Consent Boundaries Communication Understanding and Preventing Sexual Violence
Consent, Boundaries & Communication Understanding and Preventing Sexual Violence Trigger warning: images and discussions of sexual violence
Sexual Violence • SEXUAL ASSAULT: any form of sexual contact/activity without voluntary consent. • Touching, grabbing, forced kissing, oral, anal or vaginal intercourse. • SEXUAL HARASSMENT: any communication that attacks another person’s sexuality, identity, safety. • Sex without consent is not sex. It is sexual assault.
Consent • A voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity. • Communicating YES on your own terms. • Look for enthusiasm!!!
The LAW 1. Consent for yourself, 2. Trust/Power cannot be used to obtain consent, 3. Implying “NO” = Saying “NO”, 4. Change your mind ANYTIME, 5. Awake, conscious, and sober enough. • Has to happen at each stage of the activity.
Age of Consent 12 Age of sexual partner 13 14 Age of teen 15 16 17 18 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 A 19 A 20 A 21+ A Sexual activity is LEGAL - "close in age" exemption applies ILLEGAL A = Anal Intercourse
TO SHARE, OR NOT TO SHARE? Stand up for an activity
Coercion • When you manipulate, bribe, threaten, or guilt some one into doing something
Boundaries • Individual – different for each person • Require self-awareness and self-esteem • Social – reflect values and beliefs • Guidelines for interactions with others • Personal, Social, Digital • What is acceptable or unacceptable behaviour • In every relationship • Change and Evolve • Short-term (eg. Mood) or • Long-term (eg. With experience or age) • Establish respect and Communicate
Statistics in Canada 6% of sexual assaults are reported to the police Only 2 -4% of all reported sexual assaults are false reports 15% of sexual assault victims are boys under 16 Half of all sexual offenders are married or in long term relationships 60% of sexual abuse/assault victims are under the age of 17 80% of sexual assault incidents occur at home 80% of assailants are friends and family of the victim Over 80% of sex crimes victims are women
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Wrap up 1. If you love me, you’ll have sex with me 2. I just want to show you how much I care 3. There are plenty of other women who would, you know 4. You are soooo beautiful I can’t help wanting you 5. Oh, come on, you know you want to 6. Why did you come back to my place if you didn’t expect to have sex? 7. Don’t you find me sexy? Don’t you want me? 8. After everything I did for you (dinner, foreplay), this is the least you can do for me 9. Trust me
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