Domestic Violence Integration of Services Training Series Themes

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Domestic Violence Integration of Services Training Series

Domestic Violence Integration of Services Training Series

Themes for Today Our focus is on achieving child safety, permanency, and well-being by:

Themes for Today Our focus is on achieving child safety, permanency, and well-being by: – Supporting survivors to keep themselves and their children safe. – Holding batterers accountable for their actions. – Assisting all family members in recovery. 2

Objectives • Summarize dynamics and common impacts on family members. • Review approaches to

Objectives • Summarize dynamics and common impacts on family members. • Review approaches to screening. • Identify interventions that assist survivors in providing safety for themselves and children. • Identify and develop strategies to partner with the survivor and community to hold batterers accountable. 3

Agenda 1. Power and Control 1 hr 2. Dynamics and Impacts 2 hrs. 3.

Agenda 1. Power and Control 1 hr 2. Dynamics and Impacts 2 hrs. 3. Screening 1. 5 hrs. 4. Interventions 1. 5 hr

Slide Show 1

Slide Show 1

Florida Criminal Definition of DV "Domestic violence" means any assault, aggravated assault, battery, aggravated

Florida Criminal Definition of DV "Domestic violence" means any assault, aggravated assault, battery, aggravated battery, sexual assault, sexual battery, stalking, aggravated stalking, kidnapping, false imprisonment, or any criminal offense resulting in physical injury or death of one family or household member by another family or household member. - Ch. 741 F. S. 6

Definition of Family or Household Member "Family or household member" means spouses, former spouses,

Definition of Family or Household Member "Family or household member" means spouses, former spouses, persons related by blood or marriage, persons who are presently residing together as if a family or who have resided together in the past as if a family, and persons who are parents of a child in common regardless of whether they have been married. With the exception of persons who have a child in common, the family or household members must be currently residing or have in the past resided together in the same single dwelling unit. - Ch. 741 F. S. 7

Family Violence Threatens Child • Uses family or household member definition from criminal statute.

Family Violence Threatens Child • Uses family or household member definition from criminal statute. • Builds on documentation from interviewing and observations. - Current and past incidents - Information from children, caregivers, other witnesses, and/or persons who know the family well • Documentation of a pattern of domestic violence related incidents. - DCF Allegation Matrix 8

Family Centered Practice Model

Family Centered Practice Model

Role of Investigator/DCM • IMPRESS upon the family the importance of child and family

Role of Investigator/DCM • IMPRESS upon the family the importance of child and family safety. • EDUCATE the family about the danger of witnessing and experiencing domestic violence. • ENGAGE with survivor and community partners to increase: – Self-esteem and self-efficacy – Knowledge of dynamics and resources – Ability to protect self and child(ren)

Role of Investigator/DCM • ASSIST survivor with strengthening/building formal and informal partnerships for achieving

Role of Investigator/DCM • ASSIST survivor with strengthening/building formal and informal partnerships for achieving safety and well-being. • MOBILIZE child welfare system resources to support safety planning and recovery. • CREATE a context for change for the batterer.

Objectives for Session 2: Dynamics and Impacts • Summarize common impacts of DV on

Objectives for Session 2: Dynamics and Impacts • Summarize common impacts of DV on family members and family dynamics. • Summarize survivor efforts to protect the children. • Work with all family members in a manner that expresses empathy and hope for achieving mutually agreed upon goals.

Characteristics of a Batterer A “batterer” is someone who has a consistent pattern of

Characteristics of a Batterer A “batterer” is someone who has a consistent pattern of coercive control of an intimate partner. Coercive control includes different forms of: – Psychological abuse – Intimidation – An inflated sense of self-entitlement – Physical or sexual abuse 13

The Perception that Abuse and Control are Justified • Behaviors to control increase over

The Perception that Abuse and Control are Justified • Behaviors to control increase over time. • The batterer perceives his controlling behavior as justified and therefore sees his partner’s reluctance to be controlled as evidence of her mental instability, volatility, or desire to control him. - Bancroft and Silverman, 2002 14

Characteristics that are common… The overarching attitudinal characteristic is entitlement: – The belief that

Characteristics that are common… The overarching attitudinal characteristic is entitlement: – The belief that one has special rights and privileges without accompanying reciprocal responsibilities. – The belief that violence can be justified against a partner. – The belief that family life should center around the meeting of his needs. 15

What Entitlement Looks Like… Entitlement in the context of “battering” is evident through: –

What Entitlement Looks Like… Entitlement in the context of “battering” is evident through: – Demands for physical and emotional caretaking. – The perception that when needs or wants are not met, the batterer has been wronged. – The tendency to see oneself as being provoked to violence. 16

Types of Entitlement • High demand for service: – Insistence that the batterer’s needs

Types of Entitlement • High demand for service: – Insistence that the batterer’s needs come first and must be met. • High level of control: – Insistence on controlling even the most mundane actions, decisions, expressions, behaviors, and relationships of the partner.

