DRAFT ONLY The Social Costs of Pornography Patrick

DRAFT ONLY The Social Costs of Pornography Patrick F. Fagan, Ph. D. University of Wisconsin April 2013

Synthesis Paper DRAFT ONLY The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family, and Community at http: //marri. us/pornography

DRAFT ONLY Mind, Heart and Body

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DRAFT ONLY Enjoyment of the Sexual

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Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995 DRAFT ONLY

Age of First Intercourse Versus Number of Sexual Partners Source: NSFG 1995 DRAFT ONLY

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DRAFT ONLY The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 60 52 Percent who have abortions later 50 43 39 40 31 34 30 25 18 20 19 12 10 8 0 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 -10 11 -15 NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME 16 -20 21+

DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15 -44 with Children Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 60% 55. 21% 49. 45% 49. 99% 50% 44. 02% 40. 02% 49. 89% 47. 55% 42. 66% 40% 32. 89% 30% 20% 16. 29% 10% 1. 71% 0% Virgin at Had Pre. Time of Marital Sex First with First Marriage Husband 1 2 3 4 5 6 -10. 11 -15. Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners 16 -20 21+

DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15 -44 with Children 60% 56. 98% 53. 07% 50. 30% 48. 13% 47. 03% 6 -10. 11 -15. 44. 16% 40% 36. 48% 38. 81% 30. 21% 30% 20% 10% 7. 09% 0% 0 1 2 3 4 5 Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners 16 -20 21+

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Belonging: Male + Female Society At Large Family Child / Adult Father Mother DRAFT ONLY

DRAFT ONLY 5 Stages of Pornography • • • Viewing Addiction Escalation Desensitization Acting Out

DRAFT ONLY Neuro-Substrates in the Brain (all learning)

DRAFT ONLY st 1 Stage: Viewing • Males: 6 times more likely to view • And to spend more time

DRAFT ONLY nd 2 Addiction • Habituation • Boredom • Dissatisfaction

DRAFT ONLY rd 3 Escalation • Intensity • Diversity • Now habituated to what before was abnormal

DRAFT ONLY th 4 Desensitization

DRAFT ONLY Desensitization Cont’d • Repeating the cycle of – Viewing – Addiction – Escalation – Desensitization • Leading gradually to a pansexuality

DRAFT ONLY th 5 Stage Acting Out • Addictions to - • Cybersex Online • Strip Bars • Prostitution • With others. . Pan Sexuality

DRAFT ONLY Individual Effects • Depersonalization • Objectification • Mental Health Effects

DRAFT ONLY Women and Pornography * 17 percent of women struggle with pornography addiction. * One in three visitors to pornography sites were women. * 30 percent of Internet pornography consumers are women.

DRAFT ONLY Lust - Anger

DRAFT ONLY Woman as Depersonalized Object

DRAFT ONLY Degradation of Women

DRAFT ONLY Distortion of Reality

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DRAFT ONLY Eros and Thanatos

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Marriage • Meaning of the sexual – Faithful – Intimacy – Companionship / friendship – Happiness – Family • Good of the child • Happiness / Heaven

DRAFT ONLY Loss of interest (2/3) 2/3 of couples with a pornography addiction

DRAFT ONLY Infidelity

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Marriage • • • Love spouse less Spouse is less attractive / inadequate 1/3 couples are sexually involved; 2/3 not Distress/ wounds / trauma of spouse/ Rx Users: importance of sexual relations without involvement See marriage as confining Fidelity not important Increased infidelity (68% of divorces involve ~) 3. 7 times more use of prostitutes

DRAFT ONLY Cybersex and Marriage • • Online Infidelity (about 80% for both) Distress/ wounds of wives / husbands Seen by spouse as being unfaithful Leads to face (about 80% for both) Distaste for spouse 48% lose their spouse 58% considerable financial loss 1/3 lose their jobs

Different Ratings of Infidelities DRAFT ONLY • Men for the physical sexual arousal • Women for the relational engagement • Men more upset by physical infidelity • Women more upset by emotional infidelity

DRAFT ONLY Other Effects • Depression / Loneliness • 60 % of divorces • Poverty • Culture of rejection (Thanatos) • Public good of children • Marriage becomes meaningless

DRAFT ONLY Childhood Initiation

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Children • • • Reality distortion of the sexual Discovery of parental stash Stress in the home Less face to face time with parents Separation, divorce, 60 % of divorces Rejection Culture of rejection Public good of children massively weakened

DRAFT ONLY Adolescent Initiation

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Adolescents • Task of discovering sexuality is distorted • Increased uncertainties about sexuality • Lower self esteem • Favorable attitudes towards pornography • Increased levels of intercourse • Increased non-romantic involvement • Increased teen pregnancy (doubles with greater sexual content on TV viewing) • HOOK UP CULTURE

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Women As users Isolation / Alienation / Marriage loss Cybersex exploitation Depression As victims Depression/ Trauma Loss marital intimacy Loss of marriage Divorce Poverty Effect on children affects mother

DRAFT ONLY Effects on Community 2007: 36% males and 25% of females not ashamed of viewing porn • Increasingly see pornography as harmless • Degradation of culture • Degradation of women • Sex trafficking Effect on Foundational Virtue of Chastity

SEXUALLY ORIENTED BUSINESSES DRAFT ONLY PROPERTY VALUES CRIME EROS + THANATOS

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Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995 DRAFT ONLY

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DRAFT ONLY Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married 3. 93 Million Children 3. 17 Million Children Out of Poverty In Poverty Children in Poverty Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 0. 75 Million Children

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DRAFT ONLY Retreat from Marriage: Black Men (25 -54) by Education Level

DRAFT ONLY Free To Choose-Not Free to Choose The Consequences

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DRAFT ONLY What to Do? Dr Kevin Majers

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DRAFT ONLY Research Synthesis “The Effects of Pornography on Individuals, Marriage, Family and Community” • http: //marri. us/pornography

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