Fostering High Ethical Standards Bringing the Rotary FourWay

Quick “about me” • President & Founder of Social. Smarts® • Self-titled “Civil Warrior” • Rotarian since 2002 (orig. Woodinville & Redmond, now East Jefferson Rotary Club – Chimacum, WA) • Speak across the country and internationally – business, schools, public • Frequent media resource (The Today Show, Good Morning America, USA Today, Wall Street Journal, many more) • Appeared in February 2010 issue of Rotarian about Social. Smarts Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

About Character Counts • Grew out of earlier presentation • Deep dive into the importance and value of The Four-Way Test • Detailed examination of each question individually, character implications • Discussion of the application of the Test in total • Case studies, stories about famous (and not so famous) Rotarians Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

What We’ll Cover • Brief History of the Four-Way Test • Exploring the Four-Way Test & Character • Impact of Four-Way Test in Education • Why does this matter? • More opportunities Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

But first, WHY? • Continued decline in ethics, integrity & moral behavior – Americans' ratings of U. S. moral values lowest in 7 years (Gallup Poll, May 2017) • 81% say state of moral values is "only fair" or "poor" • 77% say the state of moral values is getting worse • Views have been consistently negative, at least since 2002 • Increase in Tech contributes to a decline in morality and ethics • Bad behavior, reality shows, violent games directs our “entertainment” • Our children and youth – our future – are negatively impacted by all these factors Copyright © 2016 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Quick History of the Four-Way Test • • Created by Herbert J. Taylor in 1932 Ethical “yardstick” for his employees Source of his inspiration Evaluated by four managers of varying religions (Roman Catholic, Orthodox Jew, Christian Scientist, Presbyterian) Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Small but Powerful • 24 words that mean a lot Copyright © 2016 -2018

Ethical “Yardstick” • It’s a measure of character • It’s who we are and how we act regardless of what else we’re doing • It’s a professional and personal challenge • Not just a concept, but a belief and practice • It’s social skills! …and too many of our kids today aren’t learning them Copyright © 2016 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Character Counts: The Four-Way Test in Action Source: Social. Smarts® Exploring the Virtues I • Is it the TRUTH? Honesty & Integrity • Is it FAIR to all concerned? Fairness & Equality • Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS? Empathy, Caring, Kindness, Respect • Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned? Consideration, Cooperation, Fairness Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Is it the TRUTH? • Honesty & Integrity – What IS “truth” anyway? – The 11 th Commandment – Lies, Damn Lies & Statistics • Integrity – “firm adherence to a code of moral values” – The “new” integrity • Trustworthiness – the basis of all relationships Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Is it FAIR? • Fairness & Equality – “Fair: ” marked by impartiality, honesty; free from self-interest – “Equality: ” the quality or state of having the same rights, status, etc. • Fairness & Equality not always the same – Fairness is about “differences” while equality deals with sameness – Striving for “equity” = balance • Rotary corrects its own “unfairness” Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Will it Build GOODWILL? • Empathy – Most people are born with this trait – Empathy directly linked to altruism • Caring, Compassion, Kindness – Caring means it matters – Empathy makes us feel; compassion makes us do • Respect – A high and special regard – Respect: given or “earned? ” Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Will it Be BENEFICIAL? • Fairness Revisited – Win/lose; win/win/win • Consideration – WIIFM vs. WIIFU – Star Trek • Cooperation – Common Effort • “all” Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Greater than the Sum of its Parts • Each point must be evaluated individually but… • All four must be used together • Want proof? “Does this make me look fat? ” Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Quick Exercise The MOST Important Question is? Copyright © 2016 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory.