Additional Characteristics • Confusion of Love and Abuse: – “My violence is a result

Additional Characteristics • Confusion of Love and Abuse: – “My violence is a result of the intensity of my love for my partner. If I didn’t feel so deeply, I would not get like that. ” • Externalization of Responsibility: – “It’s not my fault. ” – Blaming the violence on stress, substance abuse, issues from childhood, intolerable emotional state 18

Additional Characteristics • Serial Battering: – Batterers tend to abuse more than one woman

Additional Characteristics • Serial Battering: – Batterers tend to abuse more than one woman over the course of their adult relationships.

Typology of Batterers • 50% of batteres in research samples inflict low levels of

Typology of Batterers • 50% of batteres in research samples inflict low levels of violence and psychological abuse. • Batterers with strong pro-social connections (employment, community involvement) and without other criminal tendencies are thought to have the best prospects for achieving long-term behavior change. 20

Anti-social or Hyper-violent Batterers • Have persistent behavioral problems • Are generally violent, have

Anti-social or Hyper-violent Batterers • Have persistent behavioral problems • Are generally violent, have criminal records that cite multiple violent incidents • Are more prone to engage in severe or threatening dominance struggles with authority figures • In exceptional circumstances this can result in violence towards child welfare personnel or law enforcement 21

Myth-Busting 1. Domestic violence and substance abuse: – Most incidents occur without the use

Myth-Busting 1. Domestic violence and substance abuse: – Most incidents occur without the use of alcohol. – Roughly 80% of men who abuse alcohol do not beat their partners. 2. Domestic violence and mental health problems: – Men who are abusive do not have substantially higher rates of psychopathology than men who do not abuse. – There is no particular personality disorder or mental illness diagnosis shown consistently by men who abuse. 22

Myth-Busting, continued 3. Men who abuse their partners have poor impulse control: – Abusive

Myth-Busting, continued 3. Men who abuse their partners have poor impulse control: – Abusive patterns reveal behaviors that require forethought. “Battering” is seen as a pattern of behaviors, rather than impulsive reactions. – Further evidence of this can be seen in the rate at which men who abuse can calm themselves when the police arrive. 23

Myth Busting, Continued “I think I could tell if he was an batterer…. ”

Myth Busting, Continued “I think I could tell if he was an batterer…. ” • Many batterers use systems such as the juvenile and probate courts and the child protection system to punish battered women through struggles for custody. • Batterers are able to perform well under formal observation. 24

The Range of Parenting Behaviors of Batterers who engage in DV • Children can

The Range of Parenting Behaviors of Batterers who engage in DV • Children can be made into “accomplices”, siding against the survivor. • Batterers sometimes encourage children to disrespect their mothers (psychological abuse) or to assault them (physical abuse). • Children are used to manipulate the survivor, reveal safety plans or whereabouts, or to spy on the survivor. • Child visitation can be used to obtain access to mothers. 25

The Range of Parenting Behaviors of Batterers who engage in DV • Batterers tend

The Range of Parenting Behaviors of Batterers who engage in DV • Batterers tend to vacillate between being authoritarian and rigid to maintain control with an intolerance for resistance or argument and • Permissive or neglectful, either to curry favor with children or because of pre-occupation with self. • Children are at risk of abuse: 50% of men who regularly abuse their partners also physically abuse their children. 26

Batterers who engage in DV actively work to prevent Partners from Effective Parenting •

Batterers who engage in DV actively work to prevent Partners from Effective Parenting • Increased physical abuse and murder rates during pregnancy. • Direct interference: – Keeping the mother from comforting or picking up the child(ren) – Contradiction and undermining the mother’s attempts at limit setting and discipline • Indirect Interference and Undermining: – Harsh and frequent criticism of the survivor’s parenting – Directing an older child to be in charge of parenting, implying that the survivor is incapable 27

