How to Read your Language Body If the

How to Read your Language Body

If the eyes are the windows of the soul, then the body is the mirror of our feelings. ü 7% of the information we receive is from what they actually say. ü 38% of information we receive is from the tone, inflection and speed of their voice. üA staggering 55% of the information we receive is from their body language.

Open Arms: üA good way to show you are approachable, especially when combined with open palms Palms Up – Open Hands: üDefences down üAn open heart Palms on chest üWhen a person uses open palms that occasionally touch their chest, they are signalling honesty Outward, upward hand movements üThis conveys an open and positive message Folded arms: üA defence mechanism that shows the person is not open to what is being said or done üMay mean rejection üPhysically cold ü Stubborn in their outlook Hands closed üA closed heart

Doodling üBored Fist üAnger and to be avoided üPhysically cold üVery tense üDefiant or triumphant when held in air Yawning üBored üTired and that may have nothing to do with the situation/conversation Striding briskly: üAn outward display of confidence üAnger Ear Tugging Feet under the chair üA sign of eagerness Stroking chin üEvaluating üIndecision üPossible deception Looking around üWants to get away üThinking about something else üBored with situation / conversation

Preening üThis shows someone knows they are attractive For eg, flicking or stroking their hair or adjusting a collar and/or a tie. Nodding üThe occasional nod from a listener to a speaker is a positive message. It is an indication they are listening and are interested. üToo much nodding indicates the listener has lost interest and may be bored. Mirroring üThis is evidence of two people getting on really well. üEach person copies the other’s body language, usually subtly. Mirroring occurs with: • Breathing, Gestures, Eye movement, Leaning towards each other at the same time, Crossed or uncrossed legs Speech pattern, Arm movement, or no arm movement, Emotive energy such as being excited, relaxed, etc.

Body space üRespect for the other person’s body space is crucial in gaining their trust. Stay at least one arm’s length away from them. Gentle leg shaking üThe person is mildly stimulated üMay need to go to toilet Vigorous leg shaking üReveals apprehension and nerves üDesperate to go to the toilet Raise of eyebrows - express astonishment Envy or disbelief may be displayed by a raised eyebrow We frown – displeasure or confusion Open our mouth - Shock

• Smiling: smiling & frowning are two major facial expressions. A genuine smile means ‘I appreciate you’; ‘I accept your ideas’. A frown means ‘I find you puzzling’. • Laughter: Laughter is composed of a broad range of gesture & sounds. B ‘Ha-Ha’ is a genuine laughter. B ‘He-He’ is a mocking laughter. B ‘Hee-Hee’ suggests a secret giggle. B ‘Ho-Ho’ communicates surprise

• Ways of Looking: B Side long glance is referred to as stolen look. B Blank stare depicts boredom. B Sparkling eyes are an attribute of those who have ‘magnetic personalities’. • Glasses: B Peering over glass depicts being judgmental or critical. B Dark glasses are worn by those who conceal their genuine feelings.

THE HANDS • The Human hand is a restless organ B Limp hands show boredom. B Nervous or jittery person shows restless hands. B Clenched hands often shows frustration. B Clapping of hands shows applause.

• Putting objects in mouth is when they are busy with something. • Pinching the bridges of nose indicates a person in deep thought. • Nose rub is a sign of rejection. • Chin stroking is when people are in deep reflection. • Slapping the head signifies self punishment. • Hands behind the head is used by professionals who are confident & dominant.

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