Friendship By Kirri Campbell FRIENDSHIPS Its NOT about

Friendship By Kirri Campbell

FRIENDSHIPS • It’s NOT about fitting in! • It’s about being yourself, and people still liking you. Warning Not everyone will like you. And even your friends won’t like you all the time.

How Do We Choose Our Friends?

What Make’s a Good Friend? A) Always tells you what you want to hear? B) Is super cool, that everyone thinks your cooler just for hanging out with him/her? C) Always makes you feel accepted?

Honesty • Being honest means telling the truth • Often that may not be what a friend wants to hear • This man obviously doesn’t have a good friend (or a mirror) “Do you think the ‘bling’ is too much for this outfit? “

You’re not really a very good singer, don’t quit your day job! Ok, thanks for that, I'll do plastic surgery instead and make millions, and hang out all day will rock stars. Negative Comments or Criticisms…… Think of them as opportunities to grow!

Three Types Of Criticisms False Nonsense True

What is Bullying? • Bullying can be overt (teasing, hitting, or stealing) • Bullying can covert (spreading rumours or exclusion) • Or any sort of intimidation that occurs repeatedly over time

Four Parts to Any Experience 1. Event Any situation of which we are a part. 2. Belief The interpretation we attach to the event. 3. Feeling/Emotion The feelings we experience as a result of our interpretation about an event: happiness, sadness, anger. 4. Behavioral Response Our actions — how we respond both verbally and physically when confronted with a situation, based on our beliefs and feelings about it.

Get Some Perspective! When a problem seems insurmountable; Ask these questions… Maybe Probably Yes Big Time! Does it affect me right now? 1 2 3 4 Will it affect me tomorrow? 1 2 3 4 Will it affect me next week? 1 2 3 4 Will it affect me next year? 1 2 3 4

If I was ………. . , no one would pick on me! If you can’t beat them, join them!

Attaining Perfection! • Have Realistic Expectations – We expect to much from ourselves. • Perfection is not possible but bettering ourselves should be a lifetime goal. • We grow with models who appear to be perfect at everything.

Self-Esteem • It isn’t really available in a pill. • You determine how big or how small it gets. • Believe me… Some are tooooo BIG!

Which One Are You?

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