Even the Lone Ranger didnt ride alone All

“Even the Lone Ranger didn’t ride alone. ” All rights reserved John E. Kobara

THE NETWORKING AND MENTORING LIFESTYLE How Passion and Altruism Can Bring Meaning to Your Life and Your Career John E. Kobara jeknetwork@gmail. com 2008

The of Life Volume and Rapidity of Change More Choice, Less Time and Commitment Declining Social Capital Bowling Alone Less Communication--More Interruption Transactions over Transformation Being busy is not a career strategy How Much is Enough? Paraplegics and lottery winners What’s Really Important to Us?

What Do You Want? Where Are You Going? All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Popular and Ineffective Career Strategies Luck will Conquer All Pre-Destined Career Divining Rod Stealth Syndrome Publisher’s Clearinghouse Federal Witness Relocation Program Wait and See All rights reserved John E. Kobara

“I always wanted to be SOMEBODY, but I realized I should have been more specific. ” Lily Tomlin All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Essential Career Strategies The 8 P’s Positive Perspective--Beyond the negative Personal Priorities—Your Goals Pursuit of Passion--Stalk your Genius Power Incompetences--Fast Failures Professional Dev. —Continuous Education Persistence with Charm Power of NOW Playing Out of Bounds All rights reserved John E. Kobara

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and expecting different results. ” Tony Robbins All rights reserved John E. Kobara

The Real You All rights reserved John E. Kobara

It Begins with You have the opportunity to become who you are To Discover or re-discover your passions To Become deeply fulfilled Can you visualize the possibilities? Only you can make the choice No insurmountable obstacles Techniques alone will not be enough Are you ready? Let’s make it happen! All rights reserved John E. Kobara

“Most people go to their graves with their music still in them. ” Benjamin Disraeli All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Pursuit Of Passion What do you really care about? Prioritize your passion(s) Network to find your passion(s) Follow your curiosities—informational interviews Network with your passion(s) Integrate your passions into your life/career Develop skills, experiences, resume deliverables All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Guiding Principles Communication Connectivity Community All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Why Mentor and Network? Better Networks Create Health, Wealth, and Happiness Because we is always stronger than me To help others and ourselves 70% of promotions/jobs Developing real relationships To pursue our passions Define our lives by what we do To live longer Active/diverse networks are a source of well-being All Rights Reserved John E. Kobara 14

Mentoring and Networking are Not A Game Passing Out Business Cards Working a Room Cold Calling An Emergency Job Procedure All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Mentoring and Networking. . . Building Social Capital Strengthen existing relationships and expands your circle of friends Utilize ethical methodologies and your own sense of comfort Establish and invests in human connections that create value for one another Build community through mutual benefit and support All Rights Reserved John E. Kobara 16

Mentoring and Networking. . . Building Social Capital Is a lifestyle choice a choice that anyone can make Is a commitment to teach and help others Is meaningless without goals All Rights Reserved John E. Kobara 17

“You attract to your life whatever you give time, attention, and focus—positive or negative. ” Michael Losier All Rights Reserved John E. Kobara 18

Mentoring/Networking Assumptions Develop and Focus on your Goals Be Yourself, but Build Your Brand Continue Conversations Listen before You Talk Look for the Common Ground Treat Everyone as your Equal Give Without an Expectation All Rights Reserved John E. Kobara 19

“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best. ” Epictetus All rights reserved John E. Kobara

WII-FM The Inner Radio Station What’s In It For Me All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Networking Tools Preparation and Research Read! Be Prepared to Network Resumes Rileyguide. com Listening and Interviewing Skills Tracking/Follow-up System Notes E. g. Linkedin. com Verbal Scripting-Brief Introductory Talk BIT---“Elevator speech” All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Overcoming Networking Barriers Starting the conversation What’s your BIT? Lead with your passions Let the conversation happen Be curious about others--Ask questions What are you looking for? For yourself? On behalf of others in your network? Listen and care Continue the conversation May I talk to you/contact you later? All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Mentoring Lifestyle You will always need a mentor Mentoring is a reality check Mentoring is a two-way street Be prepared to assist Not always a wiser/older person Find someone you trust to give you the truth Not just encouragement Adopt a mentoring lifestyle Mentoring moments Seek mentoring Mentor others All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Developing a Total Life Plan Not just a job, but a passion portfolio Not dependent on your “day” job Volunteer for growth Moonlight, start-up, explore Take chances A total portfolio will provide lopsidedness and meaning to your life All rights reserved John E. Kobara

What Do You Want? All rights reserved John E. Kobara

“Start by doing what’s necessary then what’s possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible. ” St Francis of Assisi All rights reserved John E. Kobara

Action Steps Adopt a networking and mentoring lifestyle Make the commitment Focus on goals and passions Become well-lopsided Optimize current opportunities Create and enhance social capital Be positive—SMILE! Play out of bounds Take action steps – NOW! Love What You Do to Do What You Love All rights reserved John E. Kobara

No Regrets! Make service to others, your passions, and your relationships a priority and success will follow.