Tolerance vs. Acceptance • • Tolerance is the big buzzword It’s not enough Tolerance – focused on differences Acceptance – given approval & welcome • Tolerance = passive; Acceptance = active Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Consider… “Anyone who checks his thoughts, words and deeds against the Four Way Test before he expresses himself or takes action is almost certain to do the right thing” - Herbert J Taylor Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

The Golden Rule & The Four-Way Test • “Do unto others the way you would have them do unto you” or… • Treat others the way you want them to treat you • It’s a Universal Truth • Like the Four-Way Test, it needs to be taught and it needs to be practiced Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Positive Attitude + Behavior = Socially Smart! • Consistent with Rotary – Character, Ethics – Actions – Service above Self – Making connections & developing relationships • “Of the things we think, say or do…” Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Why Does This Matter? • 85% of your success depends on your social skills (Harvard, Carnegie Mellon, Stanford) • We practice as adults what we learn as children • What does our current cultural landscape look like… – Divisiveness, undermining, finger-pointing – Name-calling, bullying, harassment – Scapegoating, media attacks, half-truths or no-truth • What are adults modeling today? Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

The Four-Way Test & Education • Many barriers to positive character development • What we see currently in education… – – – Underachievement Lack of preparedness for the job market High drop-out rate Teacher frustration and burnout Bullying and school-based violence • Sacrificing character education for academic mandates • Imagine… Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Applying The Four-Way Test • Not only a great concept – we have to ACT • Service Above Self • Make Opportunities to SHARE – Don’t just say it…. LIVE it – This is Rotary’s best “marketing” • USE the Four-Way Test as a way to promote character, ethics, integrity – Ethics/Character initiatives highlight what Rotary stands for – We MUST generate awareness of Rotary’s contributions to character beyond Rotary! Particularly for the next generations who need it MOST Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

About Social. Smarts® • Comprehensive social skills program • Teaches behaviors and underlying foundations for them (what AND why) • Distinct curriculum but fully integrated into academic core • Serves as framework for classroom management • Continual reinforcement and development of skills – becomes way of doing business at school • Implemented in 11 states, over 10, 000 students • Incorporates The Four-Way Test in real-world context • Rotary Clubs within US, sponsored Social. Smarts in schools Copyright © 2010 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Social. Smarts’ Results • Up to 43% increase in students’ time-on-task • Up to 80% decreases in disciplinary actions • Eliminates bullying by preventing it in the first place • Decreased student absenteeism • Improved student/teacher/staff morale • Double-digit increases in academic test scores after only one year • Continued improvements year-after-year while school remains on program • Bonus: students are properly prepared, not just for school, but for the job market…and for life Copyright © 2008 -2018 The Polite. Child, Inc.

How can Rotary make a difference? • Investment – Rotary Club & Individual support – – – Purchase copies of the book – a portion of proceeds goes back to RI! Underwrite speaking engagements Create ethics initiatives in your own Clubs Sponsor character initiatives in your local schools & businesses Donate books or sponsor Social. Smarts program in schools • Return on Investment – Book can be useful tool for recruitment of new members – Initiatives stress importance of ethics/character at Club/Community level – Social. Smarts provides immediate improvements in academic achievement, school culture – Branded materials = Daily Student/Staff/Community exposure to Rotary & positive outcomes Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

What’s in it for Rotary? Short-term – Communicate our commitment to Ethics & Integrity through the Four-Way Test – Participation and public awareness of visible efforts to support education – Immediate improvements in student achievement, discipline, and overall educational culture Longer-term – Change a student, change a community – Today’s students are tomorrow’s Rotarians Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Concluding Thoughts Copyright © 2016 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Summary • Just like polio, ethics crisis is a global problem • We have an opportunity to invest in the future by what we do today – what does YOUR vision of the future look like? • How can the Four-Way Test be used to make your vision REALITY? Rotary CONNECTS the World BE the INSPIRATION! Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com

Want More? • Copies available today -- $10 (also on Amazon!) • Signup sheet at the back of the room – Copies of today’s presentation – Email newsletter about book, discussion about things Rotary • Participate in the “Road to Hamburg” Campaign • Sponsor a School Copyright © 2016 -2018 Corinne Gregory www. corinnegregory. com