Diocese of Phoenix Office of Natural Family Planning

Diocese of Phoenix Office of Natural Family Planning Spreading the Gospel of Life, One Marriage, One Family at a Time Office of Marriage and Respect Life

NFP Parish Rep Training Session 1: 00 Introductions 1: 15 1: 30 NFP and the Marriage Prep Policy for the Diocese Theology of the Body –Helping Instructors and Reps make the point of successfully living & witnessing to NFP v 2: 30 15 minute Break 2: 45 NFP Parish Rep Ministry 3: 00 Developing an effective Couple Witness Talk 4: 00 -5: 00 pm Work on Couple Witness/Share in Small groups (5: 00 pm Mass available at St. Mary’s Basilica)

Covenant of Love: Marriage Preparation Policy Changes 2010 Office of Marriage and Respect Life

Marriage Prep Timeline 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Month 1: A couple meets with Pastor or his delegate, parish starts their Nuptial File. Month 1 -3 : FOCCUS inventory Month 1 -3: Married Life Skills Course (weekend or 6 evenings)-ex: Love for Life, Engaged Encounter, Unitas or other approved program. Month 3 -6: God’s Plan for Joy Filled Marriage (weekend)-this will include an NFP Introduction Month 4 -7: Full NFP Course ( with charting) Month 8 Reconciliation Month 9: Final meeting with Pastor or his delegate

Impressive Results among couples, parishes, NFP Teachers & God’s Plan presenters -NFP Acceptance Rates√ -God’s Plan & NFP Teachers √ - Compliance Rates-Next Year - NFP Continuation Rates

God’s Plan Evaluations 2010 -2012 3, 184 Completed 53% of couples say Yes to NFP; 33% unsure; only 8% say No to nfp! No Maybe/Not Sure No Answer 2198 = 69% 335 = 11% 573 = 18% 76 = 2% 2512 = 79% 541 = 17% n/a 130 = 4% Living together? 2006 = 63% 1083 = 34% n/a 91 = 3% Sexually active? Save Sex now for Marriage? 2803 = 88% 321 = 10% n/a 60 = 2% 1338 = 42% 446 = 14% 923 = 29% 477 = 15% 1178 = 37% 1242 = 39% 605 = 19% 159 = 5% 440 = 14% 935 = 29% 942 = 29% 911 = 28% 1719 = 53% 222 = 8% 1051 = 33% 192 = 6% More Active in Faith? Deeper Commitment to Christ? Plan to Contracept pre-course? Still Planning to Contracept? Yes to NFP after Intro Stage 3 Yes

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Nfp-Beyond marriage prep • All NFP Methods, including Fertility Monitor lending • Free Teacher & Couple Parish Rep Training • Referrals for NFP-Only Healthcare Providers • Referrals for Low Cost IUD Removal & Sterilization Reversals • Pastoral & Practical Support for those affected by Infertility: v. Annual St. Gerard’s Mass of Comfort & Hope Wevare dedicated toforempowering all people to Support & referrals licit infertility treatments v. Support & referrals for suffering see their sexuality asthose a great giftmiscarriage from God • NFP For Pre-Menopause- free refreshers • NFP While Breastfeeding- free refreshers • Mother-Daughter/ Father-Son ‘Gift of Fertility’ Workshops • NFP/ Fertility Awareness Presentations tailored to parish’ needs: v RCIA, Adult Catechesis, Parish Leadership, Women’s/Men’s Groups, Baptism Classes. • Catholic Academy for Life Leadership for Teens

Periodic Abstinence: the Gift to Married Love Fr. Charlie Goraeib

Take a Break! 15 minutes

Theology of the Body A reflection on the Catechesis of Pope John Paul II on God’s Plan for Human love

Three Horizons Original Man Historical Man Eschatological Man

Matthew 19: 3 -9 Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him, saying, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever? " He said in reply, "Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator `made them male and female' and said, `For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate. " They said to him, "Then why did Moses command that the man give the woman a bill of divorce and dismiss [her]? " He said to them, "Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery. "

Genesis 1: 26 -27 Then God said: "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. . …. . God created man in his image; in the divine image he created him; male and female he created them.

The Law of the Gift (the “disinterested” gift of self to another for the purpose of Union and Communion)

Genesis 2: 25 The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame

Characteristics Self-donation vs. Lust Service vs. of Self-Fulfillment Integrity of Sexual Intercourse vs. Division Mutuality vs. Domination Trust vs. Fear of Abandonment Interdependence vs. Fear of Dependence Sex as gift vs. tool or weapon Harmony vs. Conflict

Our bodies, as male and female, proclaim that we are made for union and communion.

Definition of Lust (CCC 2351) Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.

Impact of Lust On our relationship with the (Community) of God On our relationships with people of the opposite sex On how we see other persons and human existence On how we view ourselves.

Mat 5: 8 Blessed are the clean of heart, for they will see God.

Chastity: right use of reason in ordering our lower passions.

