Goodbye FOMO Hello JOMO How to Create the

Goodbye FOMO, Hello JOMO! How to Create the Joy of Missing out Lee Ann De Reus, Ph. D; Executive Director, Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment & Appeals Project; Washington, DC; ldereus@dvleap. org © Lee Ann De Reus, 2020. Original content and presentation may be copied for noncommercial personal use only.

Goodbye FOMO, Hello JOMO! Goal: Provide tools and tips for creating joy during this challenging time – and beyond! FOMO: Fear of missing out, fear of not being included in something (such as an interesting or enjoyable activity) that others are experiencing. JOMO: Joy of missing out, enjoying what you’re doing in each moment without worrying about what everyone else is doing.

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Stages of Grief Denial: This virus won’t affect me/us. Anger: You’re making me stay home and taking away my activities. Bargaining: If I social distance for 2 weeks everything will be better, right? Sadness: I don’t know when this will end. Acceptance: This is happening. I have to figure out how to do life differently. (Scott Berinato, March 23, 2020, Harvard Business Review)

Appreciate how far you have come. 1) Remember that who you are is more than good enough! 2) Focus on perfecting your love, not yourself. 3) Forgive yourself. 4) Use daily affirmations. 5) Celebrate you! It wards off BS.

Cry when you need to. 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) Give yourself permission. Try not to judge. Become aware/name feelings. Try to be present. Breathe.

Stop comparing yourself to others. 1) 2) 3) 4) Avoid this like the plague! Track screen time. Identify core values. Rely on the strength of your ancestors. 5) Success = Being comfortable with yourself.

Write down/say things you are grateful for. 1) Do this morning and night. 2) Set intentions for the day. 3) Practice random acts of kindness. 4) What is life trying to teach you? 5) Make a vision board – and your reality!

Focus on yourself. 1) What stories do we tell ourselves? Are they factual? I am…. 2) Embrace your superpowers! 3) Be still. 4) Set boundaries. 5) Believe in love/abundance not fear/scarcity.

Let go of things that are not serving you. 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) Exile Debbie Downer, upgrade! Let go of anger, guilt, shame. Be authentic. Activate hope. Trust the process and your gut, you have all the answers!

What brings you joy? When are you most turned on in life? In the groove?