Dealing with Difficult Masonic Issues RWB ANNAS FADLUDEEN

Dealing with Difficult Masonic Issues RWB ANNAS FADLUDEEN KAMARA, JGW

Introduction As future Masonic leaders, you are almost certain to deal with or experience difficult masonic issues and/or conversations during your leadership tenure. Whenever that time comes, be always mindful that the teachings of Masonry are directed to excellence in performing our duties to God, our country, our neighbors and ourselves. The continuing effort to improve oneself is the true mark of a Mason.

Elements To Ensure Successful Outcomes Seriousness of Purpose Honesty Open minded Fairness/Equitable Compassionate Just Swiftness Decisiveness

Some Examples of Difficult Masonic Issues Dealing with disruptive Past Masters or Brothers Non Payment of Dues- Eg: dropping retirees or non-participating brothers Granting permission for some brothers to participate in special occasions not accustomed to our Grand Lodge. Violating the chastity of those categories prohibited by ……… Stealing or misappropriation of Masonic funds, etc. Subversive and clandestine activities by a brother, etc

When In Doubt Consult Masonic Authorities/References Masonic Code (Ancient Landmarks, Decisions, Laws and Legislations) Masonic Ritual (Modus Operandi) Masonic Etiquettes and Protocols (Do’s and Don'ts) Consulting and engaging well informed and learned Masons Reach out to the office of the Grand Secretary Utilize the Jurisprudence Committee if necessary

Four (4) Steps to a Successful Outcome In Dealing With Difficult Masonic Issues Step #1: Inquiry Step #2: Acknowledgment Step #3: Advocacy Step #4: Problem-Solving

Preparation Before Achieving Steps to a Successful Outcome 1. What is your purpose for having the conversation? What do you hope to accomplish? What would be an ideal outcome? Watch for hidden purposes. 2. What assumptions are you making about this person’s intentions? You may feel intimidated, belittled, ignored, disrespected, or marginalized, but be cautious about assuming that this was the brother’s or speaker’s intention. Impact does not necessarily equal intent. 3. What “buttons” of yours are being pushed? Are you more emotional than the situation warrants? Take a look at your “backstory, ” as they say in the movies.

4. How is your attitude toward the conversation influencing your perception of it? If you think this is going to be horribly difficult, it probably will be. 5. Who is the brother or person on the other side? What might he be thinking about this situation or concerns? Is he aware of the problem? If so, how do you think he perceives it? 6. What are your needs and fears? Are there any common concerns? Could there be?

Discussing Steps to a Successful Outcome In Dealing With Difficult Masonic Issues Step #1: Inquiry: Cultivate an attitude of discovery and curiosity. Pretend you don’t know anything (you really don’t), and try to learn as much as possible about his point of view.

Step #2: Acknowledgment means showing that you’ve heard and understood. Try to understand the other person so well you can make his argument for him. Acknowledgment can be difficult if we associate it with agreement. Keep them separate. My saying, “this sounds really important to you, ” doesn’t mean I’m going to go along with your decision.

Step #3: Advocacy: When you sense the brother (s) has expressed all his energy on the topic, it’s your turn. What can you see from your perspective that he’s missed? Help clarify your position without minimizing his. For example: “From what you’ve told me, I can see how you came to the conclusion that I’m not understanding your position clearly. And I think I am.

Step #4: Problem-Solving: Now you’re ready to begin building solutions. Brainstorming and continued inquiry are useful here. Ask your brother (s) what he thinks might work. Whatever he says, find something you like and build on it. “If the conversation becomes adversarial, go back to inquiry. ”

Admonition and Encouragement “We must constantly remember that in every moment of our life - in public - at work at pleasure - with our families - even when you are alone - You are a Mason!”

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