Confronting In Scripture Restore Galatians 6 1 Instruct

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Confronting In Scripture • • Restore (Galatians 6: 1) Instruct (2 Timothy 2: 25)

Confronting In Scripture • • Restore (Galatians 6: 1) Instruct (2 Timothy 2: 25) Confront (Ezekiel 16: 2) Discipline (Proverbs 10: 17) Admonish (Colossians 3: 16) Warn (1 Thessalonians 5: 14) Correct 2 Timothy 4: 2) Rebuke (2 Timothy 4: 2) SYIS Workshop Confronting Well ? 1

Confronting In Scripture What can we learn about confronting well from these verses? (actions,

Confronting In Scripture What can we learn about confronting well from these verses? (actions, attitudes, outcomes) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Proverbs 12: 18 Proverbs 15: 1, 4 Proverbs 16: 21, 24 Proverbs 25: 15 Matthew 18: 15 SYIS Workshop 6. Galatians 6: 1 7. Ephesians 4: 15, 25 8. Proverbs 27: 5 -6 9. 1 Thessalonians 5: 14 10. 2 Timothy 2: 24, 25 Confronting Well ? 2

Who Needs This Skill? Being an effective … requires effective confronting. SYIS Workshop Confronting

Who Needs This Skill? Being an effective … requires effective confronting. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 3

Essentials For Confronting It takes … to confront well. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 4

Essentials For Confronting It takes … to confront well. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 4

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects you and/or others. (“I” statements) 3. Your desired outcome. (explore options) SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 5

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects you and/or others. (“I” statements) 3. Your desired outcome. (explore options) SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 6

“Observation” & “I” Statements “Observation” and “I” statements to lovingly confront the following situation…

“Observation” & “I” Statements “Observation” and “I” statements to lovingly confront the following situation… Situation: a family member has become increasingly defensive toward you and others. • “There seems to be an increased defensiveness in your responses to me and other people lately. ” • “I feel sad about that and also frustrated when we’re unable to talk openly about things. ” SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 7

“Observation” & “I” Statements “Observation” and “I” statements to lovingly confront the following situation…

“Observation” & “I” Statements “Observation” and “I” statements to lovingly confront the following situation… Situation: a co-worker is not following through with their part of a shared project. • “The last two submissions for your part of the project have not been completed. ” • “I’m concerned about the project and upset because the work is not being shared as we had previously agreed. ” SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 8

“Observation” & “I” Statements In groups, create “Observation” and “I” statements for the following

“Observation” & “I” Statements In groups, create “Observation” and “I” statements for the following situations… 1. You notice that a family member is struggling and becoming more distant. 2. A colleague is wounding others with their offensive words and attitudes. 3. Your friend’s health has been impacted by the excessive stress they are under. 4. A neighbor’s dog is making a mess of your garden. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 9

Practice Confronting - 1 Prep for practice: • • • In pairs. Think of

Practice Confronting - 1 Prep for practice: • • • In pairs. Think of a situation for practicing confronting in a peer relationship. Decide who will confront and who will be confronted. Practice the skills: • One person confronts the other. • Person being confronted receive it well. • Use three steps for effective confronting. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 10

Scenarios For Practice • You notice that a family member is struggling and becoming

Scenarios For Practice • You notice that a family member is struggling and becoming more distant. • A colleague is wounding others with their offensive words and attitudes. • Your friend’s health has been impacted by the excessive stress they are under. • A neighbor’s dog is making a mess of your garden. • The neighbor in the next flat is playing loud music late at night and you can’t sleep. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 11

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects

Confronting Well Clearly state … 1. What you observe. (behavior) 2. How it affects you and/or others. (“I” statements) 3. Your desired outcome. (explore options) SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 12

Practice Confronting - 2 Prep for practice: • Use the same situation from the

Practice Confronting - 2 Prep for practice: • Use the same situation from the last practice. • Maintain the same roles as in the first practice. Practice the skills: • Person being confronted, be defensive and resistant. • Person doing the confronting, use the skills listed on page 42. • Person being confronted, let go of resistance after a few minutes. • Use three steps for effective confronting. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 13

Reflect • Name one or two ways you want to become more effective in

Reflect • Name one or two ways you want to become more effective in confronting. • Write what you want to remember and apply on your “Snapshots” page. SYIS Workshop Confronting Well 14