Crucial Conversations Walt Mills M D Jeff Haney
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Crucial Conversations Walt Mills, M. D. Jeff Haney, M. D. Santa Rosa Family Medicine Residency
Objectives By the end of the session you will be able to: • Define a crucial conversation • Assess your usual approach to stress • Describe a framework for a crucial conversation • Develop a faculty development session using reflection in action
Acknowledgements • Crucial Conversations • Getting to Yes, Getting Past No, Leading Change, Switch • NIPPD+, Penelope Tippy, M. D. and Colleen Conry, M. D. • Kaiser Permanente • Jessica Muller • Lexicon and Jargon
Why should you listen to us? • Lots of practice • Kaiser, Sutter, Community Health Center • INTJ, ENFP • Boomer, Gen Xer • We love the residency
Agenda • Example of a Crucial Conversation • Define Crucial Conversations • Review our defaults in stress • Discuss the seven principles of effective Crucial Conversations • Role Play a Crucial Conversation • Report what you discover
Sample Crucial Conversation • Evaluation of an Intern http: //www. youtube. com/watch? v= 09 bp__4 Muh 8
Ingredients of a Crucial Conversation • Strong Emotions • High Stakes • Opposing Opinions
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Stress Physiology • • • Adrenals Cortisol Epinephrine Dopamine Tachycardia
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During a normal talk
In a Crucial Conversation The Scream, Edvard Munch
During Stress We are Impaired Do you sugarcoat? Do you demand your way? Do you run or avoid? Do you resolve through dialogue and relationship?
Violence Safety Pool of Shared Meaning Safety Silence Actions/Results that hold relationship at the center
Your Approach to Conflict • Avoidant? • Aggressive? • What parts of the relationship do you focus on in conflict?
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Online Testing Tool www. vitalsmarts. com/crucialconversations_ book. aspx (it does require you to join for free)
Your Style Under Stress: Silence or Violence: How does it manifest? Dialogue: What are your strengths?
Types of Silence and Violence Withdrawing—Pulling out of communication completely; physical, emotional, psychological Avoiding—staying away from unsafe topics or issues Masking—understating, sugar coating, sarcasm, selectively showing Controlling—coercing others through how we share our views—interrupting, overstating, absolutes Labeling—trying to win or have others give in through ridiculing their ideas Attacking—making sure others hurt; emotional, physical, psychological
The Seven CC Principles 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Start with Heart Learn to Look Make it Safe Master My Stories State My Path Explore Others’ Paths Move to Action
ME See & Tell a Feel Act Hear Story OTHERS Pool of Shared Meaning Act Feel Tell a Story See & Hear
Principle 1: Start with Heart Identify motives Functional Dysfunctional *The Sucker’s Choice
Principle 2: Learn to Look • Identify when the conversation becomes crucial • Look for signs of deteriorating safety. • CC calls it “using the third eye”… • I call it “Jeff, Do you have two minutes” or…
Principle 3: Make it Safe • Identify Mutual Purpose • Work Toward Mutual Respect
Principle 4: Master My Stories • Know your unbiased story • Encourage clarification of your story • Recognize the bias that enters your story because of your stress tendency
Principle 5: STATE My Path • • • Share your stories Walk them down the path Help them see point A through point Z Avoid antagonism, stick with facts Answer questions/clarify
Principle 6: Explore Others’ Paths What do you do when others move to “silence” or “violence”? • “Inquiry versus Advocacy” • Make yourself curious… learn • “Go to the Balcony” • Listen when others move away from dialogue
Principle 7: Move to Action • How do you make the decision? • Make a plan and follow up
Group Activity • Small Teams (triad) • Think of a personal example or use one we give you • Network • Report to the larger group
Summary of Group Activity
Faculty Development • Reflection in Action • Necessary Resources Two Hours Access to Testing Some basic trust in the group • Results
Information Walt Mills Walter. W. Mills@kp. org Jeff Haneyj@sutterhealth. org 707/583 -8800
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