Impact of Domestic Violence on Survivors Slide show 2 28

Impact of Domestic Violence on Survivors Slide show 2 28

Stages of Change: Survivors Living with DV 1. Denial: ‘It was an accident, it

Stages of Change: Survivors Living with DV 1. Denial: ‘It was an accident, it didn’t happen’ 2. Guilt: ‘There is a problem, but I deserve it. ’ 3. Enlightenment: ‘I am not responsible, and I don’t deserve this, but I want to work things out. ’ 4. Recovery: ‘This is not going to change. I need to make a new life’. - Adapted from L. Walker, The Battered Women’s Syndrome 29

Power and Control Video

Power and Control Video

Reasons Why She Stays…* Susan G Mc. Gee. *First, that is the wrong question…

Reasons Why She Stays…* Susan G Mc. Gee. *First, that is the wrong question… 1. *Why does the batterer batter? Why does this continue in our society? 2. Separation violence. 3. Psychological terror and brainwashing (Stockholm Syndrome) 4. For the children: custody or harm. 5. Isolation from support. 6. Some still love the batterer. 31

Reasons She Stays, continued 6. They believe counseling will help. 7. Cannot get protection

Reasons She Stays, continued 6. They believe counseling will help. 7. Cannot get protection or services. 8. Legal System failings. 9. Historically disempowered. 10. Cultural, moral, and religious values. 32

Last, but not Least They fear their children will be killed. 33

Last, but not Least They fear their children will be killed. 33

Impact of DV on Children Slide Show 3

Impact of DV on Children Slide Show 3

Impact of DV on Children • Daughters of batterers are 6. 5 times more

Impact of DV on Children • Daughters of batterers are 6. 5 times more likely than other girls to be the victims of incest. • 63% of boys between the ages of 11 and 20 years of age, who commit murder, commit murder against their mother’s batterer. • Sons of batterers are 1, 000 times more likely to commit domestic violence themselves. 35

Objectives for Session 3: Screening • Assessing dangerousness. • Gathering collateral information. • Interviewing

Objectives for Session 3: Screening • Assessing dangerousness. • Gathering collateral information. • Interviewing family members.

Initial In-Home Safety Assessment • The parent, caregiver or household member(s) have a history

Initial In-Home Safety Assessment • The parent, caregiver or household member(s) have a history of violence or display current violent behaviors (e. g. battery, domestic violence, intimidation) AND the child may be in danger of harm as a result. • There is a pattern of continuing, escalating and/or increasing frequency of incidents, either reported or unreported (e. g. child discloses ongoing abuse or chronic in-home violence for which no abuse or law enforcement reports were made).

Family Assessment • Emerging Dangers – Are danger-related risk dynamics (substance abuse, violence, domestic

Family Assessment • Emerging Dangers – Are danger-related risk dynamics (substance abuse, violence, domestic violence…) escalating in intensity or frequency? • Relationships/Domestic Violence Factors – Has a history free of being a victim of domestic abuse – Has a history free of perpetrating domestic abuse – Has a history free of physical, and/or emotional aggression towards others – Balance of power with other household members does not impact ability to protect a child

Ongoing Dangerousness Assessment Dangerousness The demonstrated capacity to continue inflicting severe violence. Ongoing Dangerousness

Ongoing Dangerousness Assessment Dangerousness The demonstrated capacity to continue inflicting severe violence. Ongoing Dangerousness Assessment 39

Assessing Dangerousness Binging or Chronic Substance Abuse Access to a weapon Severe & Irrational

Assessing Dangerousness Binging or Chronic Substance Abuse Access to a weapon Severe & Irrational Jealousy Danger Recent Instability (Job loss or Separation) Severe isolation Threats to Injure or punish if she leaves Severe & persistent monitoring & stalking

Factors that predict continuing violence • Violent crimes and previous violations of protection orders.

