DEADLY WIVES AND RESURRECTION WIVES Easter Sunday April

DEADLY WIVES AND RESURRECTION WIVES Easter Sunday April 8, 2007 Oakwood Road Church

The Skillful Life: 65 Categories in Proverbs One leading a skillful life is – – – developing a habit of lifelong learning disciplined in work and handling of resources enjoying a well-ordered home dealing wisely and fairly with people living harmoniously and responsibly within the community 5 Groups of Proverbs

The Skillful Life: 65 Categories in Proverbs One leading a skillful life is – enjoying a well-ordered home—at the center of which is an excellent wife, whom both the husband children value tremendously —thus strengthening the community and laying foundations for future generations. 3 rd Group of Proverbs

The Skillful Life: 65 Categories in Proverbs One leading a skillful life is enjoying a well-ordered home: – – – Building a household Importance of an excellent wife Nagging wives Instructing/discipling children Honoring parents Grandchildren/old age Categories in the 3 rd Group of Proverbs

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Why are you preaching on this topic? – What does Judy think? – Why on Easter Sunday?

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Why are you preaching on this topic? – What does Judy think? • Judy is a “resurrection wife” who brings godly life to our marriage and family and other relationships. – Why on Easter Sunday? • When Paul teaches about the resurrection, he focuses on character development.

Paul’s Teaching on the Resurrection 1 Corinthians 15: – 1 -2 – 3 -29 – 30 -34 sinning” – 35 -57 – 58 – 16: 1 “otherwise you believed in vain” “this is what you believed” “come back to your senses and stop “how are the dead raised? ” “your labor in the Lord is not in vain” “now about the collection for God’s people”

Example of Mary, the Mother of Jesus Mentioned in four episodes (after Jesus’ birth): – At the marriage in Cana (John 2: 1 -4) – At Capernaum (John 2: 12) – At the crucifixion (John 19: 25 -27) – After the ascension (Acts 1: 14)

Example of Mary, the Mother of Jesus How did she get this way? – Revelation of God through angels and Jesus himself – Dependence on the Word of God (Luke 1: 46 -55) Mary was a “resurrection” mother.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives “Nagging” means “to pester or annoy as by complaining or scolding” Underlying ideas in my mind about “nagging: ” – It is annoying – I deserve it Not many examples in Scripture: – Delilah with Samson (Judges 16: 15 -16)

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 21: 9 (NIV) Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 21: 19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife. Proverbs 25: 24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives The Hebrew word “madon” means “to quarrel, dispute, or dissent” and occurs almost exclusively in Proverbs (19 of 22 times). It is not what I usually think of as “nagging. ”

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 6: 12 -15 (NIV) A scoundrel and a villain, who goes about with a corrupt mouth. Who winks with his eye, signals with his feet and motions with his fingers. Who plots evil with deceit in his heart—he always stirs up dissension. Therefore disaster will overtake him in an instant; he will suddenly be destroyed—without remedy.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 6: 16 -19 (NIV) There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, A heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil. A false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 15: 18 (NIV) A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. Proverbs 17: 14 Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam, so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out. Proverbs 22: 10 Drive out the mocker and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 21: 9 (NIV/SK) Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a contentious wife. Proverbs 21: 19 Better to live in a desert than with a dissenting and ill-tempered wife. Proverbs 25: 24 Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a contentious wife.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 21: 9 (KJV) It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house. Proverbs 21: 19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 25: 24 It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 19: 13 (NIV) A foolish son is his father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping. Proverbs 27: 15 -17 (NIV) A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; Restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. The stakes are very high. This dissension erodes and destroys.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 27: 15 -17 (NIV) A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day; Restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. It isn’t a matter of weakness or avoidance of issues, but of character, motivation, and care.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 10: 12 (NIV) Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. It is not just a matter of surface behavior, but rooted deep in the relationship.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives As a wife, woman, husband, or man: – Are you contentious? Do you turn everything turn into a fight? Is there nothing that you find satisfactory? – Are you “border-line” contentious? Do you have the “gift of criticism which can be easily used inappropriately and/or perceived as being contentious? – Do you aspire not to be contentious? Do you want to supportive, even as “iron sharpens iron” (without smashing others)?

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Are you contentious? – Expect to be alone. – Don’t expect your contentions to be helpful. – Recognize that it is a matter of character, not just behavior. – You will be judged by God for your character and behavior. – Correction will take life-rebuilding.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Are you “border-line” contentious? – Don’t expect others to understand or appreciate it. – Learn to control your expressions of dissent. – Be alert to the link between contention and character because it may take over. – Have “iron sharpens iron” type of friends, especially your spouse, to help you see yourself accurately.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Do you aspire not to be contentious? – Learn the truths of these proverbs. – Pay attention to the core meaning of theological concepts like the resurrection. – Meditate on the models given in Scripture (Mary, Proverbs 31 woman). – Welcome assessment and support from those who are committed to your godly development. – Pray for yourself and others.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 21: 9 (NIV) Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Proverbs 21: 19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.

Deadly Wives and Resurrection Wives Proverbs 10: 12 Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. 1 Peter 4: 7 -8 The end of all things is near. Therefore be clear minded and self-controlled, so that you can pray. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.

DEADLY WIVES AND RESURRECTION WIVES Easter Sunday April 8, 2007 Oakwood Road Church