HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGER WHAT DOES THE

HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGER • • • WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ON ANGER? Eph 4: 26, 31 - 26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: Col 3: 8 - 8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. Jas 1: 19 -20 - 19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. Pro 19: 11 - 11 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and [it is] his glory to pass over a transgression. Ecc 7: 9 - 9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. Pro 15: 18 - 18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but [he that is] slow to anger appeaseth strife. Rom 2: 8 -11 - 8 But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath, 9 Tribulation and anguish, upon every soul of man that doeth evil, of the Jew first, and also of the Gentile; 10 But glory, honour, and peace, to every man that worketh good, to the Jew first, and also to the Gentile: Pro 16: 32 - 32 [He that is] slow to anger [is] better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city. Pro 22: 24 -25 - 24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul. Psa 37: 8 - 8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. Pro 14: 29 - 29 [He that is] slow to wrath [is] of great understanding: but [he that is] hasty of spirit exalteth folly. KEY CONSIDERATIONS • Jer 17: 9 - Don’t trust your feelings. Trust the Word. • Prov 22: 3, 24 -25 – Don’t be afraid to avoid problems, tough people, etc WEBSTER’S 1828 DEFINITIONS • Wrath - Violent anger; indignation; effects of anger • Malice – To regard with ill will (Eph 4: 31) • Indignation - Anger or extreme anger, mingled with contempt, disgust 5 STEPS TO DEAL WITH ANGER 1. PRAY • Phil 4: 6 -7 – pray while giving thanks & peace of God will keep your heart 2. FOCUS MIND ON TRUTH • Titus 1: 2, Gal 2: 20, Eph 1: 3, 6, Col 2: 10 - Focus on what you have! • Rom 12: 2 – Are you spending your time worried about earthly things or are you renewing your mind in the Word • Phil 4: 8 -9 – Who really drives your anger? You need to focus YOUR mind not on the offense/issue but on things that are true, honest, lovely, etc. • 2 Tim 1: 7: Don’t be on defense. You are not on defense b/c you stand w/ Christ. Don’t fear or react w/ emotion. Be stablished w/ a sound mind. • Luk 10: 38 -42 – Regardless of how busy you are, keep your focus on Christ • Phil 2: 3 -5, Rom 12: 16 – Humility is the key. This was the mind of Christ! 3. • • • PEACE Heb 12: 14, Rom 12: 18, Rom 14: 19, Matt 5: 9 – Your goal is peace w/ others Phil 2: 14 -15, James 3: 16 -18, Prov 26: 21 – Disputing leads to confusion Rom 12: 10, 14, 17 -21, Matt 5: 42 -48 – Vengeance is not yours. You are commanded to act kind to others & to bless those that persecute you. 4. WORDS • Prov 17: 27 -28, Prov 18: 21, Eph 4: 29, Prov 18: 4 -8 – Key to peace is words • Prov 18: 19, Prov 16: 24, Prov 15: 1 – To gain peace give a heart felt apology, it will disarm the hearer • Prov 26: 4 -5 – You do not have to attend every fight you are invited to, don’t engage in foolish arguments, it validates the fool! 5. FORGIVE • Eph 4: 32, Col 3: 13, Prov 19: 11, Matt 18: 21 -22 – The key step is to deal with anger is to FORGIVE! WHY IS IT POSSIBLE TO HANDLE ANGER APPROPRIATELY? • Rom 15: 1 – Anger is a selfish emotion; there is no need to be selfish as you are strong (i. e. , you are saved), you need to support the weak! • Rom 5: 8, Matt 18: 23 -33 – Christ died for you when you didn’t deserve it!!! You have been given so much; this perspective should help you see beyond your earthly issues & focus on your hope (Rom 12: 12 & 15: 13) • 2 Cor 4: 17 -18, 1 Cor 2: 9 - Joy comes from your hope, Heaven is beyond your capacity to understand, joy in that promise