Emotional intelligence LPCH Coaches February 8 2016 Emotional
Emotional intelligence LPCH Coaches February 8, 2016
Emotional Intelligence • • • Self awareness Self regulation Motivation Empathy Social Skill Goleman, What Makes a Leader? , Harvard Business Review 1998
Self awareness • I can recognize my emotions as I experience them • I know my strengths and weaknesses • I ask people for feedback on what I do well an how I can improve www. mindtools. com
Emotion Regulation Gross, 2013
Tools • 360 feedback • Observation with verbatim recording • Videotaping • Prompted feedback • Temperament, strengths inventories
Tools • Mindfulness exercises • Written reflection or coached debriefing • Critical incidents • Personal SWOT analysis • Values • Triggers • Locus of control, sphere of influence
Empathy
Ask • Ideas • Impact • Feelings • Expectations
Trust 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Talk straight Demonstrate respect Create transparency Right wrongs Show loyalty Deliver results
Trust 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. 12. 13. Get better Confront reality Clarify expectations Practice accountability Listen first Keep commitments Extend trust Covey, The 13 Behaviors of a High Trust Leader
Mindset • Learn to hear your fixed mindset voice • Recognize you have a choice • Talk back with a growth mindset • Act on the growth mindset Carol Dweck -http: //mindsetonline. com/changeyourmindset/firststeps/inde x. html
Consider Observed Behavior Observer’s Interpretation Feedback
Interpretations “I barely know what’s going on in my own head, and I have special access to that. ” Charles Dwyer, Ph. D Influencing People Skills Lab LPCH, July 2009
Consider Observed Behavior Observer’s Interpretation Feedback
Consider Observed Behavior Observer’s Interpretation Feedback
Consider Observed Behavior Observer’s Interpretation Feedback
Untangling Feedback • Assume good intentions • Describe behavior • Explain the impact of behavior • Take responsibility for your impressions & interpretations • Ask. Don’t guess at intentions or internal states • Acknowledge gaps between intentions, internal states and outward impressions
How to resist feedback • Explain • Defend • Rationalize • Deny • Ignore • Patronize • Discredit • Crumble • Attack
Tips • Listen without interrupting • Acknowledge, consider • Restate, summarize • Ask clarifying questions • Write it down • Do not explain, deny, defend…
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