His father taught him to hate His friends

His father taught him to hate. His friends taught him rage. His enemies gave him hope. Henry J. Nicols internationalcenterfortalentdevelopment. com Used with permission

Lamont: 'Sup, man? You getting outta here? Well, c'mon man! What the fuck you waiting on? Derek Vinyard: Yeah, you know, I got this funny feeling. Lamont: Oh yeah? What's that? Derek Vinyard: I'm thinking the only reason I'm getting outta here in one piece is you. Lamont: C'mon man! Get the fuck outta here, man! You think I'm gonna put my neck on the line for some crazy-ass Henry J. Nicols peckerwood? internationalcenterfortalent Derek Vinyard: Yeah, right. Stupid. development. com Used looks away] [a moment of silence passes and Lamont with permission Derek Vinyard: That's what I thought. I owe you, man. z Lamont: Man, you owe me shit, a'ight? Derek Vinyard: Yes, I do. [Derek offers his hand Lamont takes it] Henry J. here Nicols Derek Vinyard: You'llinternationalcenterfortalentdevelopment. com be outta in no time. Used with permission

Lamont: 'Sup, man? You getting outta here? Well, c'mon man! What the fuck you waiting on? Derek Vinyard: Yeah, you know, I got this funny feeling. Lamont: Oh yeah? What's that? Derek Vinyard: I'm thinking the only reason I'm getting outta here in one piece is you. Lamont: C'mon man! Get the fuck outta here, man! You think I'm gonna put my neck on the line for some crazy-ass peckerwood? Derek Vinyard: Yeah, right. Stupid. [a moment of silence passes and Lamont looks away] Derek Vinyard: That's what I thought. I owe you, man. Lamont: Man, you owe me shit, a'ight? Derek Vinyard: Yes, I do. [Derek offers his hand Lamont takes it] Derek Vinyard: You'll be outta here in no time. This dialogue states a behavior (Lamont’s intervention or putting his neck on the line for Derek), a consequence (Derek getting out of prison in one piece), and a feeling (Derek’s gratitude). These are the components of an “I” message, and in this particular case it is a positive one. Henry J. Nicols internationalcenterfortalentdevelopment. com Used with permission

Hopefully, with practice, Derek would get better and be more direct and say: Lamont, when you put your neck on the line Behavior for me and I get out of prison in one piece, Consequence I feel thankful. feeling Henry J. Nicols internationalcenterfortalentdevelopment. com Used with permission