Friendships Recipe for friendship Ingredients 2 heaping measures

Friendships

Recipe for friendship Ingredients: • • 2 heaping measures of trust 2 well rounded scoops of respect 2 generous portions of affection 2 equal amounts of sharing Method: • Stir together until lumps and bumps are dissolved. Slide 1 of 14

What makes a good friend? • Think about the friends you have now, and friends you’ve had in the past • What things make up a good or bad friend? • Sort the qualities in your card sort, then rank • In pairs, fill in the templates on your sheet • Add any other qualities you can think of Slide 2 of 14

Circle of friendship – Think, pair share • How do you choose your friends? • What governs your choice of friends? • Do your friends have anything in common? • Are all your friends the same sex? • What is the difference between a friend an acquaintance? Slide 3 of 14

Quick Quiz Which of these do you value most in a friend? Someone who offers to help when you have a problem Someone who makes you laugh even when you are sad Someone who expresses emotions without hurting others Someone who is honest and reliable Someone who is a good listener Explain why you selected the answer that you did. Switch to Quick. Take version of the quiz. Slide 5 of 14

The Importance of Friendships • Friendship is a relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, and common interests or values. • People look to their friends for • honest reactions • encouragement during bad times • understanding when they make mistakes • Someone to listen too when you need them to. Just because you need to talk to someone • This is important in dealing with all aspects of your life and mental health Slide 6 of 14

Types of Friendships • Some friendships are casual and some are close. • Some are with friends of the opposite sex. Slide 7 of 14

Casual Friends Casual friendships often occur because people go to the same school, live in the same neighborhood, or have interests in common. Slide 8 of 14

Close Friends • People tend to form close friendships with others who share similar goals, values, or interests. • Loyalty A close friend sticks by you in both good times and bad. • Honesty You can trust a close friend to be truthful. • Empathy A close friend is caring and sensitive to your feelings. • Reliability A close friend can always be counted on. Slide 9 of 14

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Friends of the Opposite Sex • Opposite-sex friendships develop more often now than in earlier generations because of changes in gender roles. • Gender roles are the behaviors and attitudes that are socially accepted as either masculine or feminine. • Gender roles vary from culture to culture. • In choosing friends today, most people look for males and females with interests and goals similar to their own. • These friendships help you to feel comfortable with members of the opposite sex. Slide 11 of 14

Problems in Friendships Some possible problems in friendships are • envy • jealousy • cruelty • cliques Slide 12 of 14

Envy and Jealousy • Envy can occur when one person has something that the other person desires. • Jealousy can occur when a “best” friend wants to develop more close friendships and the first friend feels left out. Slide 13 of 14

Cruelty • If a friend is cruel to you, confront your friend to find out what the real problem is. • Communicate that you are not willing to be mistreated. Slide 14 of 14

Cliques • A clique (kleek) is a narrow, exclusive group of people with similar backgrounds or interests. • Clique members may experience a need to conform to the expectations of friends. • Peer pressure is an issue that people deal with throughout their lives. Slide 15 of 14