Factors that predict continuing violence • Violent crimes and previous violations of protection orders. • Motor vehicle violations involving alcohol intoxication/arrests due to substance abuse. • Severe violence with spouses or children. • Having attended a BIP that was not followed up on by cessation of violence. • History of suicidality or of suicidal ideation. 41

Gathering Information OTHER COLLATERAL INTERVIEWS FAMILY INTERVIEWS Survivor Batterer Children Other Household Members Extended

Gathering Information OTHER COLLATERAL INTERVIEWS FAMILY INTERVIEWS Survivor Batterer Children Other Household Members Extended Family Members EXISTING RECORDS Criminal Records Police “Call-outs” Injunction History Past CPS Reports and Summaries Past Service Records, Evaluations 42

Family Centered Approach • Increase – Recognition of family strengths – Reflection on actions

Family Centered Approach • Increase – Recognition of family strengths – Reflection on actions – Sense of responsibility – Positive change • Reduce – Denial – Minimization

Introduction to Interviewing Family Members 1. Assume that any family may be experiencing domestic

Introduction to Interviewing Family Members 1. Assume that any family may be experiencing domestic violence, no matter how individuals present or seem to you. – Similar rates of domestic violence occur in all types of locations, cities, suburbs, and rural areas. – Women of all races are about equally vulnerable to violence with an intimate partner. - Bureau of Justice, 1995 44

Introduction to Interviewing, continued 2. Interview each family member separately, even if you begin

Introduction to Interviewing, continued 2. Interview each family member separately, even if you begin with a joint interview. 3. Explain that your role is to assist parents in attaining safety within the family. 4. Routinely give information that will connect survivors to local DV Services. Make this a part of your regular practice with all parents. 45

The Family Story Process 1. Engage: Build a bridge of strengths. 2. Appreciate and

The Family Story Process 1. Engage: Build a bridge of strengths. 2. Appreciate and Align: Learn the family vision and try to find common ground for partnering. 3. Develop Discrepancy: Find ways that the individual already wants or has tried to change and build on it. 4. Support Efficacy: Use strengths to give people hope. 46

Interviewing batterers • Do not reveal information that would endanger the survivor. • Start

Interviewing batterers • Do not reveal information that would endanger the survivor. • Start with the batterer’s wishes for the family and for his relationships, building on strengths. • Continuously assess your own safety during the interview. 47

Sample Questions to Batterers • When do you think the family has ‘worked’ the

Sample Questions to Batterers • When do you think the family has ‘worked’ the best? • If you could magically make the family situation better, what would you change? • What are some changes you would like to see in others in the family? • What are some changes you have considered making? • What, if anything, have you already tried? 48

“But what if he tries to use excuses like a bad childhood? ” •

“But what if he tries to use excuses like a bad childhood? ” • Seeing the link between trauma and battering does not excuse the behavior, but may be a basis for treatment to begin. • Choosing competent providers who understand trauma and domestic violence will keep the batterer accountable clinically. • Violence and abuse often beget violence and abuse. That’s why the cycle must end. 49

Interviewing Survivors, Assumptions • The survivor is focused on survival and safety, too. •

Interviewing Survivors, Assumptions • The survivor is focused on survival and safety, too. • The survivor has considered and likely attempted to leave in the past, and her/his actions are based on what she thinks is realistic and safest. • There’s probably more violence than what we know. • The survivor is the best hope for children in terms of maintaining a strong relationship while getting to safety. 50

Interviewing Survivors, continued • How it looks to the outside: – “She is choosing

Interviewing Survivors, continued • How it looks to the outside: – “She is choosing her man over her children. ” • How it looks to the survivor: – “I am making sacrifices to keep my family together and keep my children as safe from harm as I am capable. ” 51

Bear in Mind… • As afraid as the survivor may be of losing her

Bear in Mind… • As afraid as the survivor may be of losing her children, she may be more concerned that she will be killed, leaving her children unprotected. • We cannot know how many ways the batterer has threatened and brainwashed the survivor and children. 52

Bear in Mind… • It is inappropriate to pressure or threaten abused women into

Bear in Mind… • It is inappropriate to pressure or threaten abused women into providing information. By using coercion, the interviewer is unwittingly competing with the batterer, whose capacity to coerce is greater. • Good case practice involves acceptance of the victim’s limits on disclosure and reliance on information from collateral sources.

