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 HOW MILLENNIAL ALLIES CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR LGBTQA+ INCLUSION ON CAMPUS AND

HOW MILLENNIAL ALLIES CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE FOR LGBTQA+ INCLUSION ON CAMPUS AND IN THE WORKPLACE Brian Germann Keith Riegel Kim Markiewicz

MILLENNIALS ARE NOW THE LARGEST GENERATION IN THE WORKFORCE

MILLENNIALS ARE NOW THE LARGEST GENERATION IN THE WORKFORCE

70% OF MILLENNIALS ARE IN FAVOR OF SAME-SEX MARRIAGE

70% OF MILLENNIALS ARE IN FAVOR OF SAME-SEX MARRIAGE

I’VE HEARD MILLENNIALS SAY… “It’s 2016 why are we even having this conversation anymore?

I’VE HEARD MILLENNIALS SAY… “It’s 2016 why are we even having this conversation anymore? ” “Thank God marriage is legal now, it’s about time we finished all that. ” “Why should anyone have to come out, it doesn’t matter. ”

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES What % of openly LGBTQ people have

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES What % of openly LGBTQ people have been harassed at work? • 12% • 25% • 38% • 51%

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES ______ percent of homeless youth are LGBTQ,

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES ______ percent of homeless youth are LGBTQ, which is disproportionate to the percentage of LGBTQ youth in the general youth population. • 10 • 20 • 30 • 40

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES • ______ percent of Transgender and Gender

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES • ______ percent of Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Adults have reported that they attempted suicide in their lifetime • 4% • 22% • 41% • 53% http: //williamsinstitute. law. ucla. edu/wp-content/uploads/AFSP-Williams-Suicide-Report-Final. pdf, n=6, 456

NON-DISCRIMINATION LAWS IN THE US

NON-DISCRIMINATION LAWS IN THE US

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES 38% of openly LGBTQ people have been

THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY STILL FACES MANY CHALLENGES 38% of openly LGBTQ people have been harassed at work. LGBTQ adolescents are more than twice as likely to have 2 X attempted suicide as their straight, cisgender peers. 21 28 40% 35 trans women were killed in the US in 2015. The 2016 number was 19 in early September. It is legal to fire someone based on their sexual orientation in 28 US states and it is legal to fire someone based on their gender expression or gender identity in 30 US States. of homeless youth are LGBTQ, which is disproportionate to the percentage of LGBTQ youth in the general youth population. Because of violence, the life expectancy of a trans woman of color is only 35 years old.

WHAT DOES ALLY MEAN? to join another person, group, etc. , in order to

WHAT DOES ALLY MEAN? to join another person, group, etc. , in order to give support Everyone has the capacity to be an ally for someone else

Ready…Set…Now what?

Ready…Set…Now what?

ALLIES TAKE ACTION • Accept responsibility for making a change • Understand your privilege

ALLIES TAKE ACTION • Accept responsibility for making a change • Understand your privilege • Educate yourself • Tell others about your commitment

IF YOU ARE STRAIGHT AND/OR CISGENDER, UNDERSTAND YOUR PRIVILEGE You don’t know what you

IF YOU ARE STRAIGHT AND/OR CISGENDER, UNDERSTAND YOUR PRIVILEGE You don’t know what you don’t know. Sometimes we don’t realize we’re not seeing the whole picture. Take the time to learn about the issues Protections within your organization might not be enough Are there state laws in place that support the LGBTQ community?

EXAMPLES OF PRIVILEGE 70% of Non-LGBTQ employees believe it is "unprofessional" to discuss sexual

EXAMPLES OF PRIVILEGE 70% of Non-LGBTQ employees believe it is "unprofessional" to discuss sexual orientation or gender identity in the workplace. And yet cisgender people never worry about their pronouns and heterosexual people come out all the time. They don’t even think about it because their identity is so mainstream! My husband I are spending Christmas with his family. Oh I loved that movie! My boyfriend and I saw it together last week!

