Five workshops Workshop One The Man Code Workshop

Five workshops • • • Workshop One – The Man Code Workshop Two – Unmasking masculinity Workshop Three – Friends Matter Workshop Four – Boy’s Don’t Cry Workshop Five – My Networks of Support

Group agreement Respect what others say Be open and honest Keep it confidential Keep judgmental comments to yourself • Join in • •

Learning outcomes • Understand why friends are important • Understand how bravado and banter are used by boys • Understand the negative impact of banter and bully behaviour

Thinking about friendships

Paired discussion Why are friends important?

Activity

Thinking about friendships 1. 2. 3. List three things that you like about your friends Did you agree with the messages in the film?

Activity

What qualities do you look for in a friend?

Paired discussion What qualities do you have that make you a good friends?

Paired discussion • Are some boys more popular than others?

Paired discussion What makes popular boys popular?

Boys can be popular for various reasons Assertive Well-off family Friendly Jokes around in class Excluded from school Confident Hangs out with older kids Sporty Humour Good looking Popularity Gang member

Paired discussion What is bravado?

Bravado is… ‘fake courage that is intended to impress or intimidate’

Paired discussion Can you think when young men engage in bravado the most?

It’s all about the ‘b’ word

‘It’s just a bit of banter’

When does banter turn into bullying behaviour? Friendly banter Ignorant banter Malicious banter • There’s no intention to hurt and everyone knows the limits • ‘crosses the line’ with no intent to hurt. Will often say sorry • Done to humiliate a person - often in public

Film: Online Banter Escalation https: //www. youtube. com/watch? v=RGc. La-vyx. VQ

It was only banter (KS 3)

Group discussion • What were the messages in the film? • Did you agree with the messages in the film?

Paired discussion Do people use ‘banter’ to disguise bullying?

Activity

Art Based Activity: The ‘Be Real’ me • What does it mean to be a ‘real’ or ‘genuine’ person? • What positive qualities can you think of that boys possess?

The ‘Be Real’ me Thoughtf ul Passiona te Ambitio us Artistic Caring Be real Clever Loving Hardworki ng Fun

Paired discussion Choose one positive quality that you possess.

• These workshops were developed by Priority 1 -54 as part of the Maps to Manhood project January – September 2018. • We would like to thank Hastings and Rother Clinical Commissioning Group for funding the project