Sample Questions to Survivors: • When do you think the family has ‘worked’ the

Sample Questions to Survivors: • When do you think the family has ‘worked’ the best? • If you could magically make the family situation better, what would you change? • What are some changes you would like to see in others in the family? • What are some changes you have considered making? • What, if anything, have you already tried? 54

Sample Questions for Survivors, Continued • What are some of the ways you have

Sample Questions for Survivors, Continued • What are some of the ways you have tried to keep your children safe? • When you have felt the most able to keep yourself and your children safe, what was happening? • When do you think your children would say they feel most safe? How can you increase their sense of safety? • What do you think it would take to make things better? • What, if anything, do you think others can do to help you get there? 55

Questions that can be asked of children • What has your (mother/father) done to

Questions that can be asked of children • What has your (mother/father) done to make you feel safe in your home? • What are some of the things that give you a warning feeling that (the batterer) is going to begin to hurt someone? • If I was watching a movie of what happened (one incident, usually), what would I see? • How would your (mother/father) describe what happens in your home when things get difficult? 56

Objectives for Session 4: Interventions • Work in the context of a coordinated community

Objectives for Session 4: Interventions • Work in the context of a coordinated community response. • Create effective safety and recovery plans. 57

Coordinated Community Response Create effective partnerships: – Survivor – Batterer – PI/DCM/CWLS – Law

Coordinated Community Response Create effective partnerships: – Survivor – Batterer – PI/DCM/CWLS – Law Enforcement – Probation/Parole – DV Advocates – Substance Abuse Professional(s) – Mental Health Professional(s) – School/Day Care

Safety and Recovery Planning • Partnerships result in plans that may include: – Strategies

Safety and Recovery Planning • Partnerships result in plans that may include: – Strategies for holding batterer accountable – Steps for achieving increased safety and control regardless of survivor decisions to stay or leave – Recovery supports for survivors and children • Plans may also include: – Legal and other options for removal of batterer – Options for placement of children • Visits with non-offending parent and siblings – Conditions needed for children’s visits with batterer – Substance abuse interventions

What Works? Services for Batterers • The most effective time for intervention with batterers

What Works? Services for Batterers • The most effective time for intervention with batterers is between arrest and adjudication. – Individuals who have been arrested for DV re-offend at a rate of 67% between arrest and adjudication. – That rate goes down to 34% for those who enter or participate in treatment between arrest and adjudication. 60

Service Options for Batterers • Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) – most common intervention •

Service Options for Batterers • Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) – most common intervention • Substance abuse treatment programs. • Parenting programs. • Individual counseling.

Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) Batterer Intervention Programs are – Designed for men who have

Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) Batterer Intervention Programs are – Designed for men who have been arrested or would be arrested if known, for DV. – Include educational classes and/or treatment groups. – May also include counseling or case management. – Are linked to justice and accountability systems. – Must consider survivor safety implications throughout treatment. 62

Florida Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) Chapter 741. 325 (8) F. S. , specifies that

Florida Batterer Intervention Program (BIP) Chapter 741. 325 (8) F. S. , specifies that BIP is set up and authorized to address the use of Intimate Partner Violence for the purpose of exercising power and control …over the other. The chapter further states that: – It will endanger victims if courts and other referral agencies refer family and household members who are not perpetrators of the type of domestic violence encompassed by these standards. – Accordingly, the court and others who make referrals should refer perpetrators only to programming that appropriately addresses the violence committed. 63

BIP Assessment • Used to assess an individual’s appropriateness for participation in BIP. •

BIP Assessment • Used to assess an individual’s appropriateness for participation in BIP. • Does not assess whether or not DV has occurred. • Findings may include identification and assessment of conditions that would keep the individual from benefitting from BIP, including: – – mental illness substance abuse criminal record of violence ‘mental deficiency’ • The law limits BIP suitability to those adjudicated for DV. - 65 H-2. 008 Assessment Requirements for participation in a BIP 64

What Makes for Change in Batterers? • Fear of incarceration is shown to be

What Makes for Change in Batterers? • Fear of incarceration is shown to be more effective than empathy for the survivor at inducing batterers to refrain from violence. • These men may respond more positively to approaches designed to elicit empathy for children. 65

Recidivism based on Treatment Modality • Babcock et al. used multiple studies to do

Recidivism based on Treatment Modality • Babcock et al. used multiple studies to do a ‘Meta-study’ comparing treatment for batterers used data following batterers for a minimum of two years. • The general recidivism rate for batterers without treatment is estimated at 65%. • Batterers who have participated in treatment, including: – Batterer Intervention – Anger Management – Couples Counseling – Individual Counseling • Improved the recidivism rate by lowering the reported rate to 60% within 2 years, as reported by both police and ‘victims’. - Babcock, J. et al 66

Co-occurring Factors and Domestic Violence • While drugs and alcohol do not cause DV,

