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Hendrick Hudson School District Inspire. Explore. Discover. Building Emotional Wellness and Resilience in your Children and Family Caregiver Workshop #3

Agenda 1. Protective factors for resilience 2. Strategies and tools for increasing resilience and emotional wellness 3. Signs and symptoms of concern 4. How to access support 5. Q&A

Four Protective Factors of Resilience 1. Supportive and Consistent Adult-Child Relationships 2. A Sense of Self-Efficacy and Perceived Control 3. Adaptive Skills and Self-Regulatory Capacities 4. Sources of Faith, Hope and Cultural Traditions

Supportive and Consistent Adult-Child Relationships Strategies and Tools for Success

One on one check in time ● A predictable, consistent time for private on one time with a child and caregiver is critical ● Can be weekly, daily or multiple times a week, as long as it is consistent and predictable. ● Active, reflective, non-judgemental listening ● Table Topics for Families, or this free printable card set ● Shared Journal

4: 1 - The magic ratio! For every one negative interaction, it takes four positive ones to undo it

The Sound Relationship House

Love Maps Answer as many of the questions as you can. Check your answers with your children by asking them and listening for their possible updates. What is your child’s favorite food? Who is your child’s best friend? Who would they like to be friends with if they could? Who are their rivals, competitors or enemies? What important event occurred recently for your child? What is your child looking forward to? What are some current stresses in your child’s life right now? What does your child want to be when they grow up? Who is your child’s favorite band/singer? What is your child’s favorite TV show? What gets on your child’s nerves? What is your child’s favorite thing to do? What is one thing your child is wishing for right now? What was your child’s most embarrassing moment? How does your child like to relax? What makes your child laugh? Dr. John Gottman, Author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

Sense of Self-Efficacy and Perceived Control Strategies and Tools for Success

Manageable roles and responsibilities Age 2 -3: Pick Up toys, wipe up spill, clear plate after meal, put dirty clothes in hamper/laundry Age 4 -6: Make bed, put away clothes, feed pet, water plants, set table Age 7 -9: Pack own lunch, load and unload dishwasher, manage an allowance Age 10+: Operate washer and dryer, cook simple meal

Controlled Choices “It’s time to put our shoes on, would you like to wear your blue socks or your red socks? ” “You can have dessert after you’ve had dinner, would you like cookies or ice cream? ” “You can have free time after homework is done, do you want to watch tv or play a game? Do you want to start with reading or math? ”

Adaptive Skills and Self. Regulatory Capacities Strategies and Tools for Success

Emotion Recognition “If you can name it, you can tame it” - Dr. Dan Siegel

Feelings Wheels

Feelings and Sensations Wheel

Coping Strategies Do something else Imagine Self-soothe Think about something else Remind yourself Ask Count your breaths Take a break Unconventional Coping Strategies 99 Coping Skills

De-escalation strategies 1. Attend and Assess: Show interest, Ask what is going on, describe non-judgmentally, assess for stressors 2. Validate 3. Invite the person to utilize a skill/coach through implementation 4. Reinforce

Sources of Faith, Hope and Cultural Traditions Strategies and Tools for Success

Rituals, Routines and Traditions ● ● ● ● ● Morning/Night dance parties or music time Breathing Exercises Morning/Night Affirmations Meal time routines (gratitude, roses and thorns, would you rather questions) Evening or weekend walks Saturday or Sunday morning breakfast Spiritual Practices Holiday/Birthday Traditions Reunion

Red Flags and How to Handle Them

Characteristics of Concern ● Intense sadness, depression, or anxiety ● Irritability, lethargy ● Decline in performance ● Social withdrawal ● Changes in mood or behavior ● Poor class attendance/participation ● Verbal statements, class writings or social media posts that discuss loneliness or isolation ● Engaging in reckless or risky activities ● Recurring Stomach Aches ● Increased/problematic alcohol/drug use ● A sense of failure, (real or perceived) ● Hopelessness, worthlessness or pessimism ● Rage, uncontrolled anger, seeking revenge ● Feeling trapped – like there’s no way out ● Problems with sleep or appetite ● Loss-including deaths, relationships, school, parent jobs etc. ● Lack of purpose or fear of being a “burden” ● Noticeable marks or bruises

Types of Support Available 1. Individual therapy (private practice, clinic) 2. Group therapy 3. School-based counseling 4. In-home therapy 5. Short-term crisis stabilization 6. Family therapy 7. Teletherapy

How/Where to Get Help Reach out to your school counselor, social worker or psychologist Contact your pediatrician or other primary care provider