DRAFT ONLY Chastity The Foundational Virtue for Marriage

DRAFT ONLY Chastity The Foundational Virtue for Marriage And for Society Patrick F. Fagan, Ph. D. The Diocese of Arlington Catholic Charities Mental Health Seminar Nov. 13, 2013

DRAFT ONLY Chastity: The Foundation of Marriage And The Family

DRAFT ONLY CONTENTS u u problems solution strategy need to succeed

DRAFT ONLY the big problem

DRAFT ONLY PROBLEM statistic 55% of American 17 year olds have grown up without mother and father statistic divorce has reduced the growth of us economy by 1/6 th every year for 20 years most children in poverty now live in situations of cohabitation rather than in single parent family statistic when you factor in the marriage of parents there is little to no difference between incarceration rates of black and white youth statistic Because of abortion we loose $100 B in income and $10 B in taxes every year

DRAFT ONLY FUNDAMENTAL INSTITUTIONS m a c r o–level m i c r o–level government school marketplace church family

DRAFT ONLY STUDIES SHOW 27% life expectancy wealth productivity inco me 39% crime life expectancy

DRAFT ONLY GPA English/Math by Family Structure Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7 -12. 2. 90 Average GPA Enligsh/Math Combined 2. 9 2. 80 2. 70 2. 60 2. 50 2. 40 2. 30 INTACT STEP COHABIT (BOTH COHABIT (ONE NATURAL) DIVORCED NEVER MARRIED

DRAFT ONLY $82, 270 $65, 816 Median Income of Households with Children by Family Structure, 2009 $45, 248 $90, 000 $37, 021 $80, 000 $70, 000 $28, 794 Median Income $60, 000 $16, 454 $50, 000 $40, 000 $30, 000 $20, 000 $10, 000 $0 M ied arr ay Alw t tep tac n s-I M arr t ac nt g. I S ied h Co tin ita ab bi ha Co tep g. S in tat ted ara p Se Family Type d e orc Div d ied we do Wi N arr r. M e ev

$546, 944 DRAFT ONLY Average Net Worth of Households with Children by Family Structure $337, 997 $309, 963 $600, 000 Average Net Worth $500, 000 $400, 000 $179, 651 $99, 494 $300, 000 $90, 506 $200, 000 $57, 180 $25, 220 $100, 000 $0 d M ie arr t tac n s-I ay w l A tep Ma ct ita ab h Co g. I tin ed rat p nta d. S rrie bit ha Co a g tin Ste a ep S Family Type d e orc Div d ied we do Wi Ne ve arr r. M

DRAFT ONLY Source Antovics, K. & Town, R. Am Econ Review V 94, (2004) pp 317 -321 140 120 $100 $127 Marriage Premium in Male Income Comparative Income % 100 80 60 + 40 $27 = 20 0 Average Unmarried Male Premium Average Married Male

DRAFT ONLY Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married 3. 93 Million Children 3. 17 Million Children Out of Poverty In Poverty Children in Poverty Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 0. 75 Million Children

DRAFT ONLY Percent of Minority Children in Poverty by Family Type, 2009 90 Percent of Minority Children in in Poverty 80 70 60 50 81 40 58 30 20 33 19 10 0 tac -In ys a w l Ma d. A rrie 58 15 t t ac Int g tin tep S ied rr Ma Co bit ita b ha ted tep a oh at S ing 27 22 ra pa Se C Family Type d e orc Div d ied we do Wi Ne ve arr r. M

DRAFT ONLY US Total (Males) 1982 -2010 % “Unskilled” Not Working: sing Coh Mar sing Coh

DRAFT ONLY US Total (Males) “Not Working” Professional Class Unemployed single Cohab Married Fraction of Occupation Class Married single Cohab

DRAFT ONLY Retreat from Marriage: Black Men (25 -54) Unemployment Differentials Marriage (pink) and non-Marriage (blue)

DRAFT ONLY Proportion of Married Heads of Households 1960 -1990

DRAFT ONLY Growth in Productivity: Down MARRIED DIVORCED SINGLE

DRAFT ONLY Male Employment 1962 -2010 Males aged 25 -54; Bureau of Labor Statistics (CPS)

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DRAFT ONLY Family Structure: Comparative Rates Of Youth Incarceration 4 3. 7 Comparative Rates of Incarceration 3. 5 3 2. 71 2. 5 2. 07 2 1. 5 1 1 0. 5 0 Raised in Intact Married Parent Family Raised in Mother-Only Family Raised in a Mother and Stepfather Family Raised in a Stepmother Family Source: C. Harper and S. Mc. Lanahan, “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration, ” ASA Annual Meeting, San Francisco, August 1998. Data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth.

DRAFT ONLY Relative Rates of Physical Abuse by Family Structure Source NIS-4, 2010 12 10. 3 10 8 6 5. 2 4. 3 4 2 3. 1 3. 6 1. 0 0 Always Intact Single Parent Married Family Not living with Intact Cohabiting. Step Married Step Cohabiting Family either parent Family

DRAFT ONLY Relative Rates of Sexual Abuse by Family Structure Source NIS-4, 2010 25 19. 8 20 15 8. 6 10 4. 8 5 5 1 0 Always Intact Married Family Single Parent Family Intact Cohabiting Step Married Family Not living with either parent Step Cohabiting Family

U. S: Partner / Spouse Violence Against Mothers Over 20 With Children under 12 DRAFT ONLY Source DOJ Nat Crime Victimization Survey 1999 35 33 30 Rate Per 1, 000 25 20 15 15 10 5 4 6 0 Married Widowed Married+Div+Sep. Never Married Combined

DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source: NSFG 1995

DRAFT ONLY the solution

DRAFT ONLY PASSING THE BATON

DRAFT ONLY DROPPING THE BATON

DRAFT ONLY SOLUTION Grow the young intact married family that worships God weekly

DRAFT ONLY STRATEGY TO SOLUTION be a part of the conversation shape the conversation m a c r o–level m i c r o–level government church marketplace school family

DRAFT ONLY PROBLEM

DRAFT ONLY STUDIES SHOW certain family behaviors cause positive national and personal consequences u u u u u family dinner friendship social fun (rather than digital) teen chastity pre-marriage preparation pre-courtship preparation mentoring newly married Adoption weekly worship prayer u u u u increased revenue from taxes increased productivity enhanced human capital higher income and savings higher education attainment small business growth better health

DRAFT ONLY Need for success u u The Children --The Next Generation The Economy The Constitution The Solution Natural Law

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DRAFT ONLY Annual Rejection Ratio: For Every 100 Children Born Sources: CDC/ NCHS report series 100. 0 90. 0 80. 0 70. 0 60. 0 Divorce 50. 0 40. 0 30. 0 20. 0 10. 0 OWB 00 20 98 19 95 19 90 19 85 19 80 19 75 19 70 19 65 19 60 19 55 19 19 50 0. 0

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DRAFT ONLY Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

DRAFT ONLY For many: Marriage is not in their future Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

DRAFT ONLY GPA Score Combined English/ Math Source Ad Health Survey Waves 1+2 1995 2. 9 Combined English-Math Score 2. 9 2. 85 2. 8 2. 75 2. 7 2. 65 2. 6 2. 55 2. 45 Weekly<Monthly<Yearly Never Frequency of Religious Attendance

DRAFT ONLY WORSHIP: NEGATIVE

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DRAFT ONLY HIGH SCHOLL EDUCATION

DRAFT ONLY CRIME: ASSAULT

DRAFT ONLY HEAVY DRINKING

DRAFT ONLY BACHELOR DEGREE

DRAFT ONLY INTERCOURSE

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DRAFT ONLY IMPORTANCE OF BEING MARRIED

Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995 DRAFT ONLY

DRAFT ONLY The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 60 52 Percent who have abortions later 50 43 39 40 31 34 30 25 18 20 19 12 10 8 0 0 1 2 3 4 5 6 -10 11 -15 NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME 16 -20 21+

Age of First Intercourse Versus Number of Sexual Partners Source: NSFG 1995

DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15 -44 with Children Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 60% 55. 21% 49. 45% 49. 99% 50% 44. 02% 40. 02% 49. 89% 47. 55% 42. 66% 40% 32. 89% 30% 20% 16. 29% 10% 1. 71% 0% Virgin at Had Pre. Time of Marital Sex First with First Marriage Husband 1 2 3 4 5 6 -10. 11 -15. Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners 16 -20 21+

DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15 -44 with Children 60% 56. 98% 53. 07% 50. 30% 48. 13% 47. 03% 6 -10. 11 -15. 44. 16% 40% 36. 48% 38. 81% 30. 21% 30% 20% 10% 7. 09% 0% 0 1 2 3 4 5 Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners 16 -20 21+

DRAFT ONLY THE INDIVIDUAL AND PORNOGRAPHY • Pornography is addictive, and neuroscientists are beginning to map the biological substrate of this addiction. • Desensitized to their type of pornography • Higher tolerance for abnormal sexuality, including rape, sexual aggression, and sexual promiscuity. • Produces stronger notions of women as commodities or as "sex objects. " • Greater sexual permissiveness, out-of-wedlock births and STDs. • Child-sex offenders are more likely to view pornography regularly or to be involved in its distribution.

DRAFT ONLY Porn-culture epidemic THE FAMILY AND PORNOGRAPHY • Married men feel less satisfied and less emotionally attached to their wives. Wives notice and are deeply upset by the difference. • Pornography use is a pathway to infidelity and divorce. • Among couples affected by one spouse's addiction, two-thirds experience a loss of interest in sexual intercourse. • Both spouses perceive pornography viewing as tantamount to infidelity. • Pornography viewing leads to a loss of interest in good family relations.

DRAFT ONLY For 16 -23 year olds: What to do in matters sexual » Friendship » Chastity » Good times

DRAFT ONLY How NOW affects marriage down the road • • • Sexuality (deeply us) Freud, JPII Dissipation of energy / resources Friendship capacity To give Research on giving “Who Really Cares” Arthur Brooks • Unhappy ? Find someone in real need

DRAFT ONLY Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

DRAFT ONLY Other Religious and non Religious Groups: Natural Law, Transcendentals, Religion.

DRAFT ONLY The Five Basic Institutions Five Basic Tasks Government Market School Church Family Instrumental Relational

Belonging: Male + Female Society At Large Family Child / Adult Father Mother DRAFT ONLY

DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

DRAFT ONLY The Non-Thriving Marriage / Child Relationship

DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

DRAFT ONLY Free To Choose Not Free to Choose The Consequences

Unleash creativity: getting through to other teens DRAFT ONLY

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Model build out ORIGINAL RESEARCH • • DRAFT ONLY MARRIAGE DIVORCE SINGLE COHABITATION productivity income savings and wealth taxes education health addictions crime Annual Index WORSHIP • WEEKLY • > MONTHLY • <MONTHLY • NEVER

DRAFT ONLY we are free to choose, but we are not free to choose the consequences

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