Co-occurring Factors and Domestic Violence • While drugs and alcohol do not cause DV, they can make it more lethal. An estimated 25% to 50% of batterers also have substance abuse issues. • Survivors may develop somatic or physical symptoms and depression as a result of the numbing and coping response to Battered Woman Syndrome. • One study found that survivors have 16 times the rate of alcohol abuse as non-battered women. 67

Filing A Chapter 39 Injunction Section 39. 504, Florida Statutes, provides that at any

Filing A Chapter 39 Injunction Section 39. 504, Florida Statutes, provides that at any time after the initiation of a child protective investigation, the department, a law enforcement officer, the state attorney, or other responsible person, may motion the court to issue an injunction to prevent any act of child abuse or violence, not limited to domestic violence. The primary purpose of the injunction is to protect and promote the best interests of the child, while taking the preservation of the child's immediate family into consideration.

When A Chapter 39 Injunction Should Be Considered… • If the parent or caregiver

When A Chapter 39 Injunction Should Be Considered… • If the parent or caregiver is a victim of violence themselves, they may be fearful that leaving the offender will be more dangerous than staying. • The Chapter 39 injunction provides a resource to protect the child from abuse or violence by taking allowing the Department or another party to initiate the action in the eyes of the offender. • Examples for when it may be appropriate to seek a Chapter 39 injunction include but are not limited to: – Removing an offending parent, caregiver, paramour, or person from the home to protect the child – Returning a child to a non-offending parent

Collaboration with CWLS • The Children’s Legal Services Attorney is responsible for drafting the

Collaboration with CWLS • The Children’s Legal Services Attorney is responsible for drafting the petition for the injunction using the specific case facts and supporting documentation provided by the child protective investigator and/or case manager. • A court may issue an injunction if reasonable cause exists. Reasonable cause exists when there is evidence of child abuse or there is a likelihood of such abuse occurring based upon a recent overt act or failure to act.

The DCM Role in Getting Families to Safety • It is important to remember

The DCM Role in Getting Families to Safety • It is important to remember that you may be the key to getting the survivor and children to safety and that their fears are real. • Despite the best assessment, DV can quickly turn fatal. • Building a trusting relationship with survivors and other community partners will help you to help the survivor further protect herself and her family. 71

Interventions to Support Survivors • DV programs and shelter • Group work (self-help and

Interventions to Support Survivors • DV programs and shelter • Group work (self-help and provider led) • Individual counseling – Trauma – Grief and loss – Role recovery • Substance abuse treatment • Supports for education, employability, and self-efficacy • TANF program exceptions for DV Survivors 72

Florida Domestic Violence Centers • Information and referral • Counseling • Emergency shelter (24

Florida Domestic Violence Centers • Information and referral • Counseling • Emergency shelter (24 hrs. or more) • Hotline (24 hrs. a day, 7 days a week) • Child assessments (for those in shelter more than 72 hrs. ) • Case management • Community education • Other local resources 73

Domestic Violence Advocate, Privileged • All center staff are required to have 30 hours

Domestic Violence Advocate, Privileged • All center staff are required to have 30 hours of training to become privileged. • Primary purpose is to give advice, counseling and/or assistance to victims of domestic violence. • Conversations between domestic violence advocate and victim are confidential if they relate to incident that victim is seeking assistance for. • DV Advocate can ask survivor to sign a release of information. 74

Creating Context for Children’s Healing • Sense of physical and emotional safety in current

Creating Context for Children’s Healing • Sense of physical and emotional safety in current surroundings. • Structure, limits and predictability. • Strong bond to non-battering parent. • Not to feel responsible for care of adults. • Contact with battering parent as appropriate. • Strong bond to siblings.

Interventions to Support Children • Shelter (with survivor whenever safe to do so) •

Interventions to Support Children • Shelter (with survivor whenever safe to do so) • Get to Safety (normalization when possible) • Counseling (group, individual depending on age and responses to DV) • Supported and safe contact with survivor if placement away from parents is necessary. 76

Stages of Change: Survivors Living with DV 1. Denial: ‘It was an accident, it

Stages of Change: Survivors Living with DV 1. Denial: ‘It was an accident, it didn’t happen’ 2. Guilt: ‘There is a problem, but I deserve it. ’ 3. Enlightenment: ‘I am not responsible, and I don’t deserve this, but I want to work things out. ’ 4. Recovery: ‘This is not going to change. I need to make a new life’. - Adapted from L. Walker, The Battered Women’s Syndrome