CREATING THE NOW ATTITUDE OUR ICEBERG IS MELTING

CREATING THE NOW ATTITUDE “OUR ICEBERG IS MELTING” MODEL Jim Messina, Ph. D. , CCMHC, NCC, DCMHS-T

Handling the Unexpected “Our Iceberg is Melting” model ■ Importance of sense of urgency ■ Ways to instill the sense of urgency in self ■ Obstacles of complacency within ourselves

“Our Iceberg Is Melting” A story about an iceberg colony whose future is uncertain

“Our Iceberg Is Melting” Fred finds problem and needs to instill sense of urgency

“Our Iceberg Is Melting” Fred needs to inform colony of potential problem and possible solutions

“Our Iceberg Is Melting” Fred seeks help of others to overcome complacency of the group

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The 80 -20 Principle in each one of us 20 % Doer Self vs. 80 % Non-doer Self (No. No) ■ Doer Self – Responsible for the survival of life – Must always face negative criticisms of non-doer self ■ Non-doer Self (No. No) – Complacent, comfortable & stubborn – Usually the ones to point the finger of blame first – “Why me? ”, “It’s not fair. ” or “It won’t work. ” ■ Need to move more yourself into the Doer

Major Obstacles of Personal Complacency ■ The absence of a major crisis ■ Too many visible resources ■ Low standards of personal performance ■ Personal structure that focuses self on narrow functional goals ■ Personal Internal measurements that focus on the wrong performance indexes

More Major Obstacles of Complacency ■ Lack of sufficient performance feedback from external sources ■ Kill the messenger culture ■ Human nature of denial ■ Too much happy talk from self

Instilling the Sense of Urgency ■ How do YOU put the wheel in motion? ■ How do YOU get the NOW attitude in yourself?

YOU MUST DISRUPT THE STATUS QUO MENTALITY WHICH IS PARALYZING YOUR MOTIVATION TO CHANGE!

How to disrupt the Status Quo ■ Create a Crisis for Self ■ Stop Yes…butting ■ Set your personal goals so high that they can not be met by present personal physical and emotional health practice ■ Increase your sense of personal responsibility for your overall physical and emotional health ■ Seek out more data about steps to take to improve your physical and emotional health

More on: How to disrupt Your Personal Status Quo ■ Insist on you confronting unsatisfied identified necessary steps to improve your physical and emotional health ■ Use the helpers who are advising you to help clarify the necessity for change to improve your overall health ■ Stop happy talk when not appropriate ■ Bombard yourself with information on future rewards & your current status disabling your pursuit of these opportunities

Do YOU Have What it Takes to Create the “NOW” Attitude ?

Eight Step Process to Successful Change by John Set the Stage Kotter 1. Create a sense of Personal Urgency to Change 2. Pull together the guiding team of outside helpers to help you gain your goals of change to improve your physical and emotional health Decide What to Do 3. Develop the change vision and strategy Make it Happen 4. Communicate for Understanding and Buy in from your helpers, family and friends 5. Empower your family and friends to call you on it if you are not moving forward 6. Produce short-term wins with attainable goals a little at a time 7. Don’t let up Make it Stick 8. Create a new personal lifestyle and culture in your home, workspace and community settings

Summary • Why is it important for YOU to have a sense of urgency in the face of change for your personal physical and emotional health? • What are the obstacles that can stop YOU in the process of change? • Do YOU understand the ways to instill the sense of urgency in yourself and your supportive family, friends and helpers?

References ■ John P. Kotter and Holger Rathgeber (2005). Our Iceberg is Melting: Changing and Suceeding Under Any Conditions. New York: St. Martin’s Press. ■ John P. Kotter (1996). Leading Change. Boston: Harvard Business School Press. ■ John P. Kotter and Dan S. Cohen (2002). The Heart of Change: Real-Life Stories of How People Change Their Organizations. Boston: Harvard Business School Press. ■ Our Iceberg is Melting website: http: //www. ouricebergismelting. com/