LEARN THE KEY TERMS • Queer is a controversial term because it used to

LEARN THE KEY TERMS • Queer is a controversial term because it used to be used as a slur. Some young people have ‘reclaimed’ it and now embrace it as an umbrella term to describe all identities in the LGBT community, while many LGBT people still reject the use of this term. L – lesbian G – gay B – bisexual T – transgender • Transgender is an umbrella term for those who do not identify Q – questioning / queer with the gender they were assigned at birth. A – asexual / ally • This includes binary trans people (ex: FTM, MTF) and also P – pansexual genderqueer, gender nonconforming, genderfluid, nonbinary I – intersex folks etc. • Outdated words like “transgendered” and “transsexual” might offend some folks • Cisgender is the term that refers to those who identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.

Four Different Concepts Gender Identity – How you, in your mind, define your gender

Four Different Concepts Gender Identity – How you, in your mind, define your gender Gender Expression – The way you present gender, through your actions, dress and demeanor Sexual Orientation (Attraction) – Who you’re sexually attracted to Assigned Gender at Birth – the physical sex characteristics you’re born with and develop (including genitalia, body shape, voice pitch, body hair, hormones, chromosomes, etc)

EDUCATE YOURSELF • Ask Google or a friend, not an LGBTQ stranger • Think

EDUCATE YOURSELF • Ask Google or a friend, not an LGBTQ stranger • Think about where you currently get your news and what media you consume (TV Shows, magazines, books) • Don’t rely on traditional media • Digital community has higher LGBTQ representation • Get to “know” more LGBTQ people & learn from people outside your community on You. Tube • LGBT You. Tube Recommendations - Vloggers Ashley Mardell, Skylar Kergil, & Kat Blaque, PBS ‘First Person’ hosted by Kristin Russo • Diversify your sources of news – rather than only get your news from major networks, read some minority-led blogs and news-sites or articles written by LGBTQ people

REMEMBER, AS YOU’RE LEARNING, IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES!

REMEMBER, AS YOU’RE LEARNING, IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES!

PRACTICE INCLUSION • Clearly state your inclusive membership policy – Include a copy on

PRACTICE INCLUSION • Clearly state your inclusive membership policy – Include a copy on your website & recruitment handouts • Expand your diversity efforts – • Ensure allies play a role in your LGBTQ ERG. • Work with your ERG to inform your website blocking policies; sometimes appropriate, informative LGBTQ sites are blocked • Build programs that prepare employees to become diversity and inclusion “change agents” • Partner with an LGBT organization (ex: o. STEM, campus LGBT group or LGBT ERGs) to host diversity in engineering events • Celebrate & Share LGBTQ stories – Highlight icons like Sally Ride as a Role Model for young engineers

MAKE YOUR LANGUAGE INCLUSIVE • Avoid gendering people • Don’t assume all of your

MAKE YOUR LANGUAGE INCLUSIVE • Avoid gendering people • Don’t assume all of your members are a certain gender • Call your teammates “colleagues” or “members” versus saying they’re the girls/guys • Be intentional about being inclusive • Tell people that you “promote a positive environment where everyone is included and accepted” • Don’t put people in boxes • People have genders, clothes do not • Gendered language or restrictions based on stereotypical gender roles can oppress and offend • Example: Don’t define Formal Wear as “suits for men; dresses for women. ” Instead you can define Formal Wear as “suits and dresses” • Avoid binary language • “partner/spouse” instead of “wife/husband” • “folks” instead of “ladies and gentlemen”

BE VISIBLE Don’t put the burden of visibility on LGBTQ people. Visibly advocate for

BE VISIBLE Don’t put the burden of visibility on LGBTQ people. Visibly advocate for LGBTQ inclusion According to Catalyst, Millennials seek sponsors when they want to change jobs or feel unhappy with their current role. Finding someone they can relate to is important for retention. Compile a campus/site “Out List” or “Safe Space List” Use physical representation like ally symbols or ‘safe space’ symbols as a conversation starter

WHY USE PRONOUN STICKERS? • They prompt a conversation about gender and raise awareness

WHY USE PRONOUN STICKERS? • They prompt a conversation about gender and raise awareness that gender is complex. • They create a welcoming environment for people of all genders. • They make it easy to know which pronouns to use when you aren't sure. • They allow people with uncommon pronoun-sets to communicate them easily.

