Guidance vs Punishment and Parenting Styles Ch 14
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Guidance vs. Punishment and Parenting Styles Ch. 14 – Developing Guidance Skills
Vocabulary Definitions: • Discipline: To teach a child to have self-control • Guidance: A positive form of discipline • Punishment: Strict control used to enforce obedience
Why is guidance recommended over punishment? • Guidance helps children to take personal responsibility for their actions. • Guidance helps children learn how to make choices. • Punishment does not teach children, it only focuses on correcting negative behavior.
The long-term goals of guidance: • To teach children to have self-control and to regulate their behavior. • To teach socially acceptable behavior so children will grow to be successful adults who contribute to the good of society.
How might a teacher’s behavior affect the behavior of the children? • Teacher is unengaged or looks bored. ▫ Child = • Teacher is off task and not paying attention to directions. ▫ Child = • Teacher is smiling, friendly and enthusiastic. ▫ Child = • Teacher is firm and enforces preschool expectations. ▫ Child = • Teacher is laughing at a child’s unacceptable behavior. ▫ Child =
The Four Parenting Styles
Parenting Style Descriptors • Authoritative: ▫ Flexible ▫ Democratic ▫ Warm, supportive ▫ Set guidelines ▫ Allow choices ▫ Give consequences when needed • Permissive: ▫ Indulgent ▫ Over-involved ▫ Lenient ▫ No guidelines ▫ A friend instead of a parent-blurred roles ▫ Child is the boss
Parenting Style Descriptors • Autocratic: ▫ Rigid ▫ Values obedience over choices ▫ Sets all rules ▫ Very structured ▫ “Because I said so” ▫ Parent is the boss • Uninvolved: ▫ Uninterested in child ▫ Distant ▫ Neglectful ▫ Absent ▫ Passive ▫ No guidance or punishment
Which parenting style… • Is both high in control and warmth? ▫ Authoritative • Is rigid and values obedience and rules? ▫ Autocratic • Values friendship and indulgence over guidelines and support? ▫ Permissive • Is neglectful, passive and distant? ▫ Uninvolved
Think about it… • Which parenting style best describes your parents? ▫ It may be a combination of styles. • Explain which style(s) would you use if you become a parent someday.
