Habit 1 Be Proactive Proactive vs Reactive l

Habit 1 Be Proactive

Proactive vs Reactive l Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse l Proactive people make choices based on principles/values

Examples of Reactive and Proactive choices l Turn to page 49 -50 -Read Scene 1 l What are the consequences of the Reactive choices? l What are the consequences of the Proactive choices?

Reactive Language l l That’s just the way I am I can’t I’ll try Others (pg 51)

Proactive Language l l I’ll do it I can do better than that There’s got to be a way Others listed on pg 51

Reactive people feel like l l l l Victims Are easily offended Blame others Get angry and say things they regret Whine and complain Wait for things to happen to them Change only when they have to

Proactive people feel like l l l They are NOT easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about and not about the things they can’t

What can we control? l We can’t control everything – – l Our skin color Who our parents are How others might treat us Weather We can control how we respond to what happens to us

Responding to setbacks l We can turn our thinking around to respond to a negative by making it a positive – – – An accident Abuse Our home life

Becoming more Proactive l Take responsibility for your life l Have a CAN-DO attitude

Just Push Pause l When you have a situation you want to respond in some way think… – – Just Push Pause Use your 4 tools in your toolbox l l Self- awareness-stand apart from myself and look objectively Conscience-I listen to my inner voice to know what is right and wrong Imagination-I can envision new possibilities Willpower- I have the power to choose

Human tools in action l l l Use your principles to help make choices Use your proactive language Turn negatives into positives Have a can-do attitude Use the tools to respond