growing leaders mentor training starting as a mentor

growing leaders

mentor training starting as a mentor Mentor Training Slide 2

session outline Overview of Growing Leaders The role of the mentor Insights for mentoring Support, communication and resources for Growing Leaders mentors § Prayer together § § Mentor Training Slide 3

Draw a picture or write some words of what comes to mind when you hear the word ‘leader’. Mentor Training Slide 4

Christian leadership is… a servant-oriented relational process whereby those who lead, under God’s leadership, using their God-given capacity seek to influence others towards a kingdom-honouring goal. Mentor Training Slide 5

why Growing Leaders? § Lack of leaders § Changing nature of leadership § Strategic role of leaders Mentor Training Slide 6

healthy churches growing churches research Mentor Training Slide 7

healthy churches § Empowering leadership § § Gift-oriented lay § ministry § § Passionate spirituality § § Functional structures Inspiring services Holistic small groups Loving relationships Need-oriented evangelism Mentor Training Slide 8

‘Leaders are needed at all levels. ’ Peter Brierley Mentor Training Slide 9

leadership at every level § Overall § Area § Small group or team Mentor Training Slide 10

growing leaders Part 1 Firm foundations for Christian leadership Part 2 Key skills of Christian leadership Part 3 Keeping faithful in Christian leadership Mentor Training Slide 11

GL 1 – Firm foundations for Christian leadership Session 1: Leadership matters Session 2: Establishing identity Session 3: Clarifying call Session 4: Developing character Mentor Training Slide 12

GL 2 – Key skills of Christian leadership Session 5: Discerning direction Session 6: Developing leaders Session 7: Leading together Mentor Training Slide 13

GL 3 – Keeping faithful in Christian Leadership Session 8: Embracing cost Session 9: Staying fresh Session 10: Continuing well Mentor Training Slide 14

nc ide nf Co y ilit Chosen ib ed Coaching Community Cr e Competence Clarity Courage Call Character Mentor Training Slide 15

course structure Twelve months Sessions Health check Mentors Projects Prayer base Mentor Training Slide 16

the role of the mentor Christian mentoring is a dynamic, intentional relationship of trust in which one person enables another to maximise the grace of God in their life through the Holy Spirit, in service of God’s kingdom purposes, by sharing their life, experience and resources. Mentor Training Slide 17

the mentoring process § § § Connecting Clarifying Pursuing Evaluating Adjusting Mentor Training Slide 18

guidelines for your first meeting § Getting to know one another § Deciding whether to continue § Forming an agreement § Setting dates § Prayer Mentor Training Slide 19

Experiences Attention Listening and exploring Challenge and/or feedback New insights/ growing selfawareness Ownership and action Adapted with permission from © Clutterbuck Associates 2002 Mentee Mentor Reflection

Deep listening Summarising and reflecting Good questions to clarify and raise awareness Bringing the conversation into the here and now The use of self Offering encouragement and support Providing challenge Giving feedback Presenting scenarios and options Reframing Making suggestions Offering guidance Giving advice and input Instructing Telling/showing directive Solving someone’s problems for them Helping someone solve their problems non-directive

Listening Questioning and probing Offering empathy and respect Reflecting Paraphrasing Focusing and summarising Reframing and challenging Helping to set goals and action plans Adapted from Andrée Freeman, CPAS Arrow Programme Mentor Training Slide 22

1 Low support High support possible phases of the mentoring relationship 2 Low challenge High challenge 4 3 Mentor Training Slide 23

practicalities and prayer Support, communication and resources § Mentor guide and handouts § Monthly emails and bulletins § Growing Leaders book § Review meetings Prayer for mentors Mentor Training Slide 24

‘It is not enough for leaders of the future to be moral people, well trained, eager to help their fellow human beings, and able to respond creatively to burning issues of their time. All of that is very valuable and important, but it is not the heart of Christian leadership. The central question is, “Are the leaders of the future truly men and women of God, people with an ardent desire to dwell in God’s presence, to listen to God’s voice, to look at God’s beauty, to touch God’s incarnate word, and to taste fully God’s infinite goodness? ”’ Henri Nouwen Mentor Training Slide 25