Speak up • Take action when you see or hear something non-inclusive

Speak up • Take action when you see or hear something non-inclusive

ROLE PLAY FORMAT 1 min • Presenters will set the scene and introduce the

ROLE PLAY FORMAT 1 min • Presenters will set the scene and introduce the situation • Audience discuss with your neighbor(s) and determine 2 min how you’d handle the situation 2 min 1 min • Review Audience Discussions/Feedback • Presenters share recommendations

THE ENGAGEMENT Your colleague Ashley tells you she got engaged over the weekend. You

THE ENGAGEMENT Your colleague Ashley tells you she got engaged over the weekend. You ask “Oh congratulations, who’s the lucky guy? ” She replies, “Actually, her name is Rachel. ” How do you respond?

HOW TO RECOVER WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE • Don’t ignore it but also

HOW TO RECOVER WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE • Don’t ignore it but also don’t make it a big deal • Acknowledge your mistake with a quick “sorry” and move on with the conversation What You Could Say Next “Oh I’m sorry. Congratulations to you and Rachel! What was the proposal like? ’

THE SUIT Sally, a woman on your team, arrives at a formal corporate function

THE SUIT Sally, a woman on your team, arrives at a formal corporate function wearing this The other women on your team are wearing gowns. One of your customers points to Sally and asks “is that gentleman on your team? ” How do you proceed?

HOW TO RESPOND WHEN SOMEONE IS MISGENDERED • Say their name, correct the pronoun

HOW TO RESPOND WHEN SOMEONE IS MISGENDERED • Say their name, correct the pronoun and introduce the person by giving some detail about the person that is not related to their attire or gender. • Share some of their accomplishments, interests, education background, etc. just like you would when introducing a gender-conforming person What You Could Say Next “Oh that’s Sally, yes she joined our team last year. She handles all our customer accounts and is an engineering grad from UD just like you! Let me introduce you two. ”

THE GOSSIP Last week, your teammate Jim came out to you as transgender and

THE GOSSIP Last week, your teammate Jim came out to you as transgender and asked you to start using “She/Her” pronouns and her new name – Janet. You’re an ally so she also asked you to be one of her champions, so that if someone else has questions, you can help. Today, Alex, one of your other colleagues, comes to your office and says “Did you hear Jim wants to be called Janet and thinks he’s a woman? ” As someone with all the facts, how do you respond to Alex’s question?

HOW TO BE A CHAMPION FOR SOMEONE WHO IS COMING OUT AS TRANSGENDER •

HOW TO BE A CHAMPION FOR SOMEONE WHO IS COMING OUT AS TRANSGENDER • You don’t know where Alex heard this news – so start by clarifying whether Alex heard this directly from Janet or if they heard this through the grapevine. If they heard it through the grapevine, you may want to address the gossip. Especially if you’re a supervisor you want to know how others in your workgroup are dealing with the news. • Realize that Alex may not intend for their comments to be confrontational, they might be feeling you out to see how you react. Use the opportunity to be a role model. • Respond to Alex’s use of “he” pronouns and the name “Jim” • Explain to Alex that Janet has asked to be referred to with “she” pronouns, not “he” pronouns and that Alex should respect and honor Janet’s request. Using the right name and pronouns shows that you respect a person’s identity. • Use this as a Teachable Moment • Describe the difference between assigned at birth sex and gender identity and the importance of respecting one’s gender identity • Help Alex to understand why it’s important to use the correct pronouns • Discourage the use of Janet’s birth name (Jim) if she’s outright asked you to call her Janet • Ask Alex if they have any questions about transgender identities that you can help answer. Point them in the direction of helpful resources if they want to learn more.

