FAMILY CRISIS NOTES AccidentsIllness of Family Members Honest

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FAMILY CRISIS NOTES

FAMILY CRISIS NOTES

§ § § Accidents/Illness of Family Members Honest explanation of what is happening geared

§ § § Accidents/Illness of Family Members Honest explanation of what is happening geared to their ability to understand If the person is sick and will recover the child should be reassured the person should soon be well again If the illness is serious adults should tell children the truth in a calm, reassuring way. Reassure that nothing they did caused the accidents/illness Children sometimes overhear the wrong things about accidents/illness

Divorce § 10% of all children currently live with a divorced parent § Keep

Divorce § 10% of all children currently live with a divorced parent § Keep things as normal as possible § Parents should not discuss problems of divorce with children § Give children honest answers § Explain the custody plan to children who are old enough § Develop new traditions § Never give the child false hope of parents reuniting § Help the children stay in touch with friends § Watch for changes in the child’s behavior § Work with the school to help your child adjust

Death § Basic part of life § Allow children to talk and grieve §

Death § Basic part of life § Allow children to talk and grieve § Explain at the child’s level what has happened § Explain well enough that they do not expect person to return § Children need to know that they did not cause the death § Maintain the child’s routine

Domestic violence § Be a support person for the child § Seek help from

Domestic violence § Be a support person for the child § Seek help from family and local domestic violence agencies § Seek counseling § Work with the school for the child’s safety

Job Loss/Financial Difficulties § Make a special effort not to argue about money in

Job Loss/Financial Difficulties § Make a special effort not to argue about money in front of children § It is important not to hide financial problems from older children § Parents need to be clear about possible consequences of the problems and the need to cut back on spending

Relocation/Family Move § Point out the positive reasons for moving § Be honest about

Relocation/Family Move § Point out the positive reasons for moving § Be honest about the move, mention bad as well as the good § Explain each step that will happen as they move § If possible, take children to see where they are moving § Let children help with packing § Plan to spend more time with children before and after the move

Substance Abuse-Drugs and Alcohol § Parents can draw from support groups with people in

Substance Abuse-Drugs and Alcohol § Parents can draw from support groups with people in the same situation § Talk to school counselor, trusted teacher, or religious leader

World Events- Natural Disasters, Terrorism §Seek safe shelter §Keep children safe §Talk to them

World Events- Natural Disasters, Terrorism §Seek safe shelter §Keep children safe §Talk to them and let them know what is happening §Seek counseling §Reassure children