person feels humiliated, defensive, resentful and hurt Other do not want to be around you- wind up with enemies Causes you to be more vulnerable and fearful of losing what you are fighting for: power and control May create your own destruction

Move toward your opposition until you are either closer together or on the same side Cooperative problem solving- negotiation and compromise along the way

Behavior Stand up for yourself, express your feelings, do not let others take advantage of you Considerate of others feelings Defend your rights without abusing or dominating other people Talk about things in such a way that others will listen and not be offended with the opportunity to respond

Belief “I respect myself and I have equal respect for others, too. I am not in this world to conform to others expectations, and likewise, they are not in the world to conform to my expectations. ”

Advantage Get more of what you want without making other people made Do not have to feel wrong or quality because you ventilated your feelings Develop more fulfilling relationships Feel good about yourself

Disadvantage Take some real risks in how others perceive you May experience some hurts and disappointments