Acquisition of Chastity 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Prayer Understand Satan Guard your intake Boundaries Health Self-mastery Realistic about weaknesses “men of violence” Mat 11: 12 Blessed Mother Confession

Ways of Living Chastity Married Single

Sacrament of Marriage It is Christ who instituted all 7 sacraments Definition of Sacrament: Visible signwhich depicts an invisible reality that imparts God’s grace

The Vows Free Total Fruitful Faithful

Periodic Abstinence and the Law of the Gift Learn to deny one’s passions and desires, thus giving meaning to the gift Communication Respect for the natural feminine cycle of fertility Other means of demonstrating affection Living the Paschal Mystery of Cross and Resurrection Sexual love as means of service and self-donation vs. personal fulfillment

Responsible Parenthood To Whom must couples be responsible? --God --Family --Society --Themselves

“Sacredness” of Fertile Period

NFP Couple Parish Representatives Promoting NFP Within the Parish

Achieving a goal expressed by Bishop Thomas Olmsted: To establish parish NFP liaison couples to assist pastors in promoting NFP and to be NFP point persons for the laity.

Bishop Thomas J. Olmsted “I hope you will be able to respond generously to this call for your invaluable service. If so, I know you will enrich your own marriage as well as help to enrich the marriages of those to whom you are called to minister. ”

NFP Full Series Requirement USCCB-DDP/NFP set a minimal standard of four meetings with each couple. We require four in addition to the introduction to NFP. God’s Plan for Joy Filled Marriage now has the NFP Introduction embedded into it, in the last session. God’s Plan+ three classes + one-month follow-up. This takes about three months to complete. Class Series cost: $110 per - $175 per couple Online: $130 - 155. Couple to Couple League classes: $135 Creighton Model: $175

NFP Parish Rep Ministry “Job Description” “How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings…” Isaiah 52: 7 Assist pastors in promotion of NFP in their parish Offer to have your contact information at the reception desk and with the Marriage Prep coordinator for questions couples may have. Read about NFP & Become familiar with the NFP Intro Packet and website.

NFP Parish Rep Ministry “Job Description” Make sure announcements for classes appear in your parish bulletins. Ask to have NFP posters & schedules placed in the vestibule or brochure rack of your Church. If your parish hosts NFP classes, greet the NFP teaching couple & help make sure room is set up for them Offer to share your witness at various meetings in your parish: RCIA classes, Marriage Prep, Bible Studies, Women’s & Men’s Fellowship Groups, Baptism Classes, Ministry Fairs, after Mass-especially during National NFP Week at end of July ( can share new video!)

Parish Reporting • Let us know about ministries in your parish for referrals: ministries to infertile couples, those who have suffered miscarriages, adoption ministries etc. • Please keep track of all NFP parish work that you do for the year on the Report Form. At the end of the year please send the form to the Office of NFP, Diocese of Phoenix. Or send emails during year, reporting what/where/to whom you promoted NFP. Statistics will be reported to the Bishop and to the USCCB-DDP/NFP

NFP Methods Coordinated by Office of NFP: v. Northwest Family Services Sympto-Thermal Method www. nwfs. org (NWFS) v. Family of the Americas Ovulation Method (FAF) www. familyplanning. net v. BOMA-Billings Ovulation Method Association (BOMA) www. boma-usa. org v. Creighton Model-Cr. Ms---Na. Pro. Technology http: //www. popepaulvi. com/ v. CCL- Couple to Couple League www. ccli. org Available throughout the Diocese in over 30 parishes, in both English and Spanish and Vietnamese

NFP Only Healthcare Professionals v. Na. Pro. Technology- Deirdre Wilson, D. O. v. Dr. Clint Leonard, Ob/Gyn, Napro Technology v. Dr. William Chavira, Ob/Gyn v. Dr. Lori Carillo, Ob/Gyn v. Lisa Clouse Mc. Daniel, PA, Napro Technology v. Sarah Adamo, PA, Napro. Technology

Registration Procedures Couples should be directed to our websites: NFP----www. phxnfp. org Marriage Prep site: www. ourcovenantoflovephx. org Couples can pay on line by credit card, or by mailing a check or money order. Cash is not accepted. Only limited scholarships available. Many parishes assist. May call for clarification or questions: 602 -354 -2122

NFP Recruits Are Needed! Couples who: Wanted!! Have experienced the blessing of periodic abstinence in their own marriages by living NFP. Would like to grace their marriage with shared lay service. NFP Couple Parish Reps NFP Instructors

NFP Instructor Recruitment Office of NFP has a trainer for: NWFS S-T method(English) and for FAF Ovulation Method(Spanish or English). Special need for bilingual Sympto-Thermal instructors. CCL -on-line teacher training ( English only).

Getting Started as NFP Parish Rep Couples: Your pastor will receive a letter from the Office of NFP with your name and contact information. Please call your pastor, introduce yourselves and set up a meeting to offer specific services in the parish. He will be happy to have this position filled! ( On the parish checklists now!) Please don’t say: “What do you want us to do? ” Bring a gift: “Married Love and the Gift of Life, ” and know that you are beautiful to him and to Bishop Olmsted, because you bring Good News!!

Jenelle and Mark Van Brunt Sharing your story by Writing your NFP Couple Witness

Couple Witness. Take 20 minutes to reflect, write notes, and then come together to share an outline containing: Conversion to using NFP Challenges while using NFP Fruit since making the change to NFP Share with group now, develop more fully at home.

Tips for Preparing Your Couple Witness Pray for God’s inspiration. Read examples of witness talks ( on USCCB site). Both Husband Wife share equally in time. Write in down. Get feedback. Practice it! Try not to read it when presenting. Use humor, pathos, regrets, joy. Make it very personal.

Questions? Thank you so very much for sharing this very good news! “How beautiful on the mountains are the feet of those who bring good news, who proclaim peace, who bring good tidings…” Isaiah 52: 7