THE BREAK ROOM In the break room while you’re getting coffee, a group of

THE BREAK ROOM In the break room while you’re getting coffee, a group of people are talking near the watercooler. You overhear Casey tell the group a homophobic joke. Most people are laughing. What do you do?

HOW TO SPEAK UP AGAINST BIAS Use Facts • Explain why a word or

HOW TO SPEAK UP AGAINST BIAS Use Facts • Explain why a word or phrase is considered a slur (ie: provide the history or explain why it’s insulting) • What You Could Say Next: “Using ‘That’s gay’ to mean that something is bad or stupid is hurtful. Gay doesn’t mean stupid. ” Make it About You • What You Could Say Next: “I consider myself a straight ally and what you said isn’t ok with me because I don’t like to hear a group of people being stereotyped and disrespected like that. ” Make your Comment Relatable • What You Could Say Next: “How would you feel if someone told that joke about you or one of your family members? ”

THE FIRST DAY OF CLASS It’s the first day of class on campus. After

THE FIRST DAY OF CLASS It’s the first day of class on campus. After going through the class roster your professor says she would like to know if you have a preferred name that she should use in class. A fellow student stands up and informs the teacher and class that neither male nor female pronouns are preferred. Instead your classmate explains a preference for only being called Kem and goes on to explain that this particular spelling of Kem was selected because it feels androgynous. Now you are asked to pair up with the person on your right for an icebreaker. Kem is your partner and you are afraid of making a mistake. What do you do?

THE FIRST DAY OF CLASS – PART 2 You are the class professor and

THE FIRST DAY OF CLASS – PART 2 You are the class professor and your student Kem has just announced a preference to not be called by male or female pronouns. The university requires that you fill out a form that indicates the gender of your students so that they can keep track of minority representation in the department. Kem’s facial features would lead you to assume one gender, but Kem’s gender expression causes you to think a different gender. The form only offers the selections of male and female. What do you do?

THE CLOSETED ENGINEER An operator who reports to you tells you that she needs

THE CLOSETED ENGINEER An operator who reports to you tells you that she needs to take Family Medical Leave to care for her ill wife. She’s not out to the rest of her teammates as lesbian and is afraid to tell them. She asks you how she should deal with the situation, how do you support her and coach your team?

HOW TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR LGBTQ COLLEAGUE / EMPLOYEE • Let her know

HOW TO BE SUPPORTIVE OF YOUR LGBTQ COLLEAGUE / EMPLOYEE • Let her know you support her and understand that this is a stressful time for her. • Give her relevant information about how to take Family Leave to take care of her wife. • Offer to be her champion and help her if she wants to come out or diffuse questions from her work group if she does not want to come out. What You Could Say Next “I’m so sorry to hear that your wife is sick, I know that when a loved one is ill it can be very stressful. Let me show you the process for applying for Family Leave. Now, if you want others to know, I’m happy to be your champion and help support you through the coming out experience. If you don’t want to come out to the group, that’s also fine and I support you regardless.

GOING FORWARD • Come out as an ally. • Educate yourself on the issues

GOING FORWARD • Come out as an ally. • Educate yourself on the issues & learn how to speak up against hate. • Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. • Realize that being an ally is a verb and demands action. • Help change the statistics and make the world more inclusive.

THANK YOU! QUESTIONS? Presentation by: Brian Germann, Brian. J. Germann@dupont. com Keith Riegel, Keith.

THANK YOU! QUESTIONS? Presentation by: Brian Germann, Brian. J. Germann@dupont. com Keith Riegel, Keith. A. Riegel@dupont. com Kim Markiewicz, Kimberly. Y. Markiewicz@dupont. com