Group Socialization Group Socialization Group Socialization Sharing gossip

Group Socialization

Group Socialization • Group Socialization – Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, malls, or to another person’s house to watch movies or eat • Pair Dating – 1 girl and 1 guy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well and want to spend time alone.

What do you think? • Group 1 – What are some advantages of group socialization? • Group 2 – What are the potential problems of early pairing? • Present your findings to the class

Advantages of Group Socialization • • • Safety in numbers Relaxed fun Meet new people Easier to communicate Less opportunity for early physical intimacy

Disadvantages of Early Paired Dating • • • Relationships accelerate more rapidly More pressure to entertain partner Might be awkward getting to know them More expensive Early physical intimacy

Operation Breakup, Part 1

Operation Breakup, Part 2

How to End a Relationship • Pick an appropriate place – The less public, the better. Ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don’t do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary. • Choose the right time – Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries.

How to End a Relationship • Do it in person – Be considerate and don’t take the easy way out. • Be honest, but sensitive – No one likes getting dumped. Be honest and keep their feelings in mind. • Keep your emotions under control – Don’t seem too happy or too sad about the breakup. Be kind, caring and considerate.

How to End a Relationship • Use “I” Messages – I feel… – When you… – Because… – What I need… • Share an experience when you have found success with one of these suggestions. • Share an experience of what not to do when ending a relationship.

Substitute Breakup

How to Deal with a Break-up • Realize what happened and why – Realize it takes two to make a relationship work. • Accept your anger/pain and move on – Have a good cry. It’s okay to be angry, but not okay to hang on to that anger. Move on as soon as you can. • Keep your distance – Take a break - No contact, no phone calls, no texting, etc.

How to Deal with a Break-up • Think through everything – Ask yourself what went wrong. Learn from the experience. • Talk to your friends and family – Great source of advice, support and counsel. Talk it through with the people that love you the most. • Write your feelings down – Write in your journal/diary, write a song, write a poem, etc. Pour your heart out on paper.

How to Deal with a Break-up • Clean personal space – Spring cleaning of your personal space. Get ready for a new beginning. • Keep fond memories – Think of how happy a song, picture or place made you feel when with that person. • Don’t overreact – Don’t jump right into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal.

How to Deal with a Break-up • Find happiness in other areas of your life – There is more to life than being in a relationship. Begin a new hobby, read a new book, etc. • Stay active – Exercise improves your mood. • Let go and move forward – If you don’t let go, you’ll never find Mr. or Mrs. Right!

Summary • There are many advantages of group dating and problems of pair dating at your age. • Know how to end a relationship appropriately and how to best deal with a break-up yourself.