Creative Thinking Handling Conflict C Krystle Attard 2012

Creative Thinking Handling Conflict (C) Krystle Attard 2012

What is Conflict? Conflict is a disagreement or clash between ideas, principles, or people Although we do not choose conflict, sometimes it is inevitable (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Why Conflict? � Conflict is neither good nor bad – how it is handled can have a significant impact Conflict can create change and help us to learn: � more about ourselves � the people we are in conflict with � about the relationship � An opportunity to enhance social interactions (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Confronts the issue(s) Diverts from real task Clarify issue(s) Destroys morale Better problem-solving Polarize interactions More involvement Deepens differences Honest feedback Irresponsible actions Personal growth Suspicion and distrust Stronger interactions Less productivity Destructive Conflict Constructive Conflict (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Conflict Types Intrapersonal � Personal problems Intragroup � Within group Interpersonal � One-to-one Intergroup � Between groups Intrapersonal Interpersonal Intragroup (C) Krystle Attard 2012 Intergroup

Intrapersonal Conflict Approach Avoidance Balance Different positive outcomes e. g. get a job or continue education Different negative outcomes e. g. summer holidays / no money Both positive and negative outcomes e. g. stay out late / argue at home (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Interpersonal Conflict in social exchanges and relations � Between � Within friends and family social groups and organizations � Vertical conflict: senior / junior designations � Horizontal � Role conflict: same designations conflict: different social functions (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Sources of Conflict Different attitudes, values or perceptions Disagreements about priorities and interests Poor communication Poor or inadequate organizational structure Unclear roles and responsibilities Scarce resources (finance, equipment, facilities) Lack of teamwork (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Resolving Conflict Focus on interests, rights or power � Interests – mutual agreement (may be assisted) � Rights – decide by legal actions � Power – force, threats or commands by one party Individual responses � Retaliate or intimidate – short temper, strong opinion � Isolate – accept at face value but actually against it � Cooperate – address the problem (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Conflict Handling Modes � Compete – your concern over the other’s � Accommodate � Avoid – the other’s concern over yours – delay facing the issue at hand � Compromise � Collaborate – find middle ground and balance – work together and achieve all goals (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Scenario Example Scenario: A student has submitted a somewhat controversial proposal about the Higher National Diploma programme to the MCAST Student Council. This has led to conflict between the student and the MCAST Student Council. We will first look at a poor use and then a more effective use of each mode. (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Compete Effective use � � … “Look, I don’t care what you think or how unfair you think this is! Rules are rules, and I’ve been hired to enforce them with no exceptions! case is closed!” … “I understand that this is an important issue for you. However, as your proposal is currently stated, it does not fit in the guidelines set by the Council. I am not asking you to agree with my position, but I do hope that you will respect it. ” Poor use (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Accommodate � … “Hey…I understand this is important to you. So, even though your proposal doesn’t exactly fit within BTEC’s guidelines, I’ll overlook it this time and recommend it for viewing. I know you are a good student. ” Effective use � … “I don’t want to seem unresponsive to your concerns but I don’t have authority to overturn the Council’s decision. So, what I suggest is that I put your issue on the agenda of the next meeting and invite you to attend Poor use (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Avoid � … “Look, this is obviously important for you. I know that you have a lot invested in it. Can we talk again tomorrow at 10 am? Meanwhile, I will be able to see your proposal better and maybe find additional options to it. ” Effective use � (over the phone) … “No, I don’t want to talk to him now. Tell him I’m not in. No…tell him I’m in a meeting and can’t be disturbed. I don’t care what you tell him…just get rid of him!” Poor use (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Compromise � … “I bet we can come to some agreement here. How about you getting me those free football tickets and I will try to slip right your proposal through the Student Council? They are a bunch of old-fashioned cronies anyway!” � … “The Student Council has set tight guidelines for these issues, but they are not unreasonable. If you would agree to revise Part A of your proposal to adhere to their guidelines, they may be think through your request in Part B. Would you consider that revision? ” Effective use Poor use (C) Krystle Attard 2012

Collaborating Poor use: …“How about calling together a series of meetings with the Student Council, and the lecturers. We’ll see if we can research this issue in depth, discuss it, and find a solution which all parties agree with. This process will only take about 6 -8 months. That’s not too long of a wait for you, is it? ” � Effective use: … “Since this is such an important issue both to you and the Student Council, I suggest that we sit down at a special meeting of the Council to try to better understand each others’ concerns. The sooner we reach a mutual decision, the better for everyone as many resources are involved here. � (C) Krystle Attard 2012