HABIT 5 Seek First to Understand then be

HABIT #5 Seek First to Understand then be Understood

The deepest need of the human understood. is to be

Habit #5 n Seeing things from another’s point of view before showing your own. Everyone wants to be respected

Are you feeling me? ? 7% 40% 53% Genuine listening is about getting inside another person’s mind and heart.

Poor Listening vs. Good Listening n Spacing out n Pretending (yah yah, uh huh) n Selective – only hear what you want to hear. n Word – pick a word you hear and go with another story. n Self Centered n 1 st listen to what they are not saying n Stand in their shoes n Practice mirroring – paraphrasing (repeat what the other person is saying back to them in your own words)

ACTIVITY n Find a partner n For one minute, just practice listening to your partner describe: - where they were born - what they’re proud of - greatest fear in life n Change roles REMEMBER

Share Aha’s! and Challenges

Please Listen When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked. When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings. When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me, strange as that may seem. Listen! All that I ask is that you listen. Don’t talk or do – just hear me. And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn – and I will listen to you.

CR#2: Please Listen What’s the main message of please listen? Give 2 details to support your answer.

PRACTICE n See how long you can keep eye contact with someone while they are talking to you. n Next time you’re at the mall, observe the way people communicate with each other. Observe what their body language is saying. n Sometime this week, ask your mom or dad how they’re doing - - open your heart